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Small feminist acts

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Jeanhatchet · 15/02/2019 09:41

Discussing this with a friend the other day. We don't all have the capacity/time/health/money to do big activism.

But feminist women help each other all the time in small ways. Tiny things can be feminist acts. Listening to a woman who is in pain . Bunging her a fiver when she can't feed her kids. Looking after her kids so she can go for a walk. Chucking money into a homeless woman's lap instead of a man's. Consciously finding out the woman to help.

Or choosing to read books by women not men.

Watch films with female leads and female focused themes.

Listen to music by women. Go to an art exhibition by a woman. If you can find one.

Retweet women not men. Read their articles. Post their articles not men's.

Reject conditioning. Try not to look at the women you encounter today and judge their weight, clothes, make up etc. We have been taught to be critical of each other by men and their media and their comments to and about us.

Instead flip your gaze as soon as you feel yourself conforming to that ... onto a man. Judge him. Does he look like a good man? Does he look like he treats women well or beats and rapes them? Or buys them for sex? You can't tell of course. But it moves the game away from women. It is a conscious feminist act not to play the game men have taught us.

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NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 12:37

My new sil is pregnant. I'm going to ask bil if he's going to go part time after the baby's born.

Femalecat52 · 15/02/2019 12:24

Agree. I think many things can count, like supporting female writers and artists. Also giving appreciative feedback when an organisation does something very female centred On a more personal level, supporting the women in my life, valuing the different female relationships including special days, like Mother’s Day. One of my favourite photos includes all the women in my family, grandmother, greatgrandmother, Aunts, niece, sisters and daughters. Not for everybody I know but for me it feels empowering to be all women together and connected through that maternal line, a part of family history too. Also at work we chose specific charities to support, so that the money raised would go somewhere we valued, including a charity that specifically supports girls to get an education.

Jeanhatchet · 15/02/2019 10:58

@Ringdonna

How so?

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Daughterofmabel · 15/02/2019 10:52

Great ideas Jean I sometimes feel overwhelmed with the seemingly unstopable trans train but if I can do some of these small acts then I dont feel so helpless

Ringdonna · 15/02/2019 10:43

What bollocks.

Jeanhatchet · 15/02/2019 10:11

@Sexnotgender

I like this too. Well done you

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NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 10:10

It was by a woman, I know that.

NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 10:09

I know!!!
Did you see this one?

I read a book once on dead women in art. Wish I could remember who it was by.

Sexnotgender · 15/02/2019 10:09

Not necessarily a feminist act but on a project I worked on I rewrote the code and renamed all the gender fields to ‘sex’ on the customer correspondence.

Jeanhatchet · 15/02/2019 10:05

@NeurotrashWarrior love this!

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NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 09:56

Listen to music by women. Go to an art exhibition by a woman. If you can find one.

I just started a thread on my latest discovery:

twitter.com/barbiereports/status/1067759847687507968?s=21

Small feminist acts
NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 09:54

Typing on the hop; it counts to me as I have two small boys. The cleaner is a man. I like this message.

NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 09:42

I have a male cleaner. Does that count? Grin

NeurotrashWarrior · 15/02/2019 09:42

Love this.

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