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Lurkers of FWR, pop in and say Hi!

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SophoclesTheFox · 30/09/2018 08:36

I've just been reading this thread and I am utterly blown away by the number of women who say they are lurking here.

It's quite, quite wonderful to read that thread and I wanted to acknowledge it and roll out the red carpet if any of you wanted to post. I know it can feel a bit intimidating, like you have to have the right vocabulary, or some huge knowledge of feminist theory, but you don't.

Your words are valuable, and your unique view is important because together we're powerful!

We're also rude, funny, and most of all DISRESPECTFUL in all the ways that matter. Don't just lurk: join in Grin you are very welcome.

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SmellyHead · 01/10/2018 23:10

I dunno, I have to get the gra consultation completed,
I've done the sports one. There's a thread with info I think. MP? I have to get my pack ordered too. Bit by bit we'll get there.

DialsMavis · 01/10/2018 23:08

I've been lurking for ages and had the scales removed from my eyes by these boards Smile

UpstartCrow · 01/10/2018 23:04

Imo thats part of the problem Goose, we sound like mad extremists when we try to discuss it.

GooseDownCreek · 01/10/2018 23:02

I have lurked for ages, name change a lot. Too intimidated to post because I feel my feminism is probably old fashioned.

I have learned a lot, was especially impressed with the Posie Parker thread last week.
I do often wonder whether the posters in here realise how little most ordinary people understand ( or care really) about the issues on here. If I mentioned any of that stuff to friends irl they would think I was barking.

TemperTrapped · 01/10/2018 23:00

Smelly, my adrenaline is spiking too close to bedtime. Just ordered pack from FairPlay. What next?

streakofmalevolence · 01/10/2018 22:59

Long time lurker
Have read these threads daily,with increasing disbelief and then anger
Slowly finding the words to get my point across in rl
Thank you

Mum2OneTeen · 01/10/2018 22:58

Another lurker here, these threads are so important to me, but I never usually feel articulate enough to comment.

Keep up the good work!

SmellyHead · 01/10/2018 22:57

I'm with you Temper!

I feel like a new wave of rad feminism is on its way and I'm going to be part of it.

TemperTrapped · 01/10/2018 22:53

I have had enough. Been lurking for two years now on FWR since I wondered why loads of posters had Spartacus in their user names.

But fuck this shit now. I have had enough. I have peaked so many times and I move between rage and sorrow and disappointment and hopefulness.

This evening I have laughed, shook my head, nodded my head, felt my heart racing with both anger and hope. There’s a constant underlying despair that has been holding me back but I’m reading The Hourglass Factory at the moment and I have just read of some suffragettes in a court room and that’s done it for me.

Sign me up, give me a sash, a flag and a banner. Fuck this shit. Now.

My son and daughter deserve more than this. I deserve more than this.

I am a woman. I am angry. I am an angry woman. I’m not sitting out of this one.

Thank you to you wonderful posters who have been brave and eloquent and knowledgeable.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Thank you to those who disagree and continue to argue their point.

I have screen shotted so, so many things and I have questioned and folllowed links. I have analysed and formulated my thoughts. Time is ticking on though and I’m no longer going to stay silent.

Your courage has called to my courage.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 01/10/2018 22:51

I lurk too - it’s a fascinating board! I have learned so much - thank you all!

littlecabbage · 01/10/2018 22:39

Thank you. I will look at the videos. Have also just ordered a campaign starter pack Smile

arranfan · 01/10/2018 22:34

littlecabbage - do you think it might be worth watching some of the videos on Fair Play for Women together and talking about them?

There are several linked from their home page and each is quite short: fairplayforwomen.com

littlecabbage · 01/10/2018 22:30

As a result of this thread, I have tonight attempted to explain to my DH about our concerns. I don't have all the answers to his questions, and don't think he feels it's as big an issue as I do, but it's a start and he has been very open minded about what I'm rather haltingly and ineloquently trying to say.

Perhaps I'll try speaking to some RL friends this week. Where can I direct them to read a summary of what is going on?

Chocolatecake84 · 01/10/2018 22:12

Hello, I've lurked for a while. This is my favourite forum and the only one I post on. I only post occasionally but read everything. I think this forum is awesome and the one that's gradually turned me into a radical feminist.

I am involved in quite a lot of real life activism. I've been out leafleting as a Fair Play volunteer every weekend.

Thank you to all the amazing women on here, you are doing great work.

DramaAlpaca · 01/10/2018 22:03

I lurk, read and learn. I'm a regular poster on MN who is not brave enough for this section. But I read everything.

Keep up the good work you wonderful FWR people.

SophoclesTheFox · 01/10/2018 21:56

hello, hello, hello all you wonderful delurkers!

Bosomy hugs all round Grin

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boatyardblues · 01/10/2018 21:55

Great nickname homoseXXual - and welcome! (Same goes for all the lovely lurkers coming out of the shadows.) Smile

homoseXXual · 01/10/2018 20:51

I've lurked without an account for a while, but recent threads made me scream internally so much I had to make an account. Heya Smile

northender · 01/10/2018 20:25

Well, I've just outed myself as GC on facebook. A FB friend posted links to several great pieces & I commented. I feel sure she must be on these threads too!

HumberElla · 01/10/2018 20:03

Yes huge thanks to the long term posters and those who continue to explain it all, lay out the issues, link to the examples and reason with the arguments. I hope you feel your effort has been justified and that you’ve been heard. I have seen many posters dismayed at losing some of the regular contributors to this board and you talk about other places to go where GC discussions are happening online. But you still stay.
I for one have used all your words many times to shape my thoughts and form my own letters, emails and conversations about this issue.
I think it might be important for lurkers like me to let you all know that. Even if we’re still not quite confident enough to contribute much (yet!) on here.

SmellyHead · 01/10/2018 17:51

FWR stands for Feminism and Women's Rights joystir

joystir59 · 01/10/2018 16:46

What does FWR mean?

Datun · 01/10/2018 16:15

Hi @Twotabbycats

I wonder if you, or your friend, have seen this thread. It might give her, (or you), some support.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3101834-trans-widows-escape-committee

bluetitsaretits · 01/10/2018 16:14

To langcleg , datun and all the other long term posters -you are absolute sheroes.
I appreciate how exhausting this must be for you and we are so grateful for your hard work.
Hoping that this thread gives you a much needed boost.
...oh, and we hope you can put your feet up with a cuppa now and then, feeling happy that you have summoned the troupes and we hear you.
Brava!
Flowers

LangCleg · 01/10/2018 15:51

Oh, sigh. Five or ten Years.

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