Have just outed myself on Facebook

Keep going, every drop adds to the tide

Brace yourself [so to speak]
By doing this earlier in the week I have had some horrible abuse, been unfriended, discussed in Facebook groups I belong to and another I don't, branded a bigot and a TERF and received some horrible stuff via Messenger.
The only supportive stuff I've had has been in private messages as no one has been brave enough to do it openly.
Frankly it's been a shit few days.
I honestly don't know how to deal with this. I'm keeping a very low profile but am going to Unfriend/block some people once the outrage and abuse have died down so as not to stir it all up again.

May I suggest that anyone who is fearful, just stop and think - since when has telling the truth something to fear?

For anyone else nervous about posting on fb, I've found it helpful to be selective in who I share posts with (there is an option to remove people from your share list), which means that threads on my wall aren't seen by the few people who I know will start ranting at me!

Is she of the 'this will never happen' school of thought? It must be a shock for them when they find out it already has.
People need to believe in civilisation. They don't want to think about how thin the veneer is.

I have mentioned my opinion once on someone's post but do want to take it further, well done op.

Robin Effron's letter might be worth posting if anyone has pushback on FB?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3386304-Robin-Effrons-Letter-to-Students-How-Difference-of-View-Should-Be-Handled

I’ve done it too :) fuck it, nothing I’m saying is illegal, hateful etc. I’m pushing for the rights of women under law to be upheld. I stand by that and it’s time to be counted.

Well done OP. Keep calm, react only calmly to any abuse etc.

My t shirt should be arriving soon. I will be wearing it.

Don't feel beaten qumquat, you're just resting and preserving your resources for when you feel ready. Temporary tactical retreat! We can only do what we can do

If you post GC stuff and get no likes don't interpret that badly. People WILL be reading it and many people will agree but they just haven't reached their threshold where they feel they can publicly demonstrate that. But you are adding to the vital critical mass.

I've posted the odd subtly GC thing to zero or occasionally hostile response. When I do I lose an entire night's sleep without fail and my anxiety goes sky high so for my health I'm having to stop at the moment. Which I know means the bullies have beaten me.

I did this about a week ago.
This morning I've had friends messaging me telling me they have had another friend request from me.
Part of me says I'm being paranoid, my DH says I'm not.

Yay good work! I’m sharing fair play for women stuff- and it gets no likes from
My friends but I’m hoppng they are reading some of the info and maybe just getting a bit of info.

Thank you so much, Belonger, for the confidence boost. I really appreciate it. 😘

Bloody hell, I did it last night too (admittedly by commenting on a post made by a friend who has somewhat surprised me by recently 'coming out' as GC, rather than on my own page, but small steps).

Must be something in the water...

Isn't this bloody astonishing? That so many women are having to speak in code and meet in secret? I never thought I'd be so scared of speaking my mind, but misogynist men have managed it

fig I would take heart from the fact that your gay friends know you're not narrow minded or homophobic - by being who you are, their ally, and also questioning this legislation you'll be giving them something to think about. You can focus on the way that young people who might be attracted to the sane sex are being told they're bloody trans instead of being allowed to find out if they're gay!

My lesbian friends are absolutely appalled by what's happening

Is anyone on the Last Leg unofficial fb page. People were commenting about the recent This Morning interview. I started writing something then chickened out and deleted it.

Has anyone had conversations with dh’s about it? My dh thinks i’m Talking a load of rubbish and just doesn’t get it.

Thanks, tina.

Reason I’m worried is half my friends are gay and, when I’ve gently tried to introduce a gender critical viewpoint, they’ve looked at me as if I’m nuts. They remember me fighting for equality for lesbians and gay men, equal marriage, and I think assume the transgender issue is just more of the same thing.

Next week I’m having dinner with a group of lesbian friends. I’m hoping I can win there with a “did you know you’re transphobic if you don’t like dick” speech. Fingers crossed.

I've recently done it after being out for a wee while on twitter. Way scarier than I expected but like you, I felt I had to be a fraction as brave as the amazing women putting themselves on the line for this.

The good thing is that it's put me in touch with a few other GC ladies locally and we plan to meet up and plan some local activism

Still don't feel I can post openly because of work, but am definitely hitting like a lot more, and I think some of the groups will come up. Threads like these make me smile ruefully because I'm willing to bet I actually know some of you and am liking your posts. You may even be the people who radicalised me!

I've just peeped over the parapet on facebook too and seem to ahve been told there are more than two sexes and what about intersex individuals?
I feel a bit alone in my GC-ness unless I'm on here. I may email close friends to test the waters...