Gender and IoT (Internet of Things) resource list

Your post Quarks gives me shivers. I would hate to have that level of constant monitoring. The benefits seem nebulous in the extreme.

I don't remotely think this colleague (or his wife) is an abusive controller but the fact they think it is normal and useful to do this would give succour to abusive controllers.

Yes in a "why would you not want me to have access, you don't have anything to hide do you?" kind of way.

That’s a fantastic resource.

Wasn’t there an article on this very recently? I’ll try to find it.

Lass, I have to admit that our whole family use ‘ find friends’ location tracking software- my parents and my siblings and my husband. My husband was actually the one who said he found it creepy and was resistant to using it. However, we now find it invaluable. With DH, he can come and meet me and the little ones if we’re still out when he’s on his way home. Likewise I can see how soon he’ll be back if I’m counting down the minutes when there’s multiple toddler tantrums going on.

With my other family members I can see whether it’s a good time to call as can see if they’re home or not. Plus nice to feel connected as we live across the globe.

Derail aside, I can totally see how this technology could facilitate abuse in the wrong hands though.

We were talking, with incredulity, just this week at work ,about a colleague who does this...(correcting the grammar)

I was shocked to find out there are people who voluntarily allow their partners to access their Apple accounts/ Google accounts and allow location sharing on their phones.

We were talking just this week at work about a colleague who does this, with incredulity, but apparently this colleague and his wife seem to think it's perfectly normal . Apparently it was the wife's idea.

I don't remotely think this colleague (or his wife) is an abusive controller but the fact they think it is normal and useful to do this would give succour to abusive controllers.

I found this on the website which fleshes out some scenarios. Chilling. Has anyone ever seen the BBC drama Murdered by my Boyfriend? I was in a severely controlling violent relationship with a jealous man when young, and I'm so glad there weren't any smartphones then, on the rare occasions I wasn't in his presence.

eandt.theiet.org/content/articles/2018/06/iot-devices-and-smart-domestic-abuse-who-has-the-controls/

Wow, yes. I had no idea what this thread was so didn’t open it for ages.

Here’s the guide that goes with the resource list:

www.ucl.ac.uk/steapp/research/projects/digital-policy-lab/gender-iot-tech-abuse

And the webpage that hosts both PDFs:

www.ucl.ac.uk/steapp/research/projects/digital-policy-lab/dpl-projects/gender-and-iot

(For anyone time poor that pops in but doesn’t link follow, this is about how domestic abusers can use modern technology to stalk/spy on victims and how to ensure it doesn’t happen to you)

Really important thread - Scribblegirl, do you think you could start a thread with the same link (maybe call it "DV and misuse of internet technology" as suggested upthread so people can clearly see what it's about), over on the Relationships board?

I think this would be a phenomenally useful resource over there (and many of the posters who really need help with this stuff might well not think of coming over to FWR).

I agree, this is really useful, and could do with a thread title change to attract more posters.

That's useful stuff. Not for reasons of DV (just generalised realisation of the way technology can be abused) DH and I steer clear of 'internet of things' devices as far as possible.

I'm just wondering if the title of this thread will get noticed by all the women who could really do with being aware of it - would it be worth asking MNHQ to edit the title to something like 'domestic violence and the misuse of technology ' ?