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This is wrong right?

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DukeOfSussex · 18/09/2018 19:31

If your teenage daughter had her first week at the University of Sussex this week this is what found in her welcome bag.

A Pot Noodle, A tablet of washing detergent, a sim card and an individual sized portion of instant coffee.

AND

A picture of a woman designed to look like she has spunk dripping down her face to sell toothbrushes. "whether you spit or swallow during your twice daily oral regime..."

She'll also find a drinks night event by the Student union being advertised all over campus. It has a picture of a dead eyed half naked woman laying in an empty bath...which advertises what? Fuck knows.

She will also find a copy of the student newspaper in her bag. On the front cover at the very top of the page is an article entitled "Transphobia and toilets". This is discussing the recent words of University of Sussex philosophy professor Kathleen Stock who dared to very (politely) question some aspects of trans theory.

Your daughter, if disabled, will also be concerned to see that some of the disabled toilets have been declared "for all genders". Which is lovely and inclusive but not ideal if you're disabled and need a wee and need to wait for an able bodied non binary male wearing lipstick to go for a shit first.

She will find that the "This Sussex Girl Can" all women only classes are open to all "women, trans gender people and non binary individuals" so just mixed classes basically .

So far so expected of university in general but what upsets me is that people wanted Kathleen Stock's job for having an opinion. She caused students to feel "unsafe" with her very words, but in a world where women are literally unsafe and sexual assault is endemic in universities, Sussex student union didn't think twice before objectifying its female students. If your employer gave you a goody bag with this card in it you could rightfully be making a formal complaint to your HR department. Why is it appropriate for university?

We can't discuss why it's always a woman advertising drinks, or toothbrushes without discussing women and the group of people who actually deal with the real repercussions of being women. It's a bloody joke.Why don't people care about actual sexism, real life objectification of women.

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Dandeliontea123 · 19/09/2018 13:25

Bloody hell NothingOnTelly that is terrifying.

NothingOnTellyAgain · 19/09/2018 13:22

what the fuck is this terrifying shit?

Is this an american company?

Dandeliontea123 · 19/09/2018 13:22

I bet that at some point there was an Apprentice-style brainstorming meeting where some bright spark linked oral health to oral sex.

Except they wouldn't run that campaign in the workplace or in schools.

Seems to be that female first year students are as disposable to them as their dental floss.

Elephantinacravat · 19/09/2018 13:22

I doubt @BrushboxUK will be back on this thread to answer any further questions.

They have made their 'sorry if you are offended by misogyny, obviously we didn't mean to upset anyone, but look how passionate we are about oral health' token statement, so their job is done as far as they are concerned.

Grim.

littlbrowndog · 19/09/2018 13:19

Really disgusting. That picture and the words

They don’t give 2 flying fucks about how a woman would feel when they got that in thei4 pack
Gross and also Weasley words from that company

AssassinatedBeauty · 19/09/2018 13:18

I doubt @BrushboxUK will be returning to answer any of these questions. Which is a shame.

JoggerBottom · 19/09/2018 13:14

@BrushboxUK

You know that spit or swallow is a sexual innuendo. Please don't try to back peddle by voicing concerns for dental health...You don't feel passionate about anything other than getting people to spend money on your product.

DukeOfSussex · 19/09/2018 13:08

That’s have been said to me since 1985 so I don’t know why the nation’s teeth aren’t in a better state.

Proper lol

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ScipioAfricanus · 19/09/2018 13:06

There’s nothing edgy or progressive or novel or new about telling women to smile, and suck dick.

This.

That’s have been said to me since 1985 so I don’t know why the nation’s teeth aren’t in a better state.

drspouse · 19/09/2018 13:06

Prawnofthepatriarchy
There are many students who don't drink for many reasons, religious and otherwise. This is shocking. But not surprising. There is such a lad, binge drinking culture at universities.

Bowlofbabelfish · 19/09/2018 13:02

the fact is that conventional methods of highlighting these fact to people, to date, have not worked

There’s nothing edgy or progressive or novel or new about telling women to smile, and suck dick.

AngelsAckiz · 19/09/2018 13:00

No one swallows toothpaste.

"Spit or swallow" is in absolute reference to to spitting or swallowing ejaculate.

This is the message you're giving to 18 year old brand new adults starting life on their own, away fromnthe family home.

This is what you're promoting. That women are nothing more than a spunk receptacle.

Shame on you.

DukeOfSussex · 19/09/2018 13:00

You know what is an "oral risk" twice a day condomless oral sex which @brushboxuk seems to advocate to teen girls.

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NameChangedAgain18 · 19/09/2018 12:57

Someone upthread said that if they received this is a workplace welcome pack they’d be able to say it was harassment.

Yes. If this turned up in my pigeonhole at work, I’d be raising merry hell about it with HR, and whoever sent it to me would be facing a disciplinary at best. If that’s the case for someone who is employed in a university, why would it be acceptable for a student at the same university to be given this?

MipMipMip · 19/09/2018 12:55

The ASA cover leaflets if anyone wants to complain.

Don't think they cover website spiel unfortunately, only accuracy claims online so that "only making friends when drunk" bit will get away with it (unless they put it on a leaflet!).

www.asa.org.uk/about-asa-and-cap/the-work-we-do/what-we-cover.html

Elephantinacravat · 19/09/2018 12:53

This is something we feel passionately about and the fact is that conventional methods of highlighting these fact to people, to date, have not worked

Conventional methods aren't working, so we had no choice but to go with a horrible, misogynistic, derogatory approach instead.

Bowlofbabelfish · 19/09/2018 12:53

@brushboxUK

Look: we are all fine with oral health. The issue is the visuals/text you’re using. They’re awful. Utterly tone deaf.

*the screenshot above about smiles and consent - grim. You can do great campaigns on consent (the cup of tea one was just the right balance between light hearted and serious messaging.)
Think for a minute about the subtext you’ve created: a woman smiling at you is up for it. Can you see why that’s a problem? In a climate where a rape victims top and clothing is presented in court as evidence they were asking for it. She smiled at me m’lud - she clearly wanted it.

  • the spunk one. Also grim. Would you have made that with a male mouth? If not, why not?

    We aren’t a bunch of fuddy duddies. I had a very good time at uni, involving plenty of partying, a quantity of booze that could have killed a platoon of rhinos and plenty of shagging. What was different back then was that it was so much more respectful - young men were concerned with BOTH parties having fun, and there wasn’t this portrayal of sex as something done TO women.

Your marketing is really poor. Someone upthread said that if they received this is a workplace welcome pack they’d be able to say it was harassment.

You’re portraying women and girls as passive spunk receptacles that are there to be fucked and smile prettily. That is a toxic message to send to both sexes.

IAmLurkacus · 19/09/2018 12:52

All @BrushboxUK have sparked awareness of is that parents (a lot of whom are PAYING the 9K a year) need to be much more aware of the messages being given out by universities.

I have looked into a monthly box for DD who is at uni, I think they’re a great idea, I wanted a monthly period box for her. After looking into it and discovering some aimed at ‘people who menstrate’ I decided just to make up my own monthly box.

I thought the ‘people who menstrate’ boxes were the worst example of ‘so woke it’s misogyny’ I would ever see. Then I saw this thread.

This all needs saving for next years clearing threads along with Goldsmiths Gulug.

Elephantinacravat · 19/09/2018 12:51

In particular, there was never any suggestion or intention (consciously or unconsciously) to be derogatory towards women in any way shape or form, this is something we would never do

So why did you choose an image of a woman's mouth with Toothpaste dripping out of it, which you admit is supposed to be representing spunk?

If you don't think that is derogatory, then that is total misogyny in itself. So it's no wonder you thought this was a brilliant advert for your product.

NameChangedAgain18 · 19/09/2018 12:50

@BrushboxUK

I work in a university. Do you understand how much sexual harassment and assault of young women there is on campuses today? Do you understand the pressure and trauma that pornified sexual imagery exerts on young women today? How anxious they are at starting university? And, that having achieved the academic credentials to attend a good university, they are, on their first day, confronted with imagery which suggests that a woman’s place is to service men’s dicks? Many female students haven’t even had sex for the first time yet. And what a lovely welcome to the U.K. for overseas students, far away from their families.

To be clear, I’m not only angry with you, but at Sussex University and its pathetic Students’ Union.

Noqont · 19/09/2018 12:50

That's disgusting.

ScipioAfricanus · 19/09/2018 12:48

Agree Duke. It is clear from the phrase ‘raise eyebrows’, that they are admitting it; I’m just annoyed at the circumlocution and ‘didn’t mean to cause offence’ faux-apology.

GColdtimer · 19/09/2018 12:48

Brushbox, how the hell can anyone have signed off on that ad and NOT thought it was derogatory to women. FFS. You need to sack your marketing agency or people, they are misogynists and deeply uncreative. If they can't come up with a unconventional method of highlighting poor hygiene with objectifying women. Like a previous poster said, its the equivalent of some guy shouting "suck my cock" at some innocent women walking by. Sexual violence against women on the increase and you come up with this shit.

Elephantinacravat · 19/09/2018 12:47

@BrushboxUK

Is there an equivalent advert aimed at men? Featuring a highly pornified image of a man's mouth? If not why not?

Charliethefeminist · 19/09/2018 12:46

How misogynistic are you to think that's not offensive

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