Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

"all women should sleep with men who feel grateful about them, not just the attractive ones
If that's your actual point, I agree with you."

I disagree

You don't owe a man sex just cos he's nice to you / tells you that he's mad about you and etc

If that's what is meant

You should only sleep with people you want to sleep with

And beauty is in the eye of the beholder

But when she said she was grateful that the men she shagged were nice you didn't like that either...

Nothing it was you who implied they treated you differently back in the day because you were very attractive. So what are you saying that actually men were just as bad back then, it was just you had no experience of it because you were insulated by your hotness. Or something. Do you know that they treated your ugly chums differently ? Perhaps they were grateful because they were nice men and nice men are repsectful to their sexual partners, including making them feel attractive.

Why does anyone attempt anal sex when we women have a passage that is designed for sex, especially when we feel desire and secrete?
Lots of me wouldn't even like to do it when they consider what comes out of there.

It's horrible.

I have heard of women who really enjoy it - well if I banged my head against a wall several times a day I might begin to enjoy it but that is hardly normal.

It gets to me that so many youngsters do it nowadays because they've seen it on porn videos, How degrading can you get.

I'd add that it would also be a good idea to ask young women what they're experiencing in terms of how their male peers treat them. Works better than just assuming nothing has changed.

Warning them that sex can be dangerous of course, and that you don't have to do it, the same as all articles about sex need to forewarn.

Ah the olden days, here was me thinking the sexual revolution was a thing, but infact it wasnt. Or something. And there was no revolution and it had nothing to do with contraception and anyone who thinks there was is mental..am I catching on ?

all women should sleep with men who feel grateful about them, not just the attractive ones
If that's your actual point, I agree with you.

You need to ask young men who they feel and how they treat young women, elon

If looks are important to them
If they treat women and girls differently depending on how they look
Find the results
Take it from there

Women are not to blame for mens behaviour

The context is that young women are being pressurised by unrealistic societal expectations. Many young women struggle with body image and self worth. This is well known. In this context, saying your sexual partners are grateful if you are attractive is not helpful.
Pretending that being unattractive is the same as being attractive isn't going to do anyone any favours.
Many young women struggle with relationships, boundaries and consent issues. Many young women have manipulative older boyfriends. Many young women feel pressurised into trying out sex acts that are portrayed inaccurately in porn. This is more of an issue than pretending body issues can be magicked away by saying everyone is equally attractive and prospective sexual partners won't pick someone more attractive over you (because it isn't true!)
Self worth shouldn't be tied to attractiveness, that is true. Even unattractive people need love and sex, and by and large they can find it. There are beautiful women who never find love, and there are ugly women in loving relationships.
Let's not pretend that people don't have preferences! I only appeal to a small percentage of women. Of those women, they like me enough, and that's fine. But 99% of women won't find me attractive at all. That's just life!

Are we talking about the smiths tshirts and dms and tight black jeans that the boys in my circles wore, back in the day? What should the warning say?

"May be a mopey git, bring taxi money in case you get tired of listening to him moan."

Errrr not quite Flying what I saying is that all women should sleep with men who feel grateful about them, not just the attractive ones. Again rather obvious I would have thought.

So, when I was at that stage where you're randy but not old enough to really be having sex yet I went through a stage of reading smutty novels. These would have been written in the 70s or earlier, given my age.

The people who wrote them knew about oral, and that people can do lovely things to each other with their hands. I suspect some of the unmarried authors may not have been virgins.

Also what have clothes got to do with attractiveness?

if a person is good lucky and / or well built, you can see that whatever they are wearing.

Very confused now.

Are we talking about the smiths tshirts and dms and tight black jeans that the boys in my circles wore, back in the day? What should the warning say?

I am REALLY CONFUSED.

Who else is confused Y/N

I don't have to worry about this stuff, because my daughter is beautiful like me and men actually do fawn over her. They will be grateful to get in her keks because she is really pretty. However there friend is not so much to look at, so she won't be held in as high esteem and and the guys won't be as grateful I assume. This is well known after all.

Warning them of what, elon?

That also MAKES NO SENSE.

You are just typing random stuff.

What do you want warnings on going out clothes to warn about,exactly?

Since we are having a laugh at each others expense, maybe we can lobby the govt. to put those warning photos like they do on cigarette packets, on clothes you might wear on the pull, or to titillate your partner ?

Oh, sorry, didn't realize we'd all jumped over to SheWasAskingForIt.com

OLDEN DAYS PEOPLE KNEW ABOUT ORAL ETC

If that's what you mean

YOU seem to strongly equate "sex" with PIV
This is detrimental to women and grils - read standard feminist critique

The fact that there was no contraception did not mean that people didn't have sex unless they wanted a baby.
What on earth.

People being grateful if their sexual partners are attractive remains true regardless of how unhelpful it may be.

Since we are having a laugh at each others expense, maybe we can lobby the govt. to put those warning photos like they do on cigarette packets, on clothes you might wear on the pull, or to titillate your partner ?

"By previous generations I'm talking about before contraception. There is no question that me and I suspect all women on here have had many more sexual partners than their ancestors from 70 odd years ago. You said you put it about yourself Nothing I assumed you had PIV, mistake."

What does this mean?

What does it mean?????????

It doesn't relate to any of the actual content of the previous posts.
It doesn't make sense.

Can anyone help?

Y/N

Nobody tell Elon what some men do with pre-worn women's knickers...

On another note, I don't think I've ever known a woman who could go a week without washing her hands. Sounds like an excellent way to catch the Norovirus.

So if we take this to it's logical conclusion, boys treat girls awfully in bed because the boys are not grateful. The boys shouldn't be grateful according to Elon because that's shallow and bad.
Neither party is affected by the ubiquity of hardcore anal pornography, or course.
There is no difference in sexual behaviour due to porn.
Middle aged women shouldn't get their knickers in a twist.
There are a few sexual heros earlier in the thread who have let us know how much they like anal. I'm very grateful they have told us this.

Am I up to date?

"Sorry, DH, I must never keep a photo of you on my desk at work again lest I be considered insufficiently serious by people who don't think it's not necessary to warn young people that rectal bleeding is generally a sign of potential injury"

Boys and men certainly do go nuts over beautiful women, I didn't say they werent fussed what I said or meant was that they don't idolise them the way women do men. They find them sexy but they don't not wash their hands for a week after touching them etc etc.

By previous generations I'm talking about before contraception. There is no question that me and I suspect all women on here have had many more sexual partners than their ancestors from 70 odd years ago. You said you put it about yourself Nothing I assumed you had PIV, mistake.

Flying

The context is that young women are being pressurised by unrealistic societal expectations. Many young women struggle with body image and self worth. This is well known. In this context, saying your sexual partners are grateful if you are attractive is not helpful.

I'm going to put the cat amongst the pigeons now

A couple of times I managed to pull men who were very good looking
I was really quite pleased with myself

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