Given all this, I think it's clear that either sex games gone wrong needs to go as a defence or sex games gone wrong needs to be specifically delineated as an aggravating factor in sentencing.
YY Lang ^^^
Squirrel, woman, Justice, Seafret yes- let’s make this all these actions a tribute to the dead women who can’t speak.
It feels like the sentencing is all based around male entitlement to sex, sexual pleasure and orgasm. That is intolerable. And means female victims can never get justice.
I mean (sorry for the horrible detail but) apparently from the press reports the perpetrator claimed that he didn’t notice that he’d knifed her in the neck until her body jerked.
Why THE FUCK is that any defence?
Why would not noticing make him LESS culpable and responsible for his use of a knife held at her throat? That claimed lack of attention and (or certainly admitted lack of care - who knows what his actual motives were and if they were even that ‘benign’) surely should make him MORE culpable as PP have said?
But you know, what kind of woman-hating courtroom is it, if in the first place it is plausible to claim, that an omission is what caused her death?
What reasonable (if allegedly distracted) actions did the judge think were happening- while this girl had a knife pressed hard to her throat whilst she was being fucked? Where was the care for her? How was the man ensuring her actively consenting pleasure after they had both had coke and vodka?
Why are judges accepting perpetrators’ claims of the primacy of their male sexual pleasure, or male orgasm, in these cases? Above preserving and not threatening women’s lives?
How is it plausible to judges (and how, legally, any mitigation) that men who are ‘having sex with’ 
someone else then go off into some kind of alternative reality.. so powerful as to provide an alibi when this (claimed) altered state of responsibility and attention results in his ‘partner’s’ DEATH?
Male sexual pleasure and orgasm is clearly a place very very far apart from women’s permitted experience of sex with another person?
Only Man enters this sacred uninterruptable fuck-trance that renders him incapable of normal adult responsibility. He is lost in his magic male space, incapable of thought or reason, care for the partner, concern for her consent, bodily pleasure or his threats to her life, totally unaware of his surroundings, blind to what he can see, deaf to her sounds, insensate to what he can feel (outside of what is going on with his magically mesmerising penis of course). Including the feel of the responses of the woman whose body he is repeatedly pushing his dick into...
Which I’m going to go out on a limb and assume he is doing forcefully*’ AND BY THEN OBVIOUSLY, YOU KNOW, HE IS UNDERSTANDABLY TOTALLY PHYSICALLY OR MENTALLY INCAPABLE OF STOPPING until his pleasure is concluded to his own satisfaction?
*taking cocaine results in a longer time and less easy achievement to get to orgasm. The news reports say they had had cocaine and vodka.
melmagazine.com/what-sex-is-like-on-every-popular-drug-9d17138585a3
This courtroom account of male sexual pleasure as ‘gateway to an unreachable world’ is narcissistic, solipsistic, misogynistic bullshit. It literally lets men get away with murder.
Why should men have the alibi of their own untouchable primacy of sexual pleasure while they are fucking another person? (an alibi I have never heard of granted to a woman).
What about men’s responsibility to know what is going on with the woman, her consent, safety, pleasure, or whether in fact she is fighting for her life?
How does the judge resolve the cognitive dissonance that at the same time as this man is in his unknowing, unreachable (yet strangely very, very, physically exerting ) state of pleasure.. that the man is also conscious enough to be with some physical effort applying the correct side of the knife edge in the right place and so very hard to this woman’s throat, that she DIED, in an incredibly brutal way?!
HOW THE FUCK IS ‘I DIDN'T NOTICE’ EVEN REMOTELY PLAUSIBLE IN COURT?!!
It’s utterly horrendous to think about this poor young girl and her bereaved small child and her family and partner.
This scenario must no longer be treated as a one-off, a bizarre ‘sex-game-gone-wrong’.
Sexual violence becoming a much much bigger problem which may well affect our children, families and partners, us.
Women’s and young people’s groups need to make as much noise as possible about these cases.
Judges need to understand that (what they might think are) ‘bizarre sex games’ are increasingly ‘normal’ aspects of ‘standard’ porn and frighteningly easily accessible. Porn is in a constant race to the bottom in producing more and more extreme content.
Viewers (of all ages) become desensitised to sexual violence in porn, which becomes a normal part of IRL fantasy and sex, girls get coerced into this or just accept it as ‘what sex is like’. There WILL be further widespread psychological harm, more deaths and permanent injuries for the ‘lucky’ ones who aren’t killed.
We need much harsher sentences for perpetrators. Young people must be educated routinely at school very, very frankly about the abusive and abnormal misogynistic shit that they are exposed to via what is called ‘porn’ today, its effects on them and its dangers, plus all the usual basic messages about the fundamental need for active consent.