I was helped tremendously by a Christian apologist some years ago now. I don't agree with him on a number of issues, and our politics and approach to much, probably including whether gender is innate, because he's more conservative than I am.
But he is chock full of integrity, and does lots of debates, primarily religious theology topics. He takes time to completely understand the views of the people he disagrees with, because he knows that if you go into a discussion without understanding exactly what your opponent believes, and why they believe it, you will look and be a fool.
That approach is as rare as hens teeth nowadays. There's a reason all sorts of things get linked here, be they kiwifarms or the DM, or articles written by transactivists. It's because a large proportion of the women here are invested in finding out about things as the actually are, and why people believe things and what motivates them from all sides, and talking about the consequences of those things and beliefs.