Here's one by Riley J. Dennis.
'I'm trying to show that a preference for women with vaginas over women with penises might be partially influenced by the prejudices of a cissexist society.'
'If we look a little deeper into this issue, there's a possibility of your genital preferences being at least partially informed by growing up in a cissexist society. There's also the fact that a preference is different from saying you would never do something. [...] Simply saying 'it's my preference, end of discussion' is a good way of sidelining all of those issues and instead centering cis people in a discussion that's about trans people.'
'If intimacy with someone with a penis is triggering for you, I would never suggest that you have to do that. Take your time to heal and work through your trauma at your own pace. Just be aware that the majority of people making the 'I could never date someone with a penis' argument are not doing so because of trauma or triggers.'
'Even if you don't consider yourself a part of [the gender critical and radfem] movements you're siding with them when you use their arguments. Their entire platform is cissexist, and their arguments reflect that.'
Riley ends by telling people lesbians who don't want relationships with transwomen 'not to shout about it' and to consider the transwomen's feelings.