Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

Now it seems boys have a much greater sense of entitlement. And seem to think they should ALL be able to pull the best looking women. Like the incel types, and online dating, all the men irrespetive of their level of attractiveness think they are entitled to models and get angry when the really good looking women don't want them.

Plus she must also do anal, and like being choked, or whatever else he wants, because apparently her having a good time isn't important.

Is this what pissed some people off, the acknowledgement that young men's behavior and attitude has taken a turn for the far more grim than was the norm when most of us were young? Because I have friends in their 20s, and younger female relatives, and I have to say, what they report back about the men they encounter is not what I remember as being the norm at all. Something has changed, and it's not going to do us any good to pretend it hasn't.

Now it seems boys have a much greater sense of entitlement. And seem to think they should ALL be able to pull the best looking women. Like the incel types, and online dating, all the men irrespetive of their level of attractiveness think they are entitled to models and get angry when the really good looking women don't want them.
Which is due to being porn-sick

And when they do get a girl to go to bed with them, they expect to get what they want and the girls expects to have a bad time, all too often.
Again, due to porn.

You know the weirdest thing about porn for me? Nobody ever kisses. Now I'm pretty orally fixated (handy for a lesbian I guess) but I can't imagine having sex with anyone without kissing them.
Are teenage girls and boys not even having the snogging marathons that used to be par for the course anymore? That's sad.

Maybe the word gratitude hits the wrong note

lucky
?

I doubt it matter to be honest.

I don't think answers to the actual questions will be forthcoming.

And still no post saying NO to putin so there's that too.

Maybe we're meant to be grateful for all the lube that the article tells us is needed for any sort of sex? That's my best guess at this point.

Isnt that that advice from the article?

So, like, haven't most people had a moment where some new person takes their clothes off and your first thought is "thank you Jesus/Ceiling Cat/Aphrodite/Satan/whoever has been so kind as to grant me this amazing view, I will be sure to show my appreciation in as direct a manner as possible"? And apparently we aren't supposed to be grateful for lovers being lovely people either, so I'm not sure what we are allowed to appreciate in a sexual partner.

Brace yourself nothing

Well just the mad bits kittens.
A lot of it was good very good points were made

Most young women are attractive, aren't they?

I think they are

And I also think that back in the day, most young men were pretty happy to pull a girl, and generally vice versa also.

Now it seems boys have a much greater sense of entitlement. And seem to think they should ALL be able to pull the best looking women. Like the incel types, and online dating, all the men irrespetive of their level of attractiveness think they are entitled to models and get angry when the really good looking women don't want them.

Things have changed and it's not for the good.

And when they do get a girl to go to bed with them, they expect to get what they want and the girls expects to have a bad time, all too often. And if they read this article, they will understand that bleeding is normal, just try harder, be none the wiser about STDs or important of condoms as related to protection.

YES things have changed for sure.

Well, men do tend to fawn over very beautiful women, but that wasn't actually her point, which everyone else in the thread sees so I'm not sure why you don't.

My cat is running around screaming for no apparent reason, and somehow that still makes more sense than this bloody thread!

All the lols.
Still going on Elon 😂😂😂😉

You were the one who clearly associated gratefulness with attractiveness.
Have you never felt grateful for a brilliant shag? Is "lucky" a better word? I've felt lucky when I've pulled an attractive woman, and/or had a great time with her. Should I have felt entitled instead? Should I look for women I don't find attractive instead?
I don't understand.
What's wrong with being grateful?

Where did I say I was angry you were married to a lovely man ? Now who's making stuff up.

It's nothing to do with her being aware she is attractive, it's her saying in a discussion about the pressures young women are under (and most you women struggle with body image) that your appearance influences how grateful men are to get into your bed.

I have managed to have a discussion about this without telling everyone men find me very attractive.

I'm a little confused about how this thread turned into a grudgematch against Nothing for being aware that she's attractive and not being ashamed to admit it. Some people can start an argument in an empty room, I suppose.

Hahaha own it

Haha now you got to own haha

I know litl it's a bit mad isn't it!

And you are the chosen one for some reason 😉😉

You were the one who clearly associated gratefulness with attractiveness. Own it and stop trying to bully me by saying others don't appear see any issue with it.

No need for justification nothing
Elon just derailing for some reason

Just to be clear
Is this a fair summary of your stance

You see no issue with an article aimed at a young demographic that is (your words) sex education

and has no mention of

consent
stds
condom use apart from in context of making it easier

and says bleeding is normal

?

Would be grateful for a straight answer.

"My husband still looks awestruck that he gets to see me with my clothes off."

You keep misquoting.

My husband tells me that he can't believe how lucky he is, a lot.
He does look quite awestruck when I get my kit off [grin[
This is good,isn't it? How a relationship should be.
In turn, I am sometimes aghast that I pulled him, and tell him so.
Maybe not for everyone, but it suits us.

You assertion that I said that men in general are awestruck by me is a LIE.
You see, you keep doing that.
People can see it and they don't like it.
That is why the majority of people on this thread are posting in oppostition to what you are writing.

It's true.

I was attractive.

How they responded to me and treated me is not something I had control over.

That's how it was.

I had a good time. They did too.

I certainly did not say I was so atractive men's eyes would pop out. I was pretty. Not beautiful. Not gorgeous.

Why has this upset you so much?

Why does it anger you that I am grateful to be married to a lovely man?
Why does it anger you that when I was young, men were often grateful to be in my bed?

Lots of others understadn perfectly well what I meant.

I think maybe you have some hang ups.

By all means track down some men and tell them off for feeling lucky when they pull a pretty girl who takes them home for sex.

Dont' tell me off for honestly reporting my epxeriences.

Which were NOT all positive, by any means.

Oh whatever stupid phone.

Do be your even...