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My husband just accidentally explained male privilege.

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SimonBridges · 15/08/2018 22:40

Please enjoy this analogy. He’s a lovely chap really but didn’t get my point.

DH is very tall. I am very short.
When we walk anywhere he strides on ahead. I am trotting along trying to keep up. Because he is in front of me he moves to the middle of the pavement meaning that I have to walk behind him going at the very limit of my walking speed just to keep up.

Today he said to me ‘why are you always three paces behind me?’
To which I replied ‘no, the question is why are you three paces in front’.

He didn’t understand.

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Voice0fReason · 15/08/2018 22:54

It is a good analogy. It's a shame he didn't get it!

FrayedHem · 15/08/2018 22:54

Just think when you two have kids you'll look like a row of ducks.
GrinGrin

ThisIsTheNational · 15/08/2018 22:54
Grin
Jupiter9 · 15/08/2018 22:53

Tell him to walk slower

RaininSummer · 15/08/2018 22:52

This is a great way way to explain it isnt it?

LastOneDancing · 15/08/2018 22:51

Bah! Cross post.
Close enough though!

LastOneDancing · 15/08/2018 22:50

So...

His biological traits give him a natural advantage.
He assumes his DW should be able to match the pace he sets, despite having different attributes.
And assumes his pace is the correct one.

Did I get it right?!

SturdyEarmuffs · 15/08/2018 22:49

I like that analogy 👍

Original poster
SimonBridges · 15/08/2018 22:48

Well yes.
His physical male privilege is that he is taller and has a faster walking speed. I’m struggling to keep up and he is wondering why I am behind.

Rather like women in the work place. We are conditioned to behave in certain ways a have physical situation, like pregnancy, that keep us behind and unable to keep up. Meanwhile the men just keep striding along not realising that we are running just to keep up. Then they wonder women don’t just work a bit harder to close the gap rather than acknowledging that they have had a easier run of it.

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UpstartCrow · 15/08/2018 22:47

Just think when you two have kids you'll look like a row of ducks.

LaContessaDiPlump · 15/08/2018 22:46

To him, op is lagging behind.

To op, he is racing ahead and making her run to catch up.

OP explained her perspective to him. He did not understand how her perspective could differ from his own.

Lo, 'tis male privilege.

SoftSheen · 15/08/2018 22:43

You need a scooter.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 15/08/2018 22:42

I don’t understand either. He walks faster because he’s taller, is that it? Confused

Ereshkigal · 15/08/2018 22:41
Grin
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