Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

Nothing 'creepy' about consensual sex whatsoever. As for 'what they think the experience was like for their former partners'...after 7 years with someone you kinda get an idea of what they enjoy ya know...

i did, yes.

I'd really rather not hear all about some random's sex life, much less about what they think the experience was like for their former partners. Let people speak for themselves if they want to, speaking for them is creepy.

have you namechanged between posting.

Oh, are we namechanging now? I never got the memo.

I always had the rule that if a man wanted anal sex with me I want to do it to him first with a dildo. Funny that they always refused....

Me too. I've also had conversations about anal sex with non sexual partners (good male friends).

In my hypothetical scenario, I've always stated the man should be on the receiving end of a dildo the size of his penis. Oh, the faces of horror that have been pulled!

Gives a new meaning to 'shouldn't dish it out if you can't take it'...

"If one woman liked it then all women should be expected to like it, and therefore must be taught how. Those are the manrules."

Who said that? Not me that's for sure.

Also "You do realize that not all women are the same right? We are not identical dolls." - Yes I do realise that. I just don't understand why some of these responses suggest that it is awful in any circumstances when plenty of women actually enjoy it. Btw, it wasn't just the one ex gf who liked it.

If one woman liked it then all women should be expected to like it, and therefore must be taught how. Those are the manrules.

You do realize that not all women are the same right? We are not identical dolls.

I don't understand the topic. My ex gf used to love anal sex and had stronger orgasms as a result of it probably than with vaginal sex.

Someone asked for feedback from older women about the prevalence of anal sex in "the old days!". I'm early 60s and never had a boyfriend suggest it and neither did my wide circle of female friends, back then.

There must be surveys on sexual habits over several decades to compare then with now. But my very strong impression is that it's much more common now, normalised by porn. We were also proud of of our pubes and decorated them with flowers! The only shaving was to achieve a heart shape.

I also suspect porn is responsible for the now common use of lube during vaginal sex, since women in porn are "always ready and gagging for it" and in any case going to be violently penetrated ready or not, so young people now, having been brought up on hardcore porn, don't realize it can take time for women to become aroused enough for enjoyable penetration.

Slap on the lube...and the job's done.

Just my tuppence worth

It's almost comical really, how self absorbed men are. At least until it results in women and girls being hurt because those men are so focused on what makes their penis happy that they forget that their sexual partners are people.

Some people enjoy all kinds of things that the majority don't. Writing aimed at young people should not tilt towards framing minority preferences as the norm and concerns about the results of said preferences as something to be brushed off.

At the risk of TMI, it has with me. Definitely not common, though.

Me too, on the rare occasion.

But every single one of those men said the sex finished when they had an orgasm.

All of them.

How many women could say the same? (And then, when asked, wrack their brains trying to remember whether or not the man had).

Some women do enjoy anal sex though (speaking as a lesbian woman who likes to experiment with lesbian DP).
But obviously you should be aware of the risks and not feel pressured into doing it.

It's just not something that ever get switched around, is it? Get a man to give you an orgasm and then say great thanks. Night.

At the risk of TMI, it has with me. Definitely not common, though.

*However as a nurse with 20 plus years the number of men/women i have met who are faecally incontinent due to anal sex is enormous.

I dont see that info being relayed to vulnerable young girls/ women in these articles.*

And i dont see it being brought up on threads by concern trolls who are often happy to berate others about what their weight/smoking/drinking is costing the NHS

Same with the infections that are a risk due to pubic hair removal.

It's just all about the men isn't it.

I'm not easily shocked (or so I like to think) but that article mentions that anal can lead to bowel perforation. That's the sack that holds your bodily waste inside you, bursting. Anal sex can lead to that. Colostomy bags and all.

I can't remember. R0 will tell me at some point no doubt.

It's just not something that ever get switched around, is it? Get a man to give you an orgasm and then say great thanks. Night.

Datun that thing about the reporter, genius.

That is male entitlement, right there.

Just thought i’d share a piece of Pootz.

What channel was that on Datun?

Re the enjoying it

The recent ish full picture of clitoris internally explained a lot.

It wraps around inside

Probably not in the exact same way for each woman

So that g spot stuff, remember that? Down to on some women it's stimulating the clit from inside

I'm happy to believe some women enjoy anal

Prob can stimulate clit + sensitive area

Liking a bit of action in that area but much smaller than a penis isn't uncommon

So I am happy to believe some women genuinely like it and some can orgasm

However

That's totally irrelevant to the objections to the article

No mention std
Bleeding fine and normal
No mention consent
Only mention condoms briefly and not in protection context

The PP stuff about injury / damage, that is NEVER mentioned, in any article I have seen

Who was that broadcaster going around asking men whether or not the last person they had sex with had an orgasm? And the answers ranged from I'm not sure, I think so, probably, to, I have no idea.

So her next question was well in that case how do you know when it was finished?

And to a man they said when I came.

Can you imagine the reaction if that was just switched round?

So would you dance for an oligarch? No, not that either. And definitely not for Putin.

(Can't get the mental image of him shirtless on horseback out of my head. Trying too hard is so offputting.)

I thought slut drop was a dance move, I also thought your arse was for shitting with, so I may be wrong.