Missing in Action

Thanks to the poster who linked to this thread about the banning of Maryz - a great loss to MN and to us all.

If you're reading this, Maryz, thank you for all your posts, many of which helped me and countless others struggling with sometimes difficult teens.

I've clearly got to the stage where I've been noticed, as I very rarely name change, and recently have had other posters saying nice things about me, privately and publicly, and someone used one of my posts as an example of accepted 'transphobia' because I'm 'well respected', whatever that means.

So that's a cue for me to be very careful not to employ too much ad absurdum or sarcasm which could be misconstrued. I'm neutral pronouning practically everyone at this stage.

I intend to spent my time in correspondence with Germaine Bunbury, like characters out of an Austen level but with more swearing.

You definitely know there's a publisher for that tho'? After all, we had Jane Austen and the Zombies.

I hear you, LangCleg - do you ever get an absurd attack of the worries that you've had fat fingers and ended up with a wholly inadvertent typo or auto-correct?

BTW - I saw that several people on Twitter were imploring SandyDrawsBadly to release a book of her cartoons for Christmas and she was saying that she doubts any publisher would touch the topic with a bargepole.

That makes me so sad and angry and a little bit dispirited.

Name changing is a way of avoiding TRA targeting for removal, it's frustrating though, you can't build up a rapport with other posters in the same way as you're forever starting anew

LOL Arranfan - that tweet made me laugh for days.

On a serious note: my aim is to stick within the rules while posting with as much clarity (and signature bluntness!) as I can. This is not always an easy task.

I intend to spent my time in correspondence with Germaine Bunbury, like characters out of an Austen level but with more swearing.

AAK, LangCleg - if you end up in Biological Facts Jail, are you hoping to be cellies with Phillipa Black and Big Val?

I write this from jail. My cellie is in for putting up a “humans are mammals” sticker. Big Val across the hall was caught in possession of a “People have opposable thumbs” decal, which finished off a family of five. Me? I’m here because of the pink penis caper. Hundreds died.

twitter.com/black_phillipa/status/1031210896553635845

If you tug and come back, Aye, remember the other side has absolutely no scruples and will do ANYTHING to reach the finish line. That's what I did.

I respect that both ways. Some people have histories that mean that they can't bend the knee as that goes to the inner core of what their histories made them. Others have strategy running through their bones like Brighton Rock and have their eyes on the prize/outcome.

Oh, I'm not abandoning the cause, but I do appear to be being targeted for reporting. They already managed to force The Bewilderness out, so I guess Datun and I are next on the list.

No levity! Men are afraid that women will laugh at them, women are afraid that men will kill them. It's the men whose feelings we should worry about, obviously.

Please don't leave, AAK. You're my bestie!

Following

Thanks AAK
Along with overnight news on another thread these are worrying times we live in.

Cesira is still around in other places, will check and see if she's still able to post here. Going by the recent exchange I had about a (truly ridiculous) deletion I may be on my way out also - we should start an Excel sheet to track all the commenters who've been pushed out, and how it was done. God knows the people abusing the reporting system to make it happen probably have one.

What has happened to CesiraAndEnrico?
She was all over sticker design but I realised has been absent for some time now.

This is the rule I remembered from the OP of the McDonnell web chat:

We’re expecting this to be a busy webchat, so only existing Mumsnet users are able to post on this thread. Apologies to anyone new who can’t post - please stick around, we’ve got lots of other things coming up

Of course I'm not suggesting creating a new burner account for webchats, that probably breaks MN rules

I think I noticed a new (?) rule about people who ask questions on web chats have to have been registered on MN previously.

For what it's worth, there's something very different about webchats when it comes to the banhammer.
How I got my username. I was suspended for apparently 'barracking' on a Jess Phillips webchat a fair while ago, as were several others. Barracking being defined as asking again a question which hadn't been answered.

It's as if one particular moderator has ultimate responsibility specifically for webchats and can ban with impunity, and without review or oversight by fellow mods.

I might be wrong about that of course. But there is a specific mod that I won't name who one needs to tread carefully around.

We lose more posters on webchats than on the boards

It's almost worth not posting under your own account, the risk is so high. Of course I'm not suggesting creating a new burner account for webchats, that probably breaks MN rules. But if you know someone with an account who doesn't care about the risk of banning that's one way to get questions in to a politician without risking your long term profile.

I tend to avoid them myself.

All of which sucks feet, frankly.

I'm gutted about all of them. Specially Pratchet who always seemed kind.
I have stopped posting so much here. I actually feel freer on Twitter.
This 'we take things on a case by case basis' - no hard and fast rules, just means that we are all on tenterhooks all the time, while they can reach for the ban hammer on a whim.
I suppose this is the desired effect.
It's a shame for Mumsnet as a brand too - when the history of this is written they had a chance to come out as heroes. Now they just look like traitors.

If something to strengthen the resolve is needed, here it is - there is nobody in government that's going to ride in and save the day, not unless we force their hand. Currently there is nothing standing between women and girls and the complete removal of any right we have to privacy and single sex spaces except us (and similar women on other platforms, and a few decent men who get it like Kirkup). So how is giving up a realistic option?

If you tug and come back, Aye, remember the other side has absolutely no scruples and will do ANYTHING to reach the finish line. That's what I did.

I'm suspended after the SC thread. No massive loss as I stopped posting much after Dittany was hounded off the boards. Lurking whilst I decide whether or not to forelock tug.

TiggyD?

What, the well loved contributor TiggyD?

First (and last) time I’ve ever seen anyone describe themselves in such terms

I got suspended btw. I bowed and scraped. I respect Bewilder and Mary for not doing that.