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Who is feminism about and for?

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JellySlice · 30/08/2018 09:10

Why is feminism - of any flavour - expected to centre anyone that is not female?

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JellySlice · 30/08/2018 18:16

It didn't make sense to me, but, because I didn't understand all their terminology, I wasn't sure why it didn't make sense.

Obviously what they were saying didn't make sense because it was nonsense!

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MIdgebabe · 30/08/2018 18:11

So if we want to get rid of gender sterotypes, then we were not acting as they expect women should?

there we are then, feminism is still needed.

herworldoutsideit · 30/08/2018 17:35

They seemed to believe that feminism which centred itself exclusively on females was essentially unfemale, as selfishness and exclusivity were unfemale traits.

My mouth literally fell open when I read this. What gendered, sexist bullshit. Yes, women mustn't centre their themselves, as they are too NICE, it would be counter to their gentle,caring natures to think of someone other than themselves.

Fuck's sake, this crap is taking us back to ideas about women dating from the 1800;s.

JellySlice · 30/08/2018 16:37

I didn't realise that I was one until fairly recently!

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speakingwoman · 30/08/2018 16:28

understanding that it is not primarily about equality is a tricky concept (for me at least).

LadybirdsAreBirds · 30/08/2018 16:21

So mistaken that I can't spell mistaken

LadybirdsAreBirds · 30/08/2018 16:21

I never understood what feminism was. I thought I was one but I was msitaken

speakingwoman · 30/08/2018 16:09

quick applause for science roar

speakingwoman · 30/08/2018 16:09

despite being off-message a good proportion of the time on this board, I think I'm getting the hang of this what-feminism-is thing.

You can tell when you have convos with people in real life.

speakingwoman · 30/08/2018 16:08

"They seemed to believe that feminism which centred itself exclusively on females was essentially unfemale, as selfishness and exclusivity were unfemale traits."

holy crap.

anyway, quality thread, OP.

JellySlice · 30/08/2018 15:20

Another thing that confused me was that this group of friends considered themselves to be breaking stereotypes.

We were all, I'd guess, late 40s upwards, but the discussion reminded me of the right-on political philosophy types from my uni days spouting long-winded sentences with polysyllabic technical vocabulary.

It ignored people's lived experiences and sounded hypocritical then, it does the same now.

I was the newcomer to the group. I was made very welcome but will not return.

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Ereshkigal · 30/08/2018 12:57

Great post ScienceRoar

Yes this is the exact logic of male centred "intersectional" feminism.

When fighting for social justice, it is reasonable to prioritise oppressed classes.

For example, issues disproportionately affecting poor women might take priority over those affecting wealthier women.

Transgender people are more oppressed than gender conforming people.

Women are more oppressed than men.

Feminism should therefore focus on issues affecting the most oppressed females, ie transwomen.

Issues such as clitoral and labial mutilation, maternity rights, unequal pay, chest-feeding etc. should be treated with caution, because they are not inclusive of transwomen

NameChangedAgain18 · 30/08/2018 12:01

as selfishness and exclusivity were unfemale traits.

A harmful socially-constructed stereotype, of the kind that feminism fights against. For obvious reasons, it’s one that’s very appealing to (and convenient for) men. There are plenty of men in my profession who benefit from it enormously.

ErrolTheDragon · 30/08/2018 11:56

They seemed to believe that feminism which centred itself exclusively on females was essentially unfemale, as selfishness and exclusivity were unfemale traits.

Feminism is not defined by gender stereotypes such as 'selfishness is unfemale'. Such stereotypes contribute to structural sexism e.g the disproportionate number of women carers.

ScienceRoar · 30/08/2018 11:53

Some MTF transgender people claim to be female. What follows is why we must not accept this premise
Feminism would therefore apply to them.
When fighting for social justice, it is reasonable to prioritise oppressed classes. For example, issues disproportionately affecting poor women might take priority over those affecting wealthier women.
Transgender people are more oppressed than gender conforming people.
Women are more oppressed than men.
Feminism should therefore focus on issues affecting the most oppressed females, ie transwomen.
Issues such as clitoral and labial mutilation, maternity rights, unequal pay, chest-feeding etc. should be treated with caution, because they are not inclusive of transwomen

Ereshkigal · 30/08/2018 11:51

They seemed to believe that feminism which centred itself exclusively on females was essentially unfemale, as selfishness and exclusivity were unfemale traits.

I guess that makes the whole of FWR men then.

terryleather · 30/08/2018 11:34

This has been posted before but I still love it...

Who is feminism about and for?
JellySlice · 30/08/2018 10:51

Thanks. I'm relatively new to the terminology, and my brain was being somewhat blown by a very 'woke' discussion among a group of lefties. What I heard just did not make any sense!

They seemed to believe that feminism which centred itself exclusively on females was essentially unfemale, as selfishness and exclusivity were unfemale traits.

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Bingpot · 30/08/2018 10:48

Someone will always ask, if it's about equality (as that's what most dictionary definitions incorrectly imply) then why isn't it called humanism, or equaltyism. And plenty of people reject the label 'feminist' for sounding too aggressive or for prioritising women over men or many of those other behaviours women have been socialised against.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has an excellent answer to this that my slow phone won't help me find but it's all about acknowledging that sex and gender are the problem and the name 'feminism' is necessary to identify what women are oppressed by. Simply being pro equality between sexes masks the problem somewhat.

Which is why to my mind, despite quotes like the one from Paris Lees, trans women cannot be a part of feminism as they uphold the gender binary feminists are trying to liberate themselves from.

BettyDuMonde · 30/08/2018 10:33

Feminism is good for men too, but as a side effect, it’s not the aim!

‘If your intersectionality isn’t female-centred, it isn’t Feminism’

ToeToToe · 30/08/2018 10:29

No, that would be ridiculously selfish, Eresh.

Ereshkigal · 30/08/2018 10:28

Intersectional feminism is being abused by men. It was only ever about recognising other forms of oppression that affect women too, such as racism, class. It was never about men.

This. But of course adult human females aka women aren't allowed to have a liberation movement that centres them.

ToeToToe · 30/08/2018 10:27

Intersectional feminism is being abused by men. It was only ever about recognising other forms of oppression that affect women too, such as racism, class. It was never about men.

Although I have argued that feminism can benefit men too - breaking down gender barriers benefits everyone. For example, the saying 'men don't cry' - why can't they? They are socialised to be 'strong' and 'stiff upper lip' - which can be harmful to mental health.

But still, feminism is the liberation of women from patriarchal oppression.

FanWithoutAGuard · 30/08/2018 10:26

yes, but it's other oppressions that intersect (as in layer, not as in meet at a corner) with being female.

ie AND, not OR.

MaidOfStars · 30/08/2018 10:26

Intersectional feminism relates other axes of oppression to the female experience, to understand how, say, black females have experiences that cannot simply be accounted for by examining race or sex in isolation.

So yes, femaleness is necessary!

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