Would you still cut your long hair short if your Husband/partner said NO!

I have cut my hair radically short before. I suspect OH at the time wasn’t overwhelmed but he honestly said do whatever you like it’s your hair.
If it’s not a permanent body modification (e.g tattoo) or painful (piercing) or surgery... I see absolutely no reason to do anything other than mention it to DH and then do whatever the hell you like. It will grow back! He will get used to it. I’m suuuure at some point he will do something with his hair/ beard/ clothing style that you aren’t a huge fan of. You can be supportive without something being your favourite!

I also don't think uou should do it to spite him and make a point. Do it if you really want it, but the upkeep will be way more than you do now. Don't kid yourself.

Don't do it just to make a point OP. But do it if you want to! Hair grows back, if you decide you didn't like it in the end I personally don't think it's a biggie

I think going for a radical cut is a bad idea, it feels you are doing it because your cousin tells you (it was not your idea)and to "rebel" against your husband

Just do it for you, not for (or against) them

Personally I think extreme pixie cuts look awful 90% of the time

Cheers for the fattist comments. You know what, there is no specific right hairstyle for fat people. you do understand we are all different, right?

The comments on upkeep are a little misleading actually. I go to the barber every 6 weeks and pay just £12 for a good cut. Then I bleach it myself (which is easy when your hair is so short) and I top up the bleach monthly.

In terms of daily style, I wash and condition it and run a little coconut oil through it. That's it.

There is no faffing at all. And even if the roots are showing it isn't a problem - it looks fine because there isn't a clear parting.

I once told DH I fancied cutting my hair short, he said he loved my long hair. It didn’t dissuade me. I cut it short.....I looked like a boy

Awful that your DH turned nasty, it is your hair. Have it how you want. Although be warned, it is a lot easier to tie hair back than have to style short hair every day.

Probably.

I had cropped hair for most of my life and the first 10 years of our relationship and every now and then he asks me when I'm going to cut it short again! I will at some time, though at the moment I think having it long looks better. But I think the time will come for cropped again, though I'd like to do something funky and asymmetric in between.

In answer to the OP: Screw. That. MY hair, MY body, MY choice. But I agree that you should consider the motivations of your hairdresser and the horrible tone your DH used. I would not tolerate anyone speaking to me like that.

I have almost waist-length hair (and I am a middle-aged mum, partly lazy and partly rebelling against the stereotype of short hair on older women). It gets cut twice a year purely so I can fit it under my swim cap. I've always been low maintenance in terms of hairdressers - have never been able to stand the chit chat or justify the cost. Some years ago I had the lot dyed deep mermaid green, just for fun and well before it was fashionable. Someone asked my DH why he had let me do that. He just laughed and said "Why on earth do you think I should - or could - stop her?". Tbf he also gives that response when people find out I swim outdoors through winter, spend hours in the dojo or run at night

These days I am going white disgracefully after a few months tussling with the idea of having to do maintenance and concluding that I'm far too lazy. It does get washed a lot due to sports but really doesn't take long to dry. I couldn't stand the upkeep for short hair.

My DH prefers my hair long. It was short when we met and I’ve gone long to short and long again over the years we’ve been together. When it’s short, I straighten it and it’s very groomed. When it’s long, it’s thick and curly and wild because it takes too long to arse about blow drying and styling. Its very long at the moment but I’m pregnant and I will be getting the chop at some point before the post-natal moulting starts!

I keep it long because I know he likes it and it’s no skin off my nose but when it becomes inconvenient to me I cut it. It’s my hair and he’d never expect me to have it long just for him, just like I’d never expect him to shave his beard or change his hairstyle for me.

If you genuinely fancy a change then go for it, it will grow back!

I wouldnt like it if my husband came home with a skinhead so i suppose he would have a right to say something if i was going to do something radical to my hair?

^This

It sounds a bit like you're getting railroaded into this haircut by your hairdresser because it's something SHE fancies! The whole feminist issue of whether or not your dh gets a say is an interesting debate but in your particular case it's a bit of a red herring.

Do you really want that haircut? Do you think Katy Perry looks better with a crop than with long hair? I have to confess I think very short hair is very ageing for women!

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Speaking from experience I used to have hair down to my butt, my DB favourite style, but I had enough never did anything with it anymore and told him I was cutting it, he wasn't very happy but also understood it was pointless having long hair that I never wear down, so I cut it just below my shoulders and always have it down now with a big of a curl to make it a bit shorter....

I wouldn't allow him to shave his head so I think it depends how you look at it, if you would happily let your DH do what ever he wants to his face/hair then he should do the same.

What about a long bob?

It isn’t your husband’s decision. But it also sounds as though you’re only considering cutting it to stop your cousin from thinking you’re boring- what do you want to do with it? Short, dramatically coloured hair is way harder to look after than long natural coloured.

And btw, could people piss off with their comments about little girls and porn stars? My hair reaches past my waist, and I’m still a fully paid up adult human female radical feminist. Dr Hardon called, he wants his crappy patronising stereotypes back.

Yes I would still cut my hair if I wanted to and my DP said he wasn't keen, because it's my hair. But he wouldn't say that. I wouldn't be especially happy about your DH's response.

You sound like you're being talked into it by your cousin/stylist though. I think she just fancies doing a radical cut and colour on you because it's fun for her, plus she'll get the upkeep money as an extra.

If DH told me not to cut my hair I would still do it. It's my body so it's my choice. My DH would also know better.

I’d take his opinion into consideration, but if I was dead set on it, I’d still do it. If it’s terrible, it’ll always grow back. That’s the good thing about hair 😉

My partner wouldn't dare, I don't think. It's my hair, beyond saying a haircut is good or bad after the fact, he has no say in the matter of what I choose to do with it!

A partner/husband can have an opinion, of course, but if he's being nasty about it, there's more to it, imo. And more to do with him than you.

Shortly after we split up my ex H advised me that if I wanted to meet another man I'd have to grow my hair

Soon after I met DP and he loves my hair just as it is and is also of the opinion that it's my hair so my decision.

Did you point out that one day you will be a middle-aged Mum, and ask what's he going to do then ?

I would be worried about the fact that he phrased it as how he wanted or did not want his wife to look. That is the possessive - my wife.

I think commenting on whether he thinks it would suit you would be fine, people do that all the time, you can take it or leave it, just an opinion.

But the possessive ‘I don’t want my wife to look like...’ shows where he thinks the power lies. I think that is the upsetting part, not his opinion on the haircut which has received mixed views on here too.