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Pronouns - an invasion of privacy?

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abuseofpowercomesasnosurprise · 10/03/2019 08:51

I read on here a few days ago about one of the members at a meeting where everyone had to go around and declare their pronouns, despite the group consisting of 90% women. Isn't it a rather rude invasion of privacy ask this of people? A bit like asking someone they've just met to declare their sexual preferences, or their social class background, or their ethnicity, or perhaps more pertinently their mental health status? I object not least because it forces self-definition through gender ideology's own language, to suggests that women using default pronouns conform to and are happy with oppressive gender stereotypes, but because it's not anyone's business . Why should it matter to anyone else if I like wearing high heels and make-up or doing DIY, or even - shock horror - both?! It's bad enough when they ask for 'gender identity' on job application forms, but at least they're private. Isn't this violating some sort of code of conduct - in the workplace, for example? Isn't the point of equality and diversity policies to make issues like 'gender identity' irrelevant?

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McTufty · 10/03/2019 08:58

I don’t see it as an invasion of privacy more overkill. Most people use the pronouns they present as. Even with trans people who don’t pass, usually you would know what their pronouns are likely to be.

I accept there are non-binary people and some people who identify pronouns which aren’t the ones you would probably guess but to make everyone give their pronouns just in case is OTT. Someone should be made to feel comfortable to say when introducing themselves as part of the general introduction if they have particular pronouns but I think this is a bit unnecessary.

I don’t see it as an invasion of my privacy to say I am she/her - it’s bloody obvious.

howmanybiscuits · 10/03/2019 08:56

This is yet another way the transcult reinforces its ideology. Pronoun circles make young people announce and therefore cement their identities.

I look forward to these being consigned to history.

dudsville · 10/03/2019 08:55

I would find it odd that a group consisting mostly of women were made to say whether they identified as women. Did anyone refuse to take party on the charade?

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abuseofpowercomesasnosurprise · 10/03/2019 08:54

I agree! Something from one of those African language that has lots of tongue clicking in it.

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MillytantForceit · 10/03/2019 08:53

Would be tempted to insist on something exotic and unpronouncable just to take the piss, such as 'xcey' with a xhosa click in it.

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