Gender Critical 'Lurkers'

It's important to show support even if you haven't much to add to whatever has already been said
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Another lurker here, hello!

OvulaRasa

Thanks to BadasIwannaB also for starting the thread. It has given lurkers the opportunity to pop in and say hello.

It can be a bit scary posting here at first. some of the regular posters are very unfairly portrayed as a hostile bunch, and in my experience that's just not true.

I haven't had my arse handed to me by any of them.......... yet

I came to the board years ago, all gun hoe. Although raised a feminist, through my adult life, I'd bought into the line, that feminism had gone to far, and it was doing more harm then good. But I have learnt so much from here and Mumsnet as a whole.

a couple of years ago I posted quite a bit on the trans threads, but wasn't as frequent or articulate as others. But asked questions and looked for research, to educate myself further and share some stuff I found. I mainly lurk now though. I name change a lot. I don't see some of names that were posting when I was. But lots of names(maybe also after a name change) have picked up the baton and continued relentlessly.

Thank you, Thank you all who who carry on, sometimes having to say the same thing over and over again.

for OvulaRasa

This thread is wonderful and has made me a bit teary tbh.
I'm an occasional poster but mainly lurker for all the reasons people have said and also because I'm more a flippant one liner type of person!
However since I retired (from a university, enough said ) I've been taking the knowledge from here into RL and doing my best there.
It's working, it's working! Once the scales have fallen from people's eyes, they don't grow back

I too delurk very occasionally, but I'm always here and reading, although it's hard sometimes because it makes me so upset. I don't have anyone I can talk to about this in RL, although I have peaked DH.

I've been cheering from the sidelines along with so many threads - the GG and ManFriday ones in particular. I honestly feel sometimes as though the world has gone utterly barking mad - only this week the Times (I think) had some report about the introduction of the term 'menstruating people'.

The tenacious posters on here are stars. 💐 to all of you.

Have posted little before under a Peace loving name, but love has win and I'm delurking to draw a line.
I got trans at home, the latest variant called Rapid Onset Gender Disphoria. I'm pained that my not believing in Gender has raised NGC kids that have got even further confused from tensions home - outside world (I live in a very provincial area). Cluster of lesbians turn into Transman late teens. Mine is out to the world but not to extended family. Crazy time trying to keep family together. Parents gender abolishers, kids sold out to trans.

My voice has been contained for to long for fear of damaging already fragile relationship with my now adult kid. Reading here and on gendercriticalresources, 4thwave now, Transgender trend, FPFW and First do not harm sites has provided solidarity and comfort as non affirming parents are the devil.

I'm so worry for my kid health, I've been threatened with the suicide thing by so many helpful adults that have known my kid for a couple of hours and have override my parent responsibility by providing binders, name change forms, social transition at school, etc From GP to GIC.
I thank all the great voices here and admire you lots. I get it wrong talking about this. And I good like to ask more questions.

I'll do my best to keep my kid away from a pathway of lifelong medication and surgery. I hope experience will show my kid that happiness is not to be found at the end of that path, but that the bigger dosis of happiness come from accepting oneself with all our own idiosyncrasies. Being the sex you were born into, it is not a problem just a reality.

Oh wow. What an amazing thread. Hello Lurkers. ❤️

For the recently delurked, if you haven’t already please read and sign the petition if you wish, and pass it on to those you think will be happy to support and send it on.

petition.parliament.uk/petitions/214118

I lurk, I sometimes 'decloak' when I have time to breath. I too was grateful for the eyeopener. I still can't believe a lot of what is happening. Everyday there seems to be a new and weird happening and I am left wondering if the world is actually turning upside down...

& to all!

I have lurked on MN for years. I now seem to spend all my time reading FWR threads with growing horror. Two years ago I was completely unaware and completely happy in my ‘inclusive’ little bubble. The women on here have opened my eyes in such patient, articulate ways. I admire each and every one of you for your bravery and steadfastness. I take courage from you all and finally understand the term ‘womanhood’. I’m not sure any of you can fully understand the impact you have on lurkers like me. You really are amazing. And very powerful. My daughter will thank you one day.
I have totally got the fear about posting this, but here goes.

Prestons double cakes look like boobs.

I sometimes post but lurked for quite a while
I don't agree with everything everyone says all of the time, and I'm a bit worried about transsexuals being caught in the crossfire BUT I'm more worried about political representation/opportunities becoming even more limited for women than they already are. The Labour AWS sent me looking on here, because I just knew it was (literal) bollocks.
I'm also worried about children being "helped" to decide their sex, when actually they can't. They can however be feminine, masculine, gay, straight, bi, and that's all good.
I grew up with a whole bunch of gender non conforming types and I don't think liking frocks is just for girls, or going make up free is just for boys. I want everyone to wear what they like and love who they like without reverting to sexist stereotypes.
I won't go near Twitter but I may attend a RL event at somepoint and that's all down to the FWR posters.
I particularly like bowlofbabelfish when she annihilates the faux science posters.
Peace and love x

Also de-lurking to say Thank You! The regulars here are so knowledgeable and inspiring. My eyes have been opened to so much that is either not reported in mainstream or reported with facts distorted. This is such a valuable community of intelligent, informed women I would be heartsick to lose it, even though I don't post.

I've been lurking for a couple of hours every day for the past ten months and as a result have peak-transed my husband, my two best friends and my entire keep fit class! Recently we were visiting a garden in the depths of Cumbria, really in the middle of nowhere, with a tiny cafe. The waitress brought an elderly gent his coffee, and said, 'Here you are, sir.' Imagine my extreme delight when he replied, 'Don't call me sir - I might be identifying as a lady today. Just because I've got a little beard, doesn't mean I'm a man.' And everyone in the cafe absolutely fell about with hilarity, and started saying what bollocks it all is. Hurrah! I think Man Friday have been hugely effective.

I mostly lurk too Had my eyes opened by Datun et al. Also heard about Magdalen Burns here and became a massive fan girl.Watched the live steamed we need to talk Bristol meeting and got in touch with Venice and sent some wireless microphones to avoid those pesky wires getting in the way and making it easier for questions from the audience. My way of helping the fight for women and girls Thank you everyone !!!!

I don’t post much but I read and repeat to my friends. Most of them look like ‘The Scream’ when I’ve finished.

I am going to try and be less sarky and 'cool story bro' and be more Datun.

Calmer [lol], cooler [OMG] and collected.

Oh my, what a ride it will be. My OH will be laughing his socks off.

Just wanted to say that I've really appreciated your posts since you delurked, littlbrowndog. You've got a unique voice and you have all sorts of perspective to add.

I have posted occasionally, one was a cake comment 😉
I’m delurking and want to say thanks to all the regular posters.
You’ve really opened my eyes.
I joined MN earlier this year.
I was vaguely troubled by the appointment of LM and I had read about the Speakers Corner incident. I had seen reference to the acronym that sounds like earth.
I came here and found out what was really happening.
So a huge thanks to all of you regular posters
💐💐🍰🍰

And me. Occasional posting but maximum lurking.

I work in a frighteningly 'woke' profession where I'm not yet brave enough to be publicly GC. It makes for a lonely life but coming here reminds me I'm part of an amazing community of GC women.

U see what u gave us was the tools

Now we got out and use the tools

I am heartened to hear how many of our lurkers are talking about this with family, friends and colleagues - this is so important if we are to have a proper debate about the proposed changes and their wider impact. You may not post much, but you are doing really important work. 💐