Holy crap I've approached friends about GRA and now I'm crapping myself a bit!

My mum and dad are totally on board. One sister totally on board. Other sister thinks it’s all a bit of a niche obsession of mine. My two male business partners are totally on board.

The only real pushback I’ve had is from people who think this can’t possibly be real.

Have you seen the latest Jonathon Pie video doing the rounds? I reckon he's a mate of Graham Linehan. Doesn't mention GRA stuff directly, but very good on some of the peripheral issues around it. I've shared it on FB and it's been reshared.

Well done everyone!

The only response I've had to my FB posts so far (today's Express article and the Dick Boldly Goes video) is a PM from my sister, asking if I'd been hacked! When I said no, and sent her further info about the consultation (stating also that I am not a transphobe), she replied that she was already aware of the situation as she is a Stonewall supporter! I didn't see that coming .

Holy bananas , I spoke to someone today who I was really nervous. Has 4 daughters, no idea this was going on. Looked rather confused. But I’m hopeful.

Also to a friend who is very active in her local Conservative party. She had no idea and peaked in about . 60 secs!!

Also she was furious that the local party did not know about it.
Thanks FPFW the flyers are bang on!!!

She’s probably my only Tory mate. I told her if the conservatives decide against it, they will have my vote, despite my leftie ideals.

Right so im going to do emails etc this week.

I’ve had some really vicious responses from a couple of people prior to this and TBH I feel like I don’t want to be friends anymore.

But I’m going to ramp it up this week. Fuck it. Anyone who call me a bigot while refusing to listen to another point of view is yhe fucking bigot actually.

Keep buggering on.

Another one delurking to say thanks to this forum I have also filled in the consultation this morning. I have also been increasing my social media and face to face discussion confidence over the last few weeks, starting with some general feminism posts/chats. Today I have posted all about the consultation on all of my social media accounts.

The best bit is I know it has made a difference, however small - my mum has done it already thanks to my chats with her and my step mum has just had an email full of links after she was horrified by what is happening when I braved discussing it with her and will hopefully get my dad and step-sisters etc. aware of it all too. I have also already had a message on social media from another women I don't know that well thanking me for posting stuff who now has consultation links too.

The only direct negative/challenging comment I've had online was pretty mild and they were open to discussion even if we had to somewhat agree to disagree. Mostly my posts get a couple of likes, but the message yesterday made me realise people are reading even if they aren't confident to post themselves. Keep going everyone!

Just outed myself on Facebook too.

Have just sent my typed message to about 25 local friends in a WhatsApp group. Fingers crossed......

I've been posting things openly on FB for a while, but I've really ramped it up over the past couple of weeks. This week I got my sister, two nieces, daughter, son in law, two friends, both sons, my husband and my male neighbour to complete the consultation. It took DH a while to fully get it, but I was really proud when I heard him talking to the neighbour about it yesterday, he articulated the issues succinctly and with passion! Neighbour immediately peaked and went home to discuss with his wife.

So many people are unaware that this is happening or have the attitude that it's just boring old politics and next week will be forgotten.

I dont trust online consultation - it must be open to fraud (look at postal voting fraud in East london) and those who are pushing appear to be highly skilled in modern political meddling and pan banging.

Just to update - my email has been well received by the first group of friends I sent it to, so will be sending it to a bigger group tomorrow. I've asked my friends to forward it on to anyone they think will be supportive.

Also had a hospital appt yesterday, and "toured" the women's toilets, leaving FPFW leaflets in the cubicles . Am trying to work up the courage to post the Dick Boldly Goes video on FB.

I know lots of women here have done so much more to promote the cause - I'm posting this so that you all can see that your efforts to spread the word have been successful. I wish I had discovered this issue before a few weeks ago - could have involved myself so much more before the consultation deadline passed.

So far I've spoken to...

Mum (on side and quite passionate about it)
Sister (thinks I am a bigot and we've fallen out)
DH (on side although not sure he entirely gets it as each time I say something he says "wait does that mean...")
Best friend (on side but we haven't spoken about it since and I get the sense she doesn't quite believe it's really happening)

I've started sharing carefully filtered things on Facebook. I've had a bit of backlash from one person who is causing me some stress so I'm thinking of hiding my posts from her. One other person doesn't "get it" and is very much "nahhh people won't take advantage, who would want to spy on me". No one else has ever responded. I feel somewhat warmed reading the posts here and perhaps I need to share more on Facebook.

I'm never going to be on the PTA again after outing myself as a T* to my son's HT who now hates me....

That sounds like a good outcome to me Handsoff. PTA eats time you’ll never get back.

Woo hoo! Have spent about 4 nights in a row compiling a really long explanation of the self ID disaster-waiting-to-happen, to send to friends, and have just finished it. Will wait for my mum and DH to check it for glaring issues, then send it tomorrow night.

Next on the list for this week, complete consultation and write to MP.

Just got the 'wokest' of the 'Woke' young family member on board and doing the consultation! A major victory!!! So glad I ' came out'!

Ok, GRA completed. And talked to a friend who is also completing it. The FPFW guidance was really useful.

Three out of four I've spoken to so far heartily agreed. The fourth didn't say much but she's a pretty vocal feminist so I'm assuming she was contemplating...

Thanks all! I will let you know if I get a response...

I feel so outraged and betrayed by all of this. In all the talk of triggering and feelings, did anyone ever stop to think how triggering it might be to many women to treat them (yet again) as if we are unimportant and hysterical? Oh no, of course not, because it's just our role to endorse the feelings of others.. again.

We will win this, though, of that I am certain, though the fight may be long...

Brilliant Leon

Scared to go public on FB - I have a friend who is heavily involved with pink news. We get on on so many levels and appreciate the same humour. Although he thinks "we" are uneducated (ie only possible reason for our TERFness).

Raised it with a couple of friends 200 miles beyond the backwaters. Much rolling of eyes as "the usual suspect mums" at the school include one trans girl child and one "non binary". Much agreement that the mums feel speshul. Sadly one of the children is autistic...

Great letter leon

I'm never going to be on the PTA again after outing myself as a T* to my son's HT who now hates me....