Would you still cut your long hair short if your Husband/partner said NO!

Long hair is for girls. Real women emerge from a hair cut

What the actual fuck?! 😂 😂 😂

It's your hair to do as you please. Personally I think the style in the photograph is absolutely horrible. It looks fine on someone who is made up with perfect make up but otherwise is just a bit boring. It will need far more maintenance than long hair.
I always regretted cutting my hair.

If you want to do it then go for it! I don't think there's anything wrong with your OH giving his honest opinion if you've asked for it, but the way he phrased it was rude and unnecessary IMO. Nobody can tell you what to do with your own hair. My OH has told me he likes my hair long, it's his honest opinion, and I do take it in to consideration because I want him to find me attractive, plus I'd look awful with short hair (I don't have the bone structure for it!). But I have it cut slightly shorter than what he'd probably prefer, because I like it this length. If he wanted to do a drastic style that I found unattractive I'd be honest with him (because I don't like the thought of secretly harbouring feelings about not finding it attractive, same as I'd want him to be honest if he was unattracted to something i did to myself) BUT i wouldn't tell him he can't do it.

I did. My B infinitely prefers long hair on me but it's currently cropped and likely to stay so. But he isn't an arse about it anymore than I'm an arse about the fact I'd like him to try a beard and he won't 😂

Actually op I think you need to strongly think about that hair cut. It's very drastic and it will require a shit ton of upkeep. I'm very surprised a hair dresser who knows you, and knows you don't have the time /will to do your hair, woild suggest something so high maintenance.

You'll need to coloured every four weeks and probably trimmed at the same time and if you don't like it, growing it out will be a ball ache.

I'd really not focus on your husband or your cousin. I'd simply think if I wanted to go that high maintenance.

My dh hates my hair short

It's tough tits cos its much easier short

Everyone Remembers me and i get loads of compliments

I’ve never spend so much time ‘doing’ my hair as when it was short-it’s a bloody pain. Longer hair is so easy because it can be tied back, yet can be worn down when you want it. Short hair dyed white will cost a fortune in cuts and dye as well; I wonder if that’s why your hairdresser friend was so persuasive!

I totally get why your DH feels strongly about this-I would want to be consulted if he grew a beard or massively changed his hair. There’s no need for anyone to be horrible though.

With small children it is easier to tie back. Short hair is high maintenance. Go for it if you want but be prepared to grow it back when you get fed up with the upkeep.

Mine is a long pixie. I told DH I was thinking about cutting it (had had bra-strap length hair before) and asked if he thought it would suit me, and he said (kindly) that he didn't think it would. But I thought it would so I got it cut - I loved it on day 1, hated it on days 3, 4 and 5, and then loved it after that. So DH got a lot of ear-bending about how awful it was for a while, which I could tell he secretly agreed with, and then we suddenly both got used to it. Having said that, when I went back for a trim he said don't get it too short!

Long story short: he said he didn't think it was a good idea, but I did it anyway because my opinion of my looks trumps his.

oops. I've realised I've entirely missed the point of the OP.

Would I let my husband decide what I did with my hair?

No.

But I would ask his opinion and I would take it into consideration, then I'd go ahead and do what I wanted, irrespective. Sometimes it IS what he's suggested, sometimes it's exactly the opposite. And it doesn't make a blind bit of difference to him or me, nobody sulks and nobody gets nasty.

“ To thine own self be true”
I’ve no idea who I’m quoting, but it’s a map to happiness.

Do you actually want such a drastic change?

It sounds like it would be quite a shock to the system, and you don't sound like you've done anything that extreme with your hair before. What will the upkeep be like compared to what you have now? If it's bleached, you'll be colouring it every few weeks, plus a super short, pixie cut needs restyling every 6 weeks or so to look sharp. Are you prepared for the time and cost involved? Can you afford it?

I don't blame you for wanting a style that is easier to look after, but I'm not sure a bleached crop is going to deliver that.

My husband has very strong feelings about my hair. I do find this really strange.

Not a strange and upsetting as men who are really invested in their little girls have long hair. That one creeps me right out. DH loves that DD has chosen her haircut, coincidentally the shortest in her class (of the girls). Interestingly, now DD has had it for a couple of years, other little girls are showing up with shorter hair. Viva la revolución.

My DP prefers me with longer (Bob) length hair, as that was how it was when we met and he doesn’t ‘do’ change.

However, I regularly have unauthorised crops, change the colour (bright red, purple, black with blonde or blue streaks!) He generally makes some quip and then admits that it suits me, but he prefers it in a bob. Which of course I know, but it’s my hair, so fuck it.

The most male attention I ever got was when I had a very short crop in my 20s. Certainly didn’t hold me back.

I think there is a trope of the Middle Aged woman getting a short ‘funky’ crop as it’s easy with kids to look after. I think the reason men don’t like short hair is because it’s usually women who don’t give a shit what men like who get it cut! It’s like a big Fuck You to all their Barbie doll fantasies. although of course my Barbie was given an action man haircut

FWIW I’m hoping we might get married at some point in the next couple of years, so I’m leaving my hair to grow longer for now, as I know he’d like it if I look more traditional for that. If it becomes obvious that’s not happening I may well go for the chop again - will save that Michelle Williams photo

I think I'd cut it even shorter and dye it tangerine. Who the hell does he think he is!

Oops sorry to jsmith. I meant @jsmith99

My husband has very strong feelings about my hair. It is surprising how strong they are, even as he admits that he can only make requests not demands. He wants me to keep it long so badly that he gladly agrees to ridiculous sums from our household budget being used for coloring and haircuts. He also covers parenting responsibilities to free up time for me to spend hours at the salon. I’m not even doing exactly what he would prefer with my hair, but since I stopped just keeping it tied back all the time he is thrilled.

@jsmith - there is no comparison, getting a tattoo changes you forever, hair can be regrown

I would seriously consider his views, just as I would expect him to seriously consider my views if he wanted to alter his appearance in a way I dislike, eg getting a tattoo.

I read an article a couple of years ago by India Knight in the Sunday Times and she mused that women mostly had long hair now whether or not it suited them, all women regardless of their job or age and she wondered why - what had happened to all the cool girl styles. And she believed it was due to the influence of porn on society, that we are all being inculcated, even if we don’t watch it, to look like porn stars.

It got me thinking and I had long hair but I loved short hair - I cut it this summer and adore it. My DH might have said oh no if I told him before going to the hairdresser but I didn’t. Also, he didn’t ask could he get a beard!!! And he loves it, as does everyone else, so many compliments. And it is just wash and go - and always looks fab.

Yes, would do, have done

I cut mine short a few years ago too. It is higher maintenance than long hair and needs cutting more often. It was a giant pain in the arse to grow back out too. I have long hair again now

I'd never ask and DH knows better than to express an opinion beyond "your hair looks nice". It's your hair, not his. And hair grows.

It sounds like it was the way he objected rather than the objection itself. I have very very short hair (shorter than Katy Perry), it is white blond (this takes some upkeep!) I am 45 and always told I look younger. People comment on my funky hair all the time and despite having it this way for 20 years, it always feels fresh and exciting. And, I'm not a lesbian or mumsy - in fact, men love my hair.

However... your husband is entitled to an opinion on how you look. It is a part of attraction. It is up to you if you think you should make choices based on his needs, your needs or come to a compromise.

It sounds like your current style is very typical of women in your age group. Long hair, blond highlights and petite frame are a "look" and your husband might have a bot of a trophy wife thing going on. A wife who is funky and a bit alternative or different looking will reflect on him in ways he doesn't like. That feels a bit worrisome to me.

I wouldnt like it if my husband came home with a skinhead so i suppose he would have a right to say something if i was going to do something radical to my hair?

Having said that if i wanted to do it, i would anyway