Wedding!! Sister being walked down aisle by brother

kitchen how do you arrive at that conclusion based on a thread on which, barring the possibly trolly OP (who's only posted once) and one other poster, almost everyone has said "not your wedding, the bride gets to choose"?

Great example of how feminists aren't interested in giving women more choices, only in ensuring they're aligned with the feminist narrative.

Which is actually (as I'm sure this poor bride would agree) oppressive and obnoxious.

I asked my brother to walk me down the aisle after my dad died. It’s your sister’s choice who walks with her. You’ve given reasons as to why you object and that is your right to feel that way but it’s her wedding day and I don’t think she’s made a bad choice.

Four days before the wedding is not the time to have this discussion - she has made her plans, she has spoken to everyone involved, it's all set.

Kick back, enjoy the event and support your sister on her wedding day

Eh? Its up to her innit. My brother walked me down the isle. Absolutely nothing to do with anyone else.

OP is a plopper!

I gave the speech instead of the father of the bride speech. It was a fucking awful speech, and I cringe at the memory of how chronically I arsed it up, because I was nervous and forgetful and emotional. But probably not the worst speech ever.

Completely out of order, she has said she wants her brother to do it, so butt out and let her make her decision

Maybe your mum doesn't want to walk her down the aisle.

My colleague had her then 4 year old son walk her down the aisle as both her parents were dead.

Is your brother making a speech? Maybe you could offer to make a speech as it does seem rough that it's only men that get to talk so maybe that'd be some sort of compromise? My sister did my 'Father of the Bride' speech. She quoted Jerry Springer though so maybe she was a bad choice I made a speech too.

"I’m just shocked at why all you other ‘feminists’ aren’t showing any comprehension of why she has an issue with it! "

No one has said anything which implies they don't understand why the OP has an issue with it, and if it was her wedding and she was looking for ammunition to shut up family members who were muttering, I'm sure everyone would be right behind her and coming up with loads of things she could say.

Everyone understands why the OP has an issue with the concept, but it's not the OP's place to have (or express) an issue with something someone else is doing at their own wedding and which doesn't actually affect her at all.

I wonder what response you were expecting. Very telling that you've disappeared. Also very glad to not have a sister like you.

You've given her your views, and she's given no fucks in return.

Your sister kinda sounds like she rocks, you sound like you're being a pain in the bum.

My brother gave me away.... 10 years ago and I would have him do it now. I was 22 when I got married...

Yes my dad was/is alive and so is my mom.

My dad hasn't been there for me really so I didn't see why he should do such a special thing on my big day.

My mom has always been there for me and I did think about her giving me away but I am very traditional and I wanted a man to give me away.

When my daughters birth certificates were signed it was my husband who did it and not me first as he is there dad and the man in our relationship and I think it's his place as he looks after us as a family and although I look after our family too I still feel it's his place.

It's definitely each to there own and a personal decision..

So feminist explanations are patronising and cause rifts in families so should be avoided. Oh stop it! You know damn well my post was in direct response to your suggestion that OP took even more time to belabour hers DSis about her wedding - not as a global point.

If you want to cry go cry over the fact that you need to make things up to support your point!

Remember what the point of ANY political point it... to persuade people to reach an accord, not infuriate them! AKA

So you go and get married, or remarried, and have your mother walk you down the aisle. Your wedding, your choice. Stop being "infuriated" about someone else's wedding arrangements.

what utter bollocks femisnism?

its up to her not you she can have the postman walking her down the aisle if she wants

I totally understand your frustration with her picking your DB rather than your DM, but it is her wedding so her choice. Unless you want to spoil her day, say nothing.

Name change fail, OP?

Hideandgo my opinions are irrelevant as it's not my wedding.

If the OP had asked what people thought of the traditional in general that would have been different.

It's fuck all to do with you who your sister has walking her down the aisle!!!! You need to be keeping your mad thoughts to yourself so you don't ruin her day

This can't be real, no one's that fucking spiteful to try and turn their sibling's wedding into a point-making opportunity for themselves. Like the sister hasn't already got enough to think about this close to the wedding.

Btw are you all religious and go to church every Sunday?

Only give your opinion if she asks you what you think. Let her decide.