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True to myself but..........

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quietbutdetermined · 13/10/2018 20:09

I am feeling quite bereft - I feel ostracised by my family as I have made my beliefs about womens' rights known and have been asked to keep my opinion to myself. I have fought for my daughters throughout their lifetimes and it has been for nothing.

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quietbutdetermined · 13/10/2018 20:38

Thank you all for taking the time to comment. It is appreciated Smile

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quietbutdetermined · 13/10/2018 20:37

buckeejit good advice, it is difficult when I am being silenced by anyone who matters to me.

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quietbutdetermined · 13/10/2018 20:29

Struggling to even relate to friends over this.

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buckeejit · 13/10/2018 20:28

I've been in this position with a really close friend that I've known for 25 years, (she made a comment on a rape case tantamount to 'what did she expect?') A lot of people don't know & aren't willing to put in the time to educate themselves-it's nice & easier to think women have equal rights now & we can do what we like).

A bit like environmentalists who do everything to reduce their carbon footprint, I know I could do more & try but I'm not in their league but it would do my head in if they constantly tried to improve my green credentials). In your situation I think you need to be adamant that you'll voice your opinion when talking about it, but in real life generally a lot of people don't want to hear conflicting views to their own. It's difficult to voice something that's wrongly seen as radical, the only thing for me I've noticed lately is to be less emotional when voicing my opinion & try to accept their mindset without becoming argumentative about it.

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quietbutdetermined · 13/10/2018 20:27

If there are any meetings within reasonable proximity I will most definitely strive to attend

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Redkeyboard · 13/10/2018 20:24

Sorry that’s tough. You are absolutely right to stand by your principles.

Have you been to any feminist meetings? Lots of solidarity there.

OnceUponATimeInAmerica · 13/10/2018 20:23

Irony is I am virtually NC with my family over Brexit. If I told them my views on GRA, they’d welcome me with open arms.

Haven’t managed to square that mental circle yet. Although I do know my DBro’s partner is with me.

Serfisafleur · 13/10/2018 20:22

Keep going.
Maybe you phrased it in the wrong way? Maybe you didn't take a little-by-little approach?
Maybe you were too soft in your approach?
Keep going with the facts.
I find just sticking to facts is enough to peak trans anyone
Do NOT keep your thoughts to yourself and do not be silenced.

VickyEadie · 13/10/2018 20:18

Still astonishes me that so many women are cheerfully throwing their rights to privacy and safety out of the window. And mine, of course.

VickyEadie · 13/10/2018 20:17

Still asto

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quietbutdetermined · 13/10/2018 20:15

Yes it is tough and upsetting. At least I'll know I've done the right thing though.

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GulagsMyArse · 13/10/2018 20:12

Oh I'm so sorry, I had a similar experience with someone who I am incredibly close to. Its so upsetting.

Sarahjconnor · 13/10/2018 20:10

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