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Being investigated at work

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Milliepede · 30/01/2019 16:37

I know this isn't a FWR issue as such, but it is pertinent to the trans debate.
There was an article a couple of months ago in the Daily Mail about a transwoman complaining about the NHS not providing electolysis; I was discussing this article with a colleague and I said something along the lines of that it wasn't fair to other hirsute women if they weren't allowed to have electolysis on the NHS.
It seems that someone overheard the conversation and reported me to my bosses. An informal investigation, "a fact finding chat", has taken place and I am currently waiting to see if this is going to be takem further. FFS.
If it is taken further then I am going to defend myself with all I've got; I am prepared to die on this hill.

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Florasnotin · 31/01/2019 16:59

Solidarity OP.

I recently dealt with a young girl in a professional capacity who wanted a breast symmetrisation procedure. She is 21, has one A cup breast and one G cup breast. She is suffering from depression, anxiety, extremely low self esteem, has never had a relationship. She was turned down for surgery as it wasn't deemed clinically necessary.

The fact that the CCG would refuse funding for this poor girl yet a man can have a fake vagina put in and a free boob job is disgusting.

WSPU · 31/01/2019 16:54

Just ridiculous. Solidarity from me too.

RiverTam · 31/01/2019 16:30

Solidarity, Millipede.

rosablue · 31/01/2019 14:54

Is there any way you could also turn it around on whoever reported you for being transphobic because as po have said, what they have assumed is that you were being transphobic but actually if (for the sake of the complaint!) you meant that you were refering to all women (and that you had assumed that included transwomen ) then they were the ones that were making the hateful assumption not you...

Guessing that has a better chance of success than accusing them of being hateful to women or something along those lines...

But they were definitely wrong for snitching on you for complaining about that. It would serve them right to experience the same treatment that you have had for this - I reckon too many people are happy enough to through out unjustified accusations because they know that they won’t have to suffer any consequences, whereas actually they deserve much more.

ErrolTheDragon · 31/01/2019 13:44

I sincerely hope no one working in the health service seriously believes TWAW.

Essentially, it seems to me you were saying it was unfair that an identical treatment, cosmetic rather than medically essential, but therapeutic in that it alleviates psychological distress, should only be available free to males but not females. Simple sexism.

MsMcWoodle · 31/01/2019 13:38

Good god. This is insane.
Solidarity.

RCohle · 31/01/2019 00:14

I'm angry on your behalf OP, this is madness.

Italiangreyhound · 31/01/2019 00:02

I wonder if your colleague has read anything about the cultural revolution in China!

RaininSummer · 30/01/2019 23:53

What a ridiculous thing to be hauled over the coals for. It is bloody unfair. I hope you are OK OP.

AnduinsGirl · 30/01/2019 23:46

Supportive arm round shoulder.
What absolute nonsense this all is.

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Milliepede · 30/01/2019 23:42

@ Lichtie. Yes I am openly GC and I do link GC articles BUT I only frame my point as we all do, with respect and compassion for those poor souls that are suffering GD and take such extreme measures to alleviate their distress. I also mention proper studies when I am discussing the issue. I dont use threats, insults or any derogatory language. Perhaps they heard me say that I didnt agree with TWAW, that's the only thing that could have been even remotely "contoversial".

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Lichtie · 30/01/2019 20:58

OP did you not already have a post last month about being in trouble for posting stuff on Facebook negative about your work? Sure you said you were openly GC on your Facebook... Strange they didn't investigate it then if that's their attitude.

AnneHutchinson · 30/01/2019 20:48

Well, clearly those reporting and investigating don't think TW are women, if theyr'e investigating your opinion that it's unfair some women receive paid electolysis and some don't.

I could say, couldn't I, that It would be unfair if some women received paid dermal fillers and some didn't?

How is the OP's comment different?

It's only different in the ear of the listener or the mouth of the interregator if they themselves believe one of the comparators "women" in the sentence is not the same as the other.

zzzzz · 30/01/2019 20:41

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BigChocFrenzy · 30/01/2019 20:38

So sorry you have this hanging over you 💐

but furious too: that is bloody ridiculous and you are being bullied

Is this idiotic snitch service just in the UK public sector ?
Too reminiscent of how dictatorships work

I've worked only for large tech firms in the Uk & Germany since the mid-1980s and I've never found this ridiculous snitching
You would have to genuinely say something hateful about transwomen, or people of colour etc in any place I worked, to be reported.
No digging down deep into ways of being offended

SisterWendyBuckett · 30/01/2019 20:24

Am so sorry this utter crap has invaded your life

Just what the hell is going on right now - it's like a collective madness has descended.

seazer · 30/01/2019 20:19

Well if hr have time for this crap then they can't be that busy.

HalloumiGus · 30/01/2019 20:19

Disgusted and outraged for you

OhHolyJesus · 30/01/2019 20:14

Also sending support, what a load of nonsense. Stand firm, we are still allowed free speech in this country. Just about! Hope it blows over quickly, sorry you're going through this.

Stardustinmyeyes · 30/01/2019 20:05

This is disgraceful.

DisrespectfulAdultFemale · 30/01/2019 19:49

OP, you have my sympathy. What a load of bollocks.

RepealTheGRA · 30/01/2019 19:47

WTAF

tubspreciousthings · 30/01/2019 19:42

Solidarity. This is fucking ridiculous.

NameChanger22 · 30/01/2019 19:04

They'll be sending the police round next. Women aren't allowed to have opinions in the workplace.

Oxytocindeficient · 30/01/2019 19:00

This is absolutely ridiculous.

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