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Being kind

35 replies

Minerva1234 · 03/10/2018 07:09

The idea of 'kindness' seems to have taken a sinister turn recently.

Why does 'being kind' require one set of people to overwrite their perception of reality in deference to another set of people?

What determines which of the two groups is expected to 'be kind' and which group expects kindness from others?

Where does it all end? If someone who is five foot two believes they are six foot six, does 'kindness' compel me to agree with them? Why should kindness trump reality?

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GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 03/10/2018 07:40

The more I am told to be "nice" and "kind", the less likely I am to be either.

I'm a reasonably pleasant person, generally. Tell me to "be nice" and I'll want to headbutt you.

HamiltonCork · 03/10/2018 07:39

Being kind all the time is completely overrated as you just end up being treated like a doormat.

Prestonsflowers · 03/10/2018 07:36

Well then it’s about time women stopped being ‘kind’ and start telling the truth.
Love sweary’s answer

MIdgebabe · 03/10/2018 07:28

(Putting on my hard hat on again here) good grief, we are women. It is our role to be kind and dumb. Society expects it.

BingBongSong · 03/10/2018 07:26

Sweary put it very succinctly in the Standing for Women meeting, when she said "well I say "fuck kind "".

It's only this year I've started to tell my dc that the most important thing is not to be kind, but to be able to stand up for yourself.

SunsetBeetch · 03/10/2018 07:25

I get this a lot from young lib fems too. I'm not being NICE to trans women, why can't I just be NICE and inclusive? When I haven't said anything remotely unkind, I'm just being factual and objective about my concerns with self ID.

BlackeyedSusan · 03/10/2018 07:20

bit like toddler dd: share=give yours to me. she grew out of it when still a toddler. Shame some people have never learned those lessons.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 03/10/2018 07:20

It's a power thing.
Like the word respect can mean 'do what I say' if the person saying it has power or 'treat me like a human being' if not.
So 'you dont respect me and I won't respect you ' actually means 'you don't do what I say so I don't treat you as a human being'.

MoltenLasagne · 03/10/2018 07:16

They say "be kind" but what they really mean is "be compliant". You know, like women are trained and emotionally manipulated into being from birth.

KatVonGulag · 03/10/2018 07:16

Being kind = agree with me or else