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How do you deal with PMT as a feminist?

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RagingWhoreBag · 14/11/2018 23:43

I’ve always flat out denied that I suffer with PMT, as I honestly haven’t ever felt that it was a big deal for me. Perhaps a little more tearful or irritated thank usual, but nothing that I would admit to.

Potentially ex “D”P has a nasty habit of calling me out on it when I get pissed off about something during the “time of the month” and it gives me the fucking rage, which then proves his point that I’m over reacting.

How do you, as a feminist, accept your biology without buying into the bullshit that women are emotionally unstable (and therefore historically disadvantaged and dismissed)?

I’m trying hard to find the balance between accepting that perhaps I’m a little more forthright at certain times (as we all are when hungry, tired etc) but that I’m not a raving lunatic who doesn’t know what she’s doing/saying.

Have women bought into the notion of PMT despite it doing them no favours in the eyes of men society?

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UpstartCrow · 14/11/2018 23:54

How do you think he would deal with PMT?

IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 14/11/2018 23:53

Of course it doesn’t make you weak. If anything it makes you stronger cos you have to put up with it every frikking month.

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RagingWhoreBag · 14/11/2018 23:52

Yes, I actually used the word gaslighting when talking about how I felt, but of course he denies that and then gets cross that I’m using ‘self-help’ language. Angry

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RagingWhoreBag · 14/11/2018 23:50

Thanks upstart, that makes sense. Agree totally. I think I’ve just got to the point where I feel like I can’t admit to it as it’s seen as a weakness and therefore whatever I’m cross about is irrelevant. I’ve tried to say that it makes me less tolerant rather than completely irrational. I’ve been reading articles about PMT as a social construct but I know it’s difficult to sell that idea, but I feel like I need to present it in a way that doesn’t make me weak. I guess what I really need is a DP who isn’t a sexist dick.

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IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 14/11/2018 23:50

IMO PMT doesn’t make you less stable. It just makes you more emotionally aware. It’s only others that like to frame it as irrational and gaslight you into thinking you yourself are.

I never understand why we tend to feel more sympathy for the husband putting up with the woman who has PMT rather than the woman who has it.

UpstartCrow · 14/11/2018 23:47

I dont really understand the angst. PMT exists, in the same way that depression or post partum psychosis exist.
They are caused by hormonal flushes. We have to find a way to manage them; to my mind being dickish about someone 'being on the rag' is the problem, not the hormone flush itself.

'Equality' means being treated with equal respect, not as a lesser. think 'equal respect in respect of our differences.'
It doesnt mean pretending we are all identical.