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Safeguarding girls and protecting women post Jimmy Saville & #metoo

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SpareRibFem · 09/07/2018 10:59

I don't understand, there was a lot of hand wringing after the revelations about Jimmy Saville became widely accepted. #metoo there was more handwringing about the need to listen to women when they are telling you something that makes you uncomfortable.

Saville was allowed to get away with what he didn't because he created an aura of fear and people would afraid of the backlash if they spoke up. Those that did suffered.

We were promised something like that could never happen again...

And yet now despite many women and girls saying they feel afraid and uncomfortable sharing single sex spaces with someone with a penis weren't told we're bigoted and verbally abused for saying that. Our employers are contacted and told we're bigots, we're doxxed.

And organisations like girl guides are going still further in saying it must be kept a secret when girls are being forced to sleep and change with a male bodied teen with a penis (& teen levels of hormones) and I'm not even allowed to identify what sex that male bodied teen with a penis is on a public forum

Girl Guides are taking that approach despite the knowledge that abusers use secrecy and shame to their advantage.

Just like with Saville anyone who excesses concerns is shouted down and accused of being the person in the wrong by the powerful. There is a culture of fear now. Celebrity voices in particular (thinking people like Munroe Bergdorf, Stephen Fry and long list of others) are given more weight to shout down women's concerns. Male bodied people feelings are paramount despite almost all sexual abusers being male bodied (and most of the tiny tiny number of female bodied sexual abusers working with and being in thrall to a male bodied abuser)

Did we as a society learn nothing from Saville & the multitude of other abuse scandals that women and children/girls should be listened to, that celebrities voices help hide abusers, that telling girls to keep secrets from their parents about the presence of penises in their bedrooms and changing rooms and showing them they will be blamed and abused if they transgress and tell someone creates an environment where abuse can flourish.

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Offred · 09/07/2018 12:54

It’s why these things continue to happen, why we haven’t learned anything. People just don’t want to believe that JS etc could not have been so bad without all of the hidden JS in positions of authority within these organisations who remain hidden to this day.

The prospect of this is frightening.

Sarahjconnor · 09/07/2018 12:53

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Wanderabout · 09/07/2018 12:51

What's more horrifying to me is that all those f*king agencies and people supposedly paid and employed to "safeguard" children are complicit in the wholesale dereliction of their duty by putting children in harms' way by not doing any, i.e. zero, impact statements, in any organisation, of the consequences of relaxing sex-segregated spaces.

This. It's a fucking joke. It needs to change.

womanformallyknownaswoman · 09/07/2018 12:51

It's more than likely the management were in on it.

They'd either be in on it or groomed - wasn't it Esther Rantzen who defended JS?

In the end, the perps get protected by the organisation because otherwise, employees become whistleblowers and we know what happens to them.... and we have a parallel situation now where people are silenced around their misgivings about the loss of single-sex spaces and /or having someone who believes they have changed sex as a boss or peer. Instead of open discussion, one side is silenced.

CaptainKirkssparetupee · 09/07/2018 12:47

look at the people who enabled & defended him, as well as Thatcher etc
not suprising as the likes of Peter Hayman were part of the Westminster paedophile ring.

Floorplan · 09/07/2018 12:47

Saville was terrifying to me as a child. My family always watched the show Jimll fix it. He used to make my skin crawl. Recently a family member of a similar age has been found out as a paedophile and they made me feel the same as a child. Believe me Ofred Saville had something deeply terryfying about him, and if kids could pick it up them Im sure certain adults could too. That doesnt mean the bbc wasnt equally complicit - guilt and responsibility are not halved by being shared. And Sarah Flowers

bigKiteFlying · 09/07/2018 12:47

but those trying to report were dismissed and made to feel they were the people in the wrong

That’s my fear with the Girl Guides current stance. They are so adamant there will be no safeguarding issues with their gender from sex change - if something did happen would they pressure the girls to stay quite or make them feel wrong by complaining.

womanformallyknownaswoman · 09/07/2018 12:46

bigKiteFlying

there's a thread already up I see. What were those school rape figures btw?

CaptainKirkssparetupee · 09/07/2018 12:43

They groomed the BBC management

It's more than likely the management were in on it.

Offred · 09/07/2018 12:43

No spareribfem - I’m focusing on the fact that what we are meant to take from the whole thing is that he was bad and people were afraid of him and we are meant to ignore that the organisations were also bad and actively protected him in full knowledge of who he was and what he was doing. That this led people to be afraid of the organisations as well as Saville.

^ This is the important part re organisational learning and it is not being learnt in fact there is a reasonable amount of evidence to suggest it is still going on in West yorks police and LA.

womanformallyknownaswoman · 09/07/2018 12:38

Savile, glitter and king all had the same camera man. Hall, Harris and savile were the BBC’s top kids entertainers. It was organisational culture.

They groomed those around them well - including JS using his cover of doing "good work" ie Jim'll Fix It plus his "charity work".

They groomed the BBC management - look at the people who enabled & defended him, as well as Thatcher etc

Solution: outsource program production, a policy of turn a blind eye plus wait til they die; a few token prosecutions of low hanging fruit, and lastly topped off by a few hail marys - right - that'll solve it /s

Oh and now the BBC employs a larger % of those who believe they can change sex than contemporary organisations

SpareRibFem · 09/07/2018 12:38

Offre you're the only person focussing on whether people were afraid of Saville directly then saying we mustn't focus on that. Confused

There was an aura of fear around flagging Saville's crimes to authorities. His behaviour was known to many and known to be wrong by many but those trying to report were dismissed and made to feel they were the people in the wrong and at times lost jobs.

I see huge similarities with what's happening now around the pushing through of gender not sex being the important factor for safeguarding and protecting women and girls. And there is fear around discussing this.

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LangCleg · 09/07/2018 12:38

Yes, but it is crucial IMO to recognise that it was not just a fear of Saville but a fear of the fact that organisations like the BBC and the police were actively protecting him and intimidating the people he harmed.

Absolutely. And, with regards to the safeguarding lessons learned from that, how come it's playing out all over again? The safeguarding of children trumps all other issues and agendas. My agenda, your agenda and yes, the bloody extremist trans agenda too.

bigKiteFlying · 09/07/2018 12:33

I was going to do one about misogyny and the Notts Police pilot - the stats are horrifying but great to see them quantified.

Good idea - they do need highlighting as much as possible. Depressingly I looked at the figures and though - hmm about right Sad.

The school rape figures through - few years older - really did shock me.

Offred · 09/07/2018 12:32

This narrative of ‘Bad people are bad people, we didn’t know but if we had of known there would have been nothing we could have done because bad people are just so bad’ Is so incredibly pervasive it features in every single media report about every single abuser!

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UpstartCrow · 09/07/2018 12:23

Powerless people were afraid of Saville. Those who gained benefit from belonging to the group colluded with him and each other.

I would also like to point out that these people have to find each other, somehow. They have to be able to recognise each other, and recruit.

One recruitment tactic they use is to gain information on an individual, and use the threat of exposure to coerce them. They might do that by using a set up, or by using another individual who has access to confidential information.
That individual may then go on to think 'in for a penny, in for a pound' and go along with the group.
They are both threatened and benefitting from membership. Its not always a simple cut and dried relationship.

Sarahjconnor You are not unhinged.
People need to be able to recognise patterns of behaviour, just as you recognise it in the way safeguarding is being dealt with at your DD's school. Unless we can do that, we cant challenge or change them.

Offred · 09/07/2018 12:21

Yes, and it just so happens that the very same region of the U.K. is involved in a number of other dodgy situations now re sex work, trans agenda and child abuse....

The same police force Saville boasted about protecting him...

But yeah, everyone was afraid of him and couldn’t help it!

Baroquehavoc · 09/07/2018 12:19

I agree that JS didn't have any power, he was one of many DJ s and TV personalities. He was replaceable.

I don't think many thought what he was doing was a big deal, maybe they thought he was pushing the boundaries a bit, but his victims weren't important to anyone with the ability to stop it.

womanformallyknownaswoman · 09/07/2018 12:19

bigKiteFlying

I think that deserves a post on its own - I was going to do one about misogyny and the Notts Police pilot - the stats are horrifying but great to see them quantified.

CaptainKirkssparetupee · 09/07/2018 12:16

Saville was protected because he cultivated friendships with people in power and because what he was doing was known about and understood to be acceptable by those around him but particularly by those powerful friends who protected him. I doubt they were afraid of him, I suspect they were/are like him...

This!
High up people like him who were in power then covered it up and high up people like him who are in power now are still covering things up.

Offred · 09/07/2018 12:15

And also yy re Nanette and ‘men’s reputations’

Offred · 09/07/2018 12:13

And yy re the lack of organisational learning from Saville... This is why I am so irate re ‘everyone was afraid of him’... Bullshit they were... Total bullshit...