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Exited prostituted women

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rebeccamott · 22/11/2018 16:47

I have decided to join Mumsnet - though I have no children. I am exited prostituted woman, who did indoors and now I am Abolitionist.
I am interested in the long-term future, over 2/3 years, in setting a meeting or conference which will foreground the multiple voices of exited women. It would lovely to set up a team of women who are interested in this.
I have been fighting for abolition, and for greater understanding of the impact of trauma on the prostituted, for almost 15 years through my blog and giving talks. I also have many international contacts with Abolitionist groups and other exited women.

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FermatsTheorem · 22/11/2018 17:59

BTW, for anyone who's not familiar with it, here is a New Stateman article on the Invisible Men Project, with a link to the actual project itself:
www.newstatesman.com/helen-lewis/2013/05/what-do-you-think-about-his-choice-uncovering-men-who-visit-prostitutes

FermatsTheorem · 22/11/2018 17:56

That is why we should focus on the punters and their entitlement, not the individual prostituted person.

Absolutely. That's why I found the "Invisible Men Project" so powerful. So often pro-prostitution types cast everything in terms of the vanishingly rare "Belle du Jour" type and pretend they're all about defending women's rights to make free choices. They never look at the economic background to those "choices", or at the behaviour and choices of the pimps and punters.

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rebeccamott · 22/11/2018 17:50

Even if a woman works independently, she will have her human broken as a common event. For no man who makes the choice to consume the prostituted have an interest in her safety or whether she can give full consent to whatever he demands. That is why we should focus on the punters and their entitlement, not the individual prostituted person.

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hdh747 · 22/11/2018 17:21

Good to meet you Rebecca.

Rachelover40 · 22/11/2018 17:13

Oh honestly I'm not being rude, I was joking. I just couldn't resist. Please take no notice Rebecca, no offence meant.

Rebecca I've read your blog. Quite interesting. I know a bit about prostitution but wasn't aware a prostitute did not have full human rights if they work independently.

LavenderBush · 22/11/2018 17:08

God, Rachel, even I could work that one out.

Welcome to Mumsnet, rebeccamott.

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rebeccamott · 22/11/2018 17:01

I am exited from the sex trade, I did indoors prostitution including girlfriend experience, escorting, working in clubs etc. I am now exposing the conditions in order to get full human rights for the prostituted.

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FermatsTheorem · 22/11/2018 16:59

rebecca good to "meet" you, and I shall be following this thread with interest, as I know there are a lot of posters on MN FWR who have a lot of experience both of having exited prostitution and related areas themselves, or of working with and providing support for marginalised women including women in prostitution.

AdorableMisfit · 22/11/2018 16:58

Rachel - I think it's exited as in exit, i.e. someone who's left prostitution?

BigotedWoman · 22/11/2018 16:57

Rachel I think it's exited as in she has exited prostitution.

Welcome OP.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 22/11/2018 16:57

Rachelover40, how rude are you?

NoseringGirl · 22/11/2018 16:56

Welcome to MN. Sounds like you're channeling your own traumatic experiences into something productive to help other women. Wishing you all the best with your work!

nails2018 · 22/11/2018 16:53

Welcome Smile

Rachelover40 · 22/11/2018 16:52

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