Narcissists - it all about claiming the "win" ...
Narcissism its about supply, positive or negative.
Article worth reading for anyone who believes they may be dealing with a person (of either sex and any gender identity) demonstrating narcisstic control pattern behaviour:
'Narcissists, Narcissistic Supply And Sources of Supply'
(extract)
Question:
Could negative input serve as Narcissistic Supply (NS)?
Answer:
Yes, it can. NS includes all forms of attention - both positive and negative: fame, notoriety, adulation, fear, applause, approval. Whenever the narcissist gets attention, positive or negative, whenever he is in the "limelight", it constitutes NS. If he can manipulate people or influence them - positively or negatively - it qualifies as NS.
Even quarrelling with people and confronting them constitute NS. Perhaps not the conflict itself, but the narcissist's ability to influence other people, to make them feel the way he wants, to manipulate them, to make them do something or refrain from doing it - all count as forms of narcissistic supply." (continues)
www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/narcissists-narcissistic-supply-and-sources-of-supply