Man as the centre of his own kingdom

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FloralBunting · 14/12/2018 19:18

I've been mulling this one for a while, watching the behaviour of men in a group of women online and in reality.

There's a certain type of man who is very keen to be holding court. It doesn't seem to register with him what others are making of his behaviour. He's the kind of man who honestly believes that if he has the last word, he can sit back, fold his arms and feel like a conquering king.

The misogyny is as plain as day, but I'm wondering what the psychology is. Do men like this really think everyone is looking at them in awe? Or is the kick just in the ability to shout down?

And how do you, as a woman, deal with the mini kings holding court?

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Womantheonlykind · 15/12/2018 00:09

Yeah laugh and ignore in that order, it's a game and games are no fun when the other person won't play. The rage is fairly instantaneous.

Sarahjconnor · 14/12/2018 22:07

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BlindYeo · 14/12/2018 21:35

I think the kick is just in the ability to shout them down, like you suggest. It's control. Power. Very rewarding for some. Why are some people like this and not others? Combination of personality and testosterone but that's just my opinion. One can see future offenders in the classroom.

It's an alien psychology to me because I am more motivated to make people like me than to force them to submit to my verbal bollocks down the pub. I do that on Mumsnet instead

WrathofbubonicKlop · 14/12/2018 20:00

And how do you, as a woman, deal with the mini kings holding court
I only really noticed this as I got older.
I can't unsee it now, so I have to disengage.

WrathofbubonicKlop · 14/12/2018 19:44

Holding court yes, in real life, I see many young women are so eager and keen to ask him anything. I notice this in sports coaching.
The archetype skiing instructor.

R0wantrees · 14/12/2018 19:29

There's a lot of well-established evidence about the differences in man and women's language patterns in spoken conversations.
Its interesting to observe similarly obvious differences on forums such as this.
I'm sure there's a lot of scope on this board and other social media platforms for a phd or two!

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FloralBunting · 14/12/2018 19:26

Online, yep. I think it's the only way.

In RL, it depends where they are. At work it can be more difficult.

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HestiaParthenos · 14/12/2018 19:20

And how do you, as a woman, deal with the mini kings holding court?

By not attending, I think.

If you can't avoid such a man, ignore him.

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