Anyone got an idea how I can confront this issue with my husband? He is a bastion of male white privilege, but gets upset if I mention it.
He was on the transvestites are my friends thing. He works in the arts and has done for years, so most people aren't very conforming.
He and I have had to agree to disagree on many things but he was slowly climbing the hill. He agrees that he wouldn't want a penis in the changing room or toilet with his mum or daughter.
Both his brother and I are staunch lefties. I was talking to him about the fact I had cut my Labour card up because of the Labour's treatment of women. He hadn't heard of Lily Madigan but said it was fine for a Trans person to be a Women's Officer, and then asked if she had already had the op?
DH has asked me not to talk to his brother about this issue anymore as its very sensitive. DBIL has a male friend who wants to come out as trans but has a wife and children.
Now I am not happy about being told what I can and can't talk about but have agreed that I will just keep the peace.
I said that it was probably awful for the mans wife and that how can he think he is a woman unless he believes in souls? DH is not religious and is very wary of religion. DH said that the man can't help his compulsion and how he feels being trans is just like how a gay person or a paedophile feels-it's a compulsion they can't help
At this point I told him we shouldn't talk anymore and we are both working from home in separate rooms.
I am upset and gobsmaked and don't know what to think anymore. I am not articulate or intelligent enough to have the argument with him but I need to. Any basic pointers would be appreciated.