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Is it really all that bad?

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Notevenmyrealname · 20/12/2018 18:14

I was having a conversation today with a friend who works in HR and is very clued up on the law and equality issues and he was saying that most of the scare stories about transgender stuff are a storm in a teacup. Realistically nobody is going to allow a small group of militant trans activists to remove women’s rights. All the updated GRA will do will allow people who need it a slightly less hassle way to change their gender officially and as it affects such a small number of people (supposedly 1% of the population) it’s really not going to have a massive impact on the vast majority of people. There are no plans to change the Equality Act of 2010, so sex will still be a protected category.
I’ve been trying to read up on lots of stuff over the last month or so and, I have to be honest, really scared myself - particularly reading all the BS spouted by Mermaids. The thought that those people are let loose in schools peddling their pseudoscience to teachers is awful, but again my friend thinks the stuff that gets reported in newspapers is always the worst of the worst as they just want clicks on their pages and I shouldn’t get myself wound up.
I’m actually going to give myself a break from all this over the next few weeks as it’s really getting to me but I was wondering if anyone else thought maybe things won’t be as bad as all the worst case scenarios that are discussed on these boards?
I’m still very much of the belief that gender identity and biological sex are separate things and I think if something could be put in law that makes that distinction clear, surely everything would be fine. Stupid ideology like the crap pushed by Mermaids and the like will be found out eventually and it’s just because they’re riding the wave with the GRA consultation having happened so recently. Teachers are regularly updated on safeguarding and the secrecy aspect would only apply if they thought the child was in actual danger (he gave the example of an extremely religious family who might try taking their child abroad to marry them off or worse, they were from a culture that commit “honour” killings).
Please reassure me that these worst case scenarios are unlikely to happen, or is my friend actually oblivious to very real dangers if these changes go through?

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Notevenmyrealname · 21/12/2018 20:00

Would your clued up friend in HR mind if his 11 year old daughter was exposed to the penis of a 'self certified female' in a 'women's' communal changing room?
Obviously he wouldn’t. As I said, I genuinely don’t think he has thought about stuff like this as a serious threat as he has dismissed the TRAs who are advocating TWAW as crazy fringe activists and believes common sense will prevail as it has in many other cases. He didn’t totally dismiss what I said out of hand - if he was that patronising, I wouldn’t be going around referring to him as a friend. It was an equal and friendly conversation and I’ve cherrypicked a few comments that he made for the purposes of this thread. I think he might go away and read up on Mermaids as he didn’t really know about them.

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starcrossedseahorse · 21/12/2018 17:59

Aaaarggggh - sorry. Jess Bradley and HER shenis. Hmm

starcrossedseahorse · 21/12/2018 17:59

Is old Jess Bradley and his shenis a police matter? It seems that flashing your cock if you are a TW is just fine and dandy.

frazzled1 · 21/12/2018 17:50

Would your clued up friend in HR mind if his 11 year old daughter was exposed to the penis of a 'self certified female' in a 'women's' communal changing room? The same penis which if exposed to her at the bus stop would presumably still be a police matter? (Not necessarily the penis of a TW btw, any old self certified ladycock will do) Hmm

ProfessoressWoland · 21/12/2018 17:44

Diagnosed by whom?

And how? Medical professionals are being pressured to adopt the affirmative approach. Kathleen Stock wrote about this recently.

Since July, the Government have been publicising a Stonewall-approved major initiative against ‘conversion therapy’. What seems to have been missed is that, according to the definition of conversion therapy endorsed by Stonewall and others, every single therapist working in the area of gender identity is likely to count as engaging in the very practice which the Government is supposedly keen to outlaw.

EJennings · 21/12/2018 17:31

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lassupthebrew · 21/12/2018 17:30

The sports qualifications for trans women are a joke. They are not remotely fair. And potentially dangerous in some sports.

If they were attempting to find a fair way to allow trans women to compete as women the bare minimum would be far beyond what happens now. Arguably there may be no fair minimum and safety should always be the driving factor. If there is any risk of harm - exclude.

But the starting point otherwise still should very obviously have been a handicap system in the same way as happens with pros and amateurs competing. The disparity is at least as great

So your start point is to minimise the trans woman advantage by taking extensive measures across a series of factors which all individually are going to give an edge. Testosterone levels is only one of several. You would also have to measure lung capacity v Female norm, muscle mass, etc. Whatever sports medics say would give an advantage you score against. Combine them all into a built in handicap they must start under.

As a long term post GRS transsexual myself I would not have expected anything less than this as the starting point of any discussion. Yet we are not anywhere near that.

Indeed the testosterone levels are so ludicrous they are many times higher than what most TS who have had GRS routinely achieve. It is about 20 times my own level of T, let alone any actual women's levels. Pretty obviously that alone shows this as nonsense and pretty obviously there is no fairness at all for women here.

This seems to have been done to allow in self ID women like so much else that is going on today - everything is being treated as it must be demedicalised and just validate what someone thinks.

You cannot think yourself into fair competition in sport. Physiology matters considerably in most instances.

This whole thing needs pushing as far as possible as it would be a travesty to see the hard work of girls and women trivialised by someone with clear biological advantages easily destroying years of hard work. Must not be allowed to happen.

I am pretty sure most transsexuals would be right behind you on this as we are not asking for common sense to be replaced by dangerous stupidity in order to placate those who think fair competition can be achieved by thinking you are a woman.

AspieAndProud · 21/12/2018 17:18

There is insufficient clarification within the EA which as a result creates a discrepancy between the protected characteristic of sex and the protected characteristic of gender reassignment.

Can anyone tell me what the act actually protects? I understood that it would protect people’s rights in the sense nobody could deny you work or services simply for being transgender. In other words if someone came out trans they couldn’t be sacked or refused service in a restaurant or be subjected to harassment on the grounds of being transgender. This would be a reasonable interpretation.

However, I don’t see how this is being extended to treating transwomen as women.

We aren’t saying Karen White shouldn’t be in a woman’s proson because they are transgender; we are saying they shouldn’t be in a woman’s prison because they are actually biologically male.

We aren’t asking for a particularly cruel punishment because they identify as a woman; we are asking for them to be treated like any other male rapist.

Imissgmichael · 21/12/2018 14:31

That’s an interesting idea Givenup and has given me something to think about.

givenupcaring · 21/12/2018 14:19

sorry - previous post should have read

What is of course neglected from these arguments is that if a biological FEMALE in professional sport was found to have elevated testosterone she would be required medically to have that reduce before being allowed to compete.

givenupcaring · 21/12/2018 14:18

The point is penis = male and all that entails surely? Nit picking over a pair of bollocks seems a bit silly to me.

The point is that most of not all of these idiots are using the argument that a penis makes no difference whilst missing the key point thats its the influence of the male hormones since puberty that are the problem and the impact these hormones have had ie build, strength, aggression etc..

The argument is not about genitals themselves and thats what they dont seem to get. Even removing the testosterone whilst it will reduce strength and aggression it wont change the overall build.

What is of course neglected from these arguments is that if a biological male in professional sport was found to have elevated testosterone she would be required medically to have that reduce before being allowed to compete.

givenupcaring · 21/12/2018 14:06

The EA doesn’t need to be changed because the provisions to protect sex as a class are being ignored and people like your friend either haven’t noticed or don’t care.

I respectfully disagree.

There is insufficient clarification within the EA which as a result creates a discrepancy between the protected characteristic of sex and the protected characteristic of gender reassignment. As I said earlier the best thing in my opinion would be to add one word in to section 7 to clarify that the transsexual people being referred to were medically diagnosed and not self identified. Lets make it "DIAGNOSED transsexual".

I know many will still disagree but at least 99% of the TG umbrella is out (the non medicalised self identifiers).

starcrossedseahorse · 21/12/2018 14:05

The point is penis = male and all that entails surely? Nit picking over a pair of bollocks seems a bit silly to me.

givenupcaring · 21/12/2018 14:03

There's still no "fairness" about it - being born male means your body develops in ways that give you a massive advantage over women even if you have your bits removed.

I wasnt arguing otherwise, merely commonting on the laughable inaccuracy of the original statement that was biologically incorrect!

VickyEadie · 21/12/2018 13:56

n fairness the presence of a penis makes no difference its your testosterone producing testicles that area the problem :-) So by all means keep the penis but kiss your balls goodbye !

There's still no "fairness" about it - being born male means your body develops in ways that give you a massive advantage over women even if you have your bits removed.

Do you seriously reckon that if Novak Djokovic had his bits off he wouldn't still smash Sererna Williams?

Imissgmichael · 21/12/2018 13:53

The EA doesn’t need to be changed because the provisions to protect sex as a class are being ignored and people like your friend either haven’t noticed or don’t care.

givenupcaring · 21/12/2018 13:45

What effect does the presence or absence of a penis have on one's tennis serve?"

In fairness the presence of a penis makes no difference its your testosterone producing testicles that area the problem :-) So by all means keep the penis but kiss your balls goodbye !

VickyEadie · 21/12/2018 13:30

Meanwhile, during the past 48 hours one of the greatest female athletes ever - Martina Navratilova - has been bullied on Twitter by a TRA who competes against women and argues that transwomen shouldn't even need to reduce their T levels to do so. This for the crime of expressing the opinion that such cmpetition was unfair to women.

Amongst the comments on a thread discussin this were: one accusing Martina of a "hate" tweet and one asking "What effect does the presence or absence of a penis have on one's tennis serve?"

Just let that sink in: "What effect does the presence or absence of a penis have on one's tennis serve?"

These people are serious about this. Brushing this off as 'not a problem' is somewhat naive...

Notevenmyrealname · 21/12/2018 12:33

You're talking about this bloke who is normally a fair-minded individual, and wondering why he isn't able to see what should become apparent after a bit of reading about this issue.
This is it. He has dismissed activists as just another fringe group of crazies in the same way he would any other. I was concerned that my lack of exposure to the real world of late had made me attach a greater level of importance to them than was warranted. I think though having been reassured by posters on here that it’s more the other way round. The activists are reliant on people being wrapped up in their own lives in order to get a lot of this stuff under the radar. That, and the fact that the only publications complaining about it seem to be papers such as the DM and people like the famous liberal feminist, Piers Morgan. I’ve seen a few tweets along the lines of “Aligning yourself with that person? Doesn’t that tell you something?” or “Criticising a charity that helps vulnerable young people and their families? I bet you’d have been in favour of section 28. Bigot.” They’re reliant on the polarisation of every news topic at the moment to get people on their side. Most of their supporters probably aren’t “woke” SJWs, they’re just people like my friend who haven’t thought about it enough. Working in HR, it is a fairly female dominated area so he works with a lot of women but seemingly, they haven’t really thought about it much either as he didn’t mention any of his colleagues getting upset about it. Maybe there’s a tendency to become blasé about these things when you’re dealing with them every day.

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DadJoke · 21/12/2018 12:09

To some extent, this is a fight over who is most oppressed. The fundamental issue is that if you acknowledge that transwomen are women, then they are oppressed for being women, as well as oppressed for being trans.

If you don't, then it's a bunch of men pretending to be women shoe-horning themselves into women's spaces. If you follow this line of reasoning, then it's these women who are being oppressed.

I can't think of any historical analogy at all.

The idea that a redistribution of rights is OK because it only affects a small number of people is very dangerous, and the GRA was vague on gender and sex - a wedge. So I agree with you when you say:

I’m still very much of the belief that gender identity and biological sex are separate things and I think if something could be put in law that makes that distinction clear, surely everything would be fine.

I'm not sure "fine" is quite the right word, but there needs to be a clear delineation in law between the two, with sex-based rights ring fenced. Most of people here want to fight the losing battle that "trans women are men," whereas fighting for sex-based rights does not require this.

The most dangerous (and wrong) TRA arguments, used as a wedge, are that sex is a spectrum, sex is as much a social construct as gender, and from that it follows that a transwoman should have the exactly the same access to protected areas and resources devoted to biologically female persons. This does a side-run around the Equality Act.

If you are a radfem, this is identical to saying "men are demanding access to women's areas."

It seems that most organisations are taking the view that transwomen are women to the extent that they are overruling or dismissing the right to sex segregation, and while the EA2010 allows necessary and proportion sex segretation, that's open to interpretation, and I think I know which way it will go in a court case.

My views are deeply unpopular here, so I'm not sure how much help this it.

TallulahWaitingInTheRain · 21/12/2018 11:56

NABMALT

starcrossedseahorse · 21/12/2018 11:48

Yuck - he looks like JOB.

FloralBunting · 21/12/2018 11:45

The trouble is that, for whatever reason, your friend is effectively doing what the guy in this photo is doing, and a lot of people still are. It's useful to ask yourself if someone ignoring a problem and minimizing your concerns is actually a reason to change your mind about the facts in front of you.

Is it really all that bad?
nauticant · 21/12/2018 11:22

In other news I was also very amused by the lecture about our pogonophobia.

nauticant · 21/12/2018 11:20

I think I can see where you're coming from Notevenmyrealname. You're talking about this bloke who is normally a fair-minded individual, and wondering why he isn't able to see what should become apparent after a bit of reading about this issue. I expect you're thinking that it would be good to get people like this bloke onside to gender critical thinking and wondering why it's not so easy.