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"Shag, Marry or Behead" - 3 mobile

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Jeanhatchet · 14/02/2019 06:57

The 3 mobile network are laughing at domestic homicide in this tweet. In many of the women killed as a result of intimate partner violence blunt force trauma to or being stabbed in the head is a feature.

The most worrying thing is .... how did this marketing meeting go? What views were expressed about killing women? How that was funny and would sell more contracts and phones? Imagine those men who sanctioned this and how common their views are that it never registered as a marketing disaster?

twitter.com/threeuk/status/1095740892919541761?s=21

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ErrolTheDragon · 16/02/2019 18:13

Very good! You've marked their card, hopefully they will be less stupidly crass in future.

Oxytocindeficient · 16/02/2019 10:54

That is brilliant. Well done everyone and thanks to you Jean for informing us all.

Jeanhatchet · 16/02/2019 10:45

Turns out the Advertising Standards Agency cared about the ad and our complaints. Well done to those who reported.

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Ereshkigal · 15/02/2019 22:09

They are gaslighting you. And all women, falling back on the "it's just bantz, can't you take a joke?". Never fails.

lizzzyyliveson · 15/02/2019 21:55

How can referencing a real although historical woman being beheaded be lighthearted fun? I feel like I am being gaslighted. The bit of the advert that I saw that I reacted to was a huge sword slicing down through what must have been a melon or something. It was shocking to see while scrolling through my Twitter feed. It just proves that men have no understanding of the level of threat that women feel.

SonicVersusGynaephobia · 15/02/2019 17:08

Three's response and "apology" was predictably shit.

This tweet was removed earlier today. The ad was intended to be light hearted fun on Valentine's day. We don't believe it promotes violence against women - which we don't condone in any form. However, we're sorry for any offence caused.

zippey · 15/02/2019 13:48

I guess with Borat, you have a Jew playing a Muslim who hates Jews.

OlennasWimple · 14/02/2019 22:32

Aw, how hysterical, discussing whether someone looks hot enough to shag or marry or whether she is so ugly you should cut off her head! Ha ha ha ha ha!

Hmm
StrangeLookingParasite · 14/02/2019 21:48

Henry Viii would be judged a serial killer, as well as the murderer of his wives, by today's standards.

I seriously doubt that, given that it ignores a huge amount of information about every single aspect of the society of the time. Honestly, that's a real reach.
No, he wasn't remotely a nice person. Absolute monarchy plus monarch with an acquired brain injury isn't a good recipe. Knowledge of the politics of the time, and the absolute chaos of a realm without a clear leader would have been hanging over the entire society.
It's much, much too complex a situation to call H8 (for whom I have no particular love) a serial killer.

FloralBuntingIsObnoxious · 14/02/2019 21:21

Sometimes I think companies do this to garner controversy and extra publicity.

But this one just read "Hur hur, dead women, hur hur..." Beavis and Butthead style dick humour that was just trying to set an edgelord brand image. And even more contemptible for that, tbh.

It's one thing to say something you know is outrageous and unacceptable to generate clicks that you know you will pull eventually having raised your profile. It's quite another to just casually contribute to the general "Dead women, who gives a fuck?" culture.

TinselAngel · 14/02/2019 19:49

And his wife Catherine Howard was only 19 (or maybe 18) when she was executed on his orders. Ha fucking ha. Hilarious.

It's also thought she was a victim of sexual abuse, as she went to a boarding school where some men were given free range to roam the dormitories.

ErrolTheDragon · 14/02/2019 17:45

I struggle to imagine anything more preposterous and offensive.

Uh, how about imagining a musical written by the Nazis about Jewish people, for laughs?
Yes, of course everyone (I hope!) can surely see that would be completely unfunny, and why.

Jokes work when the butt is an equal or someone in a stronger position.

I still can't think of any examples of humour (black or otherwise) which really work in which the butt is weak and/or innocent.

JurgenKloppsCat · 14/02/2019 17:29

And in some cases, it can seem outrageous. As in my example, a musical written by a Jew about the Nazis, apparently for laughs. On the face of it, I struggle to imagine anything more preposterous and offensive. So all I was asking is, where is the line that people should not cross?

ErrolTheDragon · 14/02/2019 17:28

Yup. The Producers is funny because it's subversive- I can't imagine many neo-Nazis like it. The subtitled 'Downfall' clips likewise.

Oxytocindeficient · 14/02/2019 17:07

It’s not about what topics are off-limits at all. The issue is who or what is the target of the joke?

JurgenKloppsCat · 14/02/2019 17:06

How much money do corporations make out of bad publicity? These things happen fairly frequently in advertising. Sow accidental is the outrage they cause, and how profitable in the long term?

Re the black humour aspect. Mel Brooks said he was the first Jew to make a buck out of Hitler when he had a hit with The Producers. So when is humour off-limits?

MargueritaPink · 14/02/2019 14:41

I phoned to complain. I wonder how many other complaints they got.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 14/02/2019 14:37

And his wife Catherine Howard was only 19 (or maybe 18) when she was executed on his orders. Ha fucking ha. Hilarious.

Does it being 500 years ago mean that it is good grounds for a "joke"'for some people? What is the acceptable amount of time to elapse after womens' deaths to make it a source of amusement? Genuine question.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 14/02/2019 14:33

Henry Viii would be judged a serial killer, as well as the murderer of his wives, by today's standards.

I don't see anyone thinking "jokes" about Jack the Ripper or Fred West would be a great way to sell phones Hmm

Ereshkigal · 14/02/2019 14:19

Will they have a similar one about Edward II and the alleged poker on Grindr I wonder?

SnarkyGorgon · 14/02/2019 14:19

Not sure where that rogue comma came from but I stand by what I said. Cross posted with still who summed it up in a much better and more eloquent way

NothingOnTellyAgain · 14/02/2019 14:16

I feel really uncomfortable with the jolly lighthearted way Henry VIII beheading is dealt with, it's really odd.

DD doing it at the mo I said remember it's real women he had killed so not really a fun topic at all!

At4oclockthenormalworld · 14/02/2019 14:15

Snarky and Still between their posts have summed up WHY this is not funny. It's absolutely about control. We know that 2 women are murdered by their spouse/partner every week many involving head trauma and /or stabbing. Knowing this how anyone can say this ad is a just a joke is either deliberately being a goady fucker or unbelievably thick. Most of you are probably both.

Ereshkigal · 14/02/2019 14:08

This joke is lazy and not at all subversive. The man comes out on top still; he's the one in control, swiping the women, choosing their fate. Women face structural sexism - men do tend to come out on top and choose the fate (see the shocking number of rape cases that even get to trial for example).

If structural sexism had ended with the Tudors then it could have been a great historical joke. If the joke hinged on how being an abusive male makes you a pathetic unlovable twat maybe that could have saved it too.

This.

SnarkyGorgon · 14/02/2019 14:07

Ha ha ha, it’s so funny because Henry VIII had his wives beheaded and now, hundreds of years later men, use apps like Tinder to hook up with women and then kill them. Oh and many of those men seem to avoid prosecution by claiming she’d agreed to rough sex. Mega lols

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