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Families of trans kids/teens/adults

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Moominfan · 11/02/2019 20:44

Anyone in need of a support thread? I know I am. My sibling is f2m and it's devastating. They want to mutilate their body beyond recognition because they hate it and everyone else in the family is cheering them on. I'm the bad guy because I'm not supporting them how they want. Would love to hear from others and how they're coping. In real life I only know one mum who has an autistic daughter who's currently on puberty blockers, even though puberty has been and gone. Said it's making them really ill and is putting a brave face on.

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DodoPatrol · 12/02/2019 09:00

No family members myself. But I now have three good friends whose daughters are FtM. When the third one told me, she was taken aback that my reaction wasn't wholeheartedly positive. Apparently I was the first person to say -- take it cautiously, check what they're reading online, think about whether your (distressing) current family situation might be a factor, make sure you get proper advice. The school had gone straight to a state of 'Whoopee, our first transkid, get the pronouns and the register changed!' before even talking to the parents, from what she was saying.

BlessThisMess · 12/02/2019 08:41

My DD (14) says she thinks she should be a boy. This started less than a year ago. It's really upsetting.

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Moominfan · 12/02/2019 08:41

I have posted before. My sister came out a year ago and went to Nhs dr but they forgot to do the referral so has now gone private. Got her first appointment coming up. I was hoping that the time spent waiting she might discover herself more. She doesn't get out much or have many friends. Similar to your sister not gender conforming at all. She told she wants to be her true self but the irony of taking hormones and surgery is lost on her.

Funnily enough she also hates Mumsnet and ridicules feminism. Does your son speak to anyone else? My sister won't talk to me at all just my other siblings who think it's great

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jamrollyolly · 12/02/2019 08:34

It was a week before Christmas. He's on the spectrum. I want to tell him how ridiculous it all is but have to go very gently so I don't push him away. I said he hadn't convinced me he was a woman. ( but more tactfully) He acted like he really hated me for a while, couldn't be near me.

Still can't decided wether to bring it up to talk about it or leave it alone. Have to close mumsnet when he's around as he's very anti, wonder where he got that...?

TearingUpMyHeart · 12/02/2019 08:18

We might have chatted before. My sister, who has aspergers, has been going through this phase for a few years. Previously she was just gender non conforming, as a lot of women are - ie she was good at diy, had short hair, very practical, good at sport. Makes me sick.that her friends tell her these qualities make her a man. I thought we left those sexist tropes in the 70s.

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Moominfan · 12/02/2019 08:12

I feel like I'm in a black mirror episode. People seem to behave like it's a good thing. All I see is a perfectly healthy body that my sister has issues with. How much time has passed since he mentioned it?

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jamrollyolly · 11/02/2019 22:31

Hi Moominfan.

So sorry to hear you're going through this, my eldest son has told me his trans. He hasn't said anything else since he first mentioned it, so I'm hoping he might change his mind. It's still always on my mind and it's hard not being able to talk to people about it. 

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Moominfan · 11/02/2019 21:23

Bump anyone?

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