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100 Easy Ways to make the world better for Transpeople..

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Destinysdaughter · 09/10/2018 21:38

This is so much bullshit that I CBA to even comment on it. I’ll leave it to you to make your own minds up on it...

www.vice.com/amp/en_nz/article/mbdx7n/100-ways-be-trans-ally-tips?__twitter_impression=true

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EmpressAdultHumanFemale · 10/10/2018 16:59

Brew I think we both agree on Quentin's excellent work though!

susurration · 10/10/2018 16:56

Thank you Empress.

EmpressAdultHumanFemale · 10/10/2018 16:22

FFS @EmpressAdultHumanFemale there's no need to be so rude. I was using the app and missed the excellent post by quentinwinters. Back off.

Shock Sorry, @susurration (I have @ing switched off for me, by the way, but you used it so I will). That wasn't meant to come across as rude but obviously did. Apologies.

heresyandwitchcraft · 10/10/2018 15:47

Quentin - masterful work!

FermatsTheorem · 10/10/2018 15:43

BigChoc - the author is (as far as I can tell) a transman (hence the entry about author and partner referring to the author's periods as "Lucifer"). Reminds me of a point made on here before, that some (not all, but some) transmen appear to feel the need to "prove" their "masculinity" by displays of absolutely toxic misogyny.

susurration · 10/10/2018 14:24

FFS @EmpressAdultHumanFemale there's no need to be so rude. I was using the app and missed the excellent post by @quentinwinters. Back off.

BigChocFrenzy · 10/10/2018 14:17

< whispers > it really is a list that I'd expect only a very entitled bloke to write < scuttles off >

Bowlofbabelfish · 10/10/2018 14:11

So STFU, don't ask questions and whatever you do, don't dare to disagree?

And pay us....

GeorgeFayne · 10/10/2018 14:07

77. Sex work is a service. Again, this is not up for debate. Do not try to stop trans folk from advocating for and implementing their own safety measures. Do not hide your prejudice against sex workers with fake worry.

Ok. I'll come clean. I'm just fake worried that individuals of all sexes and identities who engage in sex work are much more likely to die of violent crime. It's just a cover for my transphobia.

MipMipMip · 10/10/2018 14:06

Actually, I think I may be non binary. I’m wearing a dress but have some tools in my bag to try and fix the radiator at work. Who’d like my Patreon details so they can give me cash to support me in my endeavours?

I know to use candle wax to fix sticking drawers only one in the office to. But is that a womanly fix, using what is available, or manly DIY? I'm so confused, please tell me what I am?!

Trinity1976 · 10/10/2018 13:58

So STFU, don't ask questions and whatever you do, don't dare to disagree?

Onlyhappywhenitrains1 · 10/10/2018 13:48

Don’t buy gendered things for kids around you. This just pushes the ideas that boys must like blue and girls must like pink

But when a boy likes pink and girly things, the trans community tell him he's a girl trapped in a boys body and needs to take medication and have operations to "fix" him.

Surely gendering is what the trans community is all about, and if you don't fit your gender you're wrong and need to be relabled and altered.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplands · 10/10/2018 12:56

Quentinwinters thank you 👏

EmpressAdultHumanFemale · 10/10/2018 12:43

God, it would be so easy to re-wrote that list as if it were about women, without changing much. The trans groups wouldn't like it much then!

RTFT, susurration - Quentin's just made an excellent job of that!

susurration · 10/10/2018 12:37

God, it would be so easy to re-wrote that list as if it were about women, without changing much. The trans groups wouldn't like it much then!

WichBitchHarpyTerfThatsMe · 10/10/2018 12:23

Brava QuentinWinters!

MrsWinkly · 10/10/2018 12:23

Bowlofbabelfish
Grin

NotTerfNorCis · 10/10/2018 12:18

So we should pay them for their emotional labour.

I want them to pay me for reading all 100 points.

Btw all this 'no debate, don't engage with gender critical feminists' stuff makes them sound exactly like a cult.

Elephantinacravat · 10/10/2018 12:03

Awesome! @QuentinWinters

Bowlofbabelfish · 10/10/2018 12:03

It is self indulgent twaddle.

By point 32 I was thinking ‘bring back national service...’

peachsquish · 10/10/2018 12:01

. Don’t buy gendered things for kids around you. This just pushes the ideas that boys must like blue and girls must like pink and only one of them can play football in their spare time. I don’t even particularly like either colours!

Does it not occur to the author that some children prefer playing with gendered toys. I am not a particularly girly person, so it's not pushed on my dd.
However 9 times out of 10 my dd will choose the bright pink sparkly toys even though I give her the choice of all toys.

She doesn't like football but loves dance again her choice, why is her choice any less valid purely because it follows gender stereotypes.

PositiveVibez · 10/10/2018 11:57

Fucking Hell!!!!!!!!

Got as far as 41.

What utter, self-indulgent bullshit.

You can also try covering tampon or pad boxes and wrapping with cute cartoons or their favourite colour

I like the way they throw some arts and crafts tips in too.

I'd like a list of '100 handy trans tips'

MrsWinkly · 10/10/2018 11:51

I like No. 44.

If trans folk do have to explain something to you that may be uncomfortable, triggering, or upsetting for us, buy us a bunch of flowers, take us for dinner, drop something into our PayPal. No labor should be free.

So, I'm going to start charging for information all over my fucking family because they really are a bunch of nosey gits.
And when is anyone going to pay me for cleaning up the cat sick I found this morning?

It's just more of the "look at me, look at me...how dare you look at me!" (to infinity).

itsbritneybiatches · 10/10/2018 11:43

14. Do not enter queer or trans safe spaces without a queer person asking you to be there or without making sure that allies are welcome.

Ok likewise right back at ya.

And 91. Peak transed me.

I love going to pride with my sis. And I wear glitter specially because it's like a happy, glittery extravaganza in Liverpool. Well to the clubs she takes me to anyway.

MrsWinkly · 10/10/2018 11:43

Empress
That's exactly it, isn't it.
If they were really to be regarded as women, they wouldn't like it at all because nobody would be listening, watching, clapping, validating them on their fabulous journey through life.
Their whole platform is built upon the wondrous 'transformation', not about grinding on through the gears as a real woman.
It lacks any credibility when they foot-stomp about the focus of attention being on the 'trans', that's exactly what they are desperate for, without it they'd be utterly forgettable.

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