Twice I have 'put a man in hospital' by standing up to him

Good for you
Deeds not words!

Hope you have some support (eg Union representation?) to help with work/ management
And

I had to stand up to some people several years ago who wreaked havoc in my life and those around me. If I ever hear that their health has diminished as a result of their actions, which lead to my actions, I'll be booking a brass band. If I had any fucks left to give OP I'd give you one, but you don't need any either. I say good for you, your conscience is clear.

If I may....fuck that for a game of soldiers. It's not exclusive to men, my grandma was able to make herself have a heart attack every time my mum decided to do something fun without her.

Shame on those who are trying to shame you for the consequences of those despicable men.

How different the world would be if every time a man was rightly accused of misogyny he had a stroke!

Bechdel Such a shame we can only make bad things happen. Loads of times in my life I’ve thought I’ve done something clever, or useful, or worthwhile, and it turns out that it was a man who did it all along. Men work their powers of good through evil women, and women work their powers of evil through good men. Proof indeed that women are more powerful beings than men.

I don't suppose you take requests do you, OP? It's just that there's an obnoxious neighbour of mine who is really getting on my tits.

Bechdel: it takes courage to stand up for yourself especially when those who are supposed to Love/care for you or who are otherwise in a position of authority over you range themselves against you. More power to you.

Cor, look at you with your super powers!! Felling men left, right and centre with your black magic 🤣🤣IF ONLY!
You are brave and strong. It takes guts in this world for a woman to stand up as you have done. Especially when you've been abused. Believe me, I know.
All power to you. (If only courage and a working moral compass really did give us super powers!)

you did not cause this!

Although what a superpower if you could... ;)

I was taught not to moan, because according to my mother, people don’t want to hear me moan. My mother was one who would use the threat of my dad to keep us in line. ‘You’ll bloody jump for it when your dad gets back.’ Then she’d seemingly forget about the offence for the rest of the day until dad got back, when she’d start up again, and dad would shout and scream and chase us upstairs and wallop us with whatever was to hand. He had a bit of a temper did my dad, and more than once, well more than 100 times he said he wanted to kill me. Once my mother told me that it was a good job I was a girl, or my dad would’ve beaten me up by now. So no, standing up for ourselves was never something we were encouraged to do.

My DS can be a gobby little shit at times but I never raise my hand to him, and I’ve never told him I want to kill him, and I encourage him to stand his ground while also considering his actions on others.

Every time I stand up to a man people act like the sky is falling.

I must admit to being bemused by people thinking it is not “normal” to standup for themselves where men are concerned. I was brought up to defend myself and stand up to anyone man woman young old who had done/said something unacceptable to me. Am I lucky to have been bought up in a family where self confidence was encouraged. I have spoken to my siblings/cousins about this and we all agree that we were raised to be confident in any situation with any person.

Well apparently it’s all my fault that my ex has become an alcoholic, despite him always being a problem drinker. It’s because I left him that he needed to consume 180 units of alcohol per week, and that he lost his job because of it, and that he ignored the symptoms of his existing eye condition and lost the sight in one eye, and that he’s now got serosis of the liver and neuropathy and can’t walk very well. That’s all my fault that is. He’s moved in a new (slave) partner, kept our house which me and DS had to flee because of his escalating abusive behaviour and aggression, and he’s got all the stuff we accrued throughout our marriage, but it’s not enough and it’s all my fault.

I must be one super badass witch of a woman to cause all that shit.

I'm not sad for them!

They put themselves in hospital.

Were possibly faking for sympathy and to try to get off the hook too (ah I see the second one was).

I have read many a thread on Mumsnet where the OP was being bullied by e.g. their mother or MIL, and it was often pointed out to them by other MNers that now they had stood up to their manipulative relative, that relative was likely to up the ante by having a health crisis. It was a known ploy (known to many MNers who had been in similar situations) of abusers to get the abused back under their thumb.

Presumably your first abuser 's stroke was confirmed? You still didn't cause it even if it was, fear of being held to account might have been involved but its tenuous. (Your mother's an arsehole, by the way.) Your second abuser "ended up in hospital that night" - oh, I do wonder.

Regardless, YOU, OP, put nobody in hospital.

And well done for standing your ground.

Is there room on your broom for a terf like me?

FYI according to
www.sheffield.ac.uk/hr/equality/focus/2.5491/protected
sex is a protected characteristic ie male & female according to the human rights etc

Oh yes AncientLights, I'm totally a witch

In the very best sense.

I put a man in hospital by discovering his sexual abuse of a vulnerable person and insisting it was properly investigated. He lost his job and his reputation and harmed himself in a fairly drastic way. I have no regrets whatsoever.

It is not the responsibility of women to protect abusive men from the consequences of their own actions.