I came across the whole trans/feminism thing a few years ago when my beautiful amazing son announced on Christmas eve 2015 that he wanted to kill himself. He didn't know who he was, he had been growing his hair over the previous 3-4 years and was a little effeminate and very autistic ( in the most wonderful ways, I love him to bits). After leaving school he lost his support, hated college, ended up flunking and on suicide watch. We eventually ended up in a gender clinic where he revealed he thinks about dressing up as a girl and likes makeup etc. I went out and bought him the eyeliner that he wanted. Said I would buy him clothes etc and support him-but not medically.
Anyway. Fast forward to this week and over the last 3 years he has settled back into a new college and is planning to go to uni next year. He has changed his name to another male name as it turns out he had issues to do with having his bio dad's name ( he was very abusive) and he didn't remember him.
And he just told me a few days ago that he is gay and has a boyfriend!
I am so ridiculously happy that I could honestly cry. He has found somebody that see his specialness and embraces it. And he is not chopping parts of his body off and flooding his body with foreign hormones. These days, we even agree about the trans politics (to a certain extent) and he can see how toxic it is. Especially for an autistic kid that is desperate to belong.
I want to thank all the people that post on here. I would have been lost without you all linking to various groups and information. And transgendertrend. Lilly Maynard. Michele Moore. Just THANK YOU!