Saying no to men

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OunceOfFlounce · 31/07/2018 10:30

I've heard the idea on here that its useful for a woman to say no to a man about something trivial in order to see how he reacts. I like this idea a lot and wonder if anyone could give an example of when they've done this irl and how they've interpreted the results?

I don't really get this kind of advice anywhere other than here.

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silentcrow · 31/07/2018 12:11

It's not just explosive behaviour you need to watch for - keep an eye on wheedling, whiny or blackmailing behaviour too. Or being overly-selfsacrificing so that you "owe" them something. It's all boundry-pushing, even if it's done "nicely".

Yeah, had one of those.

deydododatdodontdeydo · 31/07/2018 11:58

I would imagine it's good advice.
It's never occurred to me not to say no when I didn't want to do something, so I guess people who meet me become aware of this fairly early on.
I can't recall any of my partners responding badly, I must have been lucky.

HotRocker · 31/07/2018 11:50

In, not and*

HotRocker · 31/07/2018 11:48

Oh yes, same with mine. If only I’d known then what I know now. My ex was lovely as long as you were going along with him. I don’t think the word no was in my vocabulary in those days, and when it found its way and he became anything but lovely. If I was dating men now I’d certainly try this approach. Better to find out early doors if he is a misogynistic, Boundry ignoring twat.

rememberatime · 31/07/2018 10:58

I think there are lots of ways to check a man for his secret attitudes.

The way he treats other people (waitresses especially) is one.

I haven't specifically done this - but certainly found that saying no to my ex was like a red rag to a bull. it wasn't a test - but I should have taken notice of it.

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OunceOfFlounce · 31/07/2018 10:31

Oh, and sorry if this is already a thread. I looked but couldn't find one.

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