Children with mother’s surname?

My children have my name. We were married. I didn't change my name. DD1 has given GC her name (her dp's name is middle name) Several friends have given their DCs the mother's name. XH's "new" children have his DW's name (like to think I set the precedent there!)

I know very few people with double barrelled names - and the ones I do know it's the father's double barrelled name (ie not a mix of DM and DF). TBH, don't think it works into adulthood.

Wasn’t a ‘pathetic little dig’ just a question. I kept the family name as the name would die out in my generation (in our branch of the family anyway). Obviously it came from my dads side and not mums.

Mine do. I offered their dad the option on one of them but he declined.

I didn't change my name on marriage, but the DCs have their fathers name - mainly because double-barrelling would produce something rather risible. He was more bothered about it than I was, and both names are a bit 'meh' individually, so there was no compelling reason not to go with his preference.

But if we had not been married, then they would definitely have had my surname.

My dd has my surname! But her father isn’t on the birth certificate he walked out when I was pregnant so it was an easy decision. If i had another child they would always have my name! Would be happy to change mine and dds if I got married though

My DC has my surname. I was married when he was born.
I've always liked my surname and wanted to pass it on. XH wasn't that bothered.
I don't know anyone else who has done this (double-barrelled or hers if they weren't married, yes but not a DC with only mothers surname when parents were married).

Where did you get your surname from then?

From my mother.

This pathetic little dig means nothing. Just that in the past names have generally come from fathers. The fact that it used to happen does not mean it should continue.

DD has OH's surname(we're not married) as her name would sound very wrong with mine. Just like when we will get married i will keep my surname as his would sound very wrong with my name. Rightly or wrongly that was the only rationale behind it.

Both my children have mines but it's double barrelled with my partners.

Wish it was just mines because he comes and goes as he pleases.

I would never have allowed it to be just his name. His family believe it's his and I have the most pleasure in telling them it most definitely is not 🙂

cassie I dread to think, I didn't dare. He was screaming at me in the house when we discussed it, so I backed down.

We did it like that. Mother‘s surename and dad‘s faith (that Catholics don‘t allow female priests had always vexed me, anyway.)

noruon = notion

In my country ALL children have their mother's surname. They don't always have their father's. Most children have a first name and their mother's surname followed by their father's surname. The noruon of a child not having her mother's surname is very weird to me even though i know it's how it usually works in many countries.

I'm married and changed my name and dc have my married name. But if I hadn't been married when I had dc I would definitely have given them my name.

My dc's have XP's surname. He wouldn't let me use mine alone or double barrel it.

Dd has my name, ds has dh's. Fair's fair and all that.

I'm happy with our choice. However, people do assume my husband is MrAwrite and are surprised to learn otherwise.

Dd is a teen and had said she will never change her name.

Something ds will probably never have to think about.

My mum told me once that that used to be what happened in days of old if the mother was unmarried unless the father was prepared to accept the child as his (in the days when wives and children were the property of men). It’s a relatively modern tradition of couples giving their children the father’s name when they’re unmarried as it’s relatively modern for couples to be unmarried. I don’t know how true that is though.

I really wish I'd given child my surname, she has mine as an extra middle name. We're separated and I try not to regret, he was a massive arse about it and many other things. I wouldn't change my name if I married but it's pretty unlikely I ever will.

Where did you get your surname from then?
It had been part of my identity for 30 odd years. I was going to surrender it simply because I got married.

Where did you get your surname from then?

My parents gave me mine.

Dd1 is 31 and dd2 22. It has never caused them any confusion.

I'm married.
DC have my surname and DH's surname as an extra middle name.
When we discussed surnames DH said "well they need to take someone's surname and there's no reason mine is more important than yours".

His parents didn't talk to him for a year because of that decision. They still refuse to use the children's surname.

We have no regrets.

LordProf My surname has been mine for nearly 40 years. I'm very fond of it. I don't know why it matters that it's my father's surname as well - it's mine. I'm as important as he is.