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Why a woman catcalling a man is not the same as a man catcalling a woman?

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VMisaMarshmallow · 18/10/2018 22:49

Because apparently minelials don’t get it.

It’s gross when women slap a man’s butt or woolfwhistle or make comments on a guys body. But it’s not the same.

I’ve explained that sexual violence is men in women not women on men, I’ve explained class oppression, I’ve explained how a man walking home when a woman propositions him isn’t scared, or if he is it’s not because he’s a man. It’s not sinking in so help me with wording please, or links to (simple) articles?

Thanks. Not disputing that some women sexually abuse/harass males at times but that a woman say nice package doesn’t contain the threat that a man commenting similar does to us. I pointed out the equivilant to colour blindness also. If you think I’m wrong I’m happy to listen to that explanation also.

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MagicMix · 18/10/2018 22:58

Because men are physically stronger than women on average and gendered sexual violence is endemic in our society.

A man catcalling a woman, even if he would never consciously think of it in those terms, always has an undercurrent of real threat. There's a real power imbalance in the dynamic.

Women are not in the position to make those kind of threats to men.

To be fair it sounds like you've already explained it fine. You can't force them to understand if they don't want to.

By the way I'm a millennial (30) and it's not hard to understand so I doubt this is a generational issue.

starzig · 18/10/2018 22:58

Are you drunk OP?

FermatsTheorem · 18/10/2018 22:57

Agree OP. Women cat calling men is unpleasant, but there is no threat of violence to follow implicit in it the way there is when men do it to women.

"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."

Gileswithachainsaw · 18/10/2018 22:54

No I kinda agree tbh.

Although I do not condone that kind if behaviour at all. Whatever way round it is.

Women as a rule are not a threat to men. The comments don't often come with having your exit blocked off or turning nasty if you aren't grateful for the attention.

However I obviously think it's unnecessary disgusting behaviour full stop

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