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#ManFriday group closing

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YesItsADebate · 28/06/2018 13:30

It gives me great sadness to write this post but we have been attacked this week, on our Facebook organising group by someone who claims to be a feminist and an ally to our cause. They chose to leak some screenshots to a Twitter troll (outing our members) and make a ridiculous allegation against us and Dr Nic in a thread on here and has slipped through our clean-up of our online group.

They are now threatening police action against high profile members of our group unless we prostrate ourselves to her bullying. @Sweary has a great response to that: the ever eloquent G F* Y! (starred to prevent deletion! ahem).

As we don't know who they are and don't know how to stop them the only option we have is to burn the group. This loses us so many allies, who have supported our actions wholeheartedly since that first day meeting wiht my local swimming pool and it breaks my heart. As we met on MN FWR I hope that most of you are still here and see this. We really didn't want to lose you - and you were as important as those of us out there getting on with the activism.

That this has happened in the run up to the consultation being launched, a time when we really should have our attentions and activities focussed elsewhere is ridiculous. This person has chosen to pursue a personal vendetta at a time when we should be pulling together and building on the success #ManFriday has had so far.

#ManFriday will keep fighting for the rights, safety, privacy and dignity of women and girls. We aren't going away but for the security of our members, we have to use alternative platforms to the Facebook group for organising our activism. Our website, Twitter feed etc. will still be up and running (come & get a t-shirt Wink)

Please keep up with the #randomactsofmanliness and keep taking up space on Fridays. Or any day come to that.

Amy, Sweary and the #ManFriday admin team x (unMumsnetty but )

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BoreOfWhabylon · 28/06/2018 14:05

Very sorry to hear this. I will continue to follow and support you where I can.

ManFriday really brought this to the attention of 'the man on the Clapham omnibus' and all can see that the Emperor has no clothes.

No wonder they hate you

Keep on keeping on.

PS I missed the thread referred to. Is it still up or has it been pulled?

TellsEveryoneRealFacts · 28/06/2018 14:04

Can I muscle in a smidge here and suggest that it might be a good idea for anyone who joined the fb group that southfields set up, to leave the group? They are, from my overall impression, not a TRA so that isn't a worry however they have been banned from mn multiple times and things they set up tend to be a bit of a car crash.

Yes to this.

The group is too perfectly GC and the 'owner' has only been of facebook since April; there is something very wrong about it. Please leave if you have joined up - it isn't safe.

Hoppinggreen · 28/06/2018 14:01

I very sorry ladies ( today, it’s Thursday) but you are an inspirational bunch and I wish I had even a fraction of your bravery

OunceOfFlounce · 28/06/2018 14:00

This is enraging and frightening to hear but your reaction to it is inspiring.

placemats · 28/06/2018 13:59

Much love and support. Sorry about this.

ErrolTheDragon · 28/06/2018 13:58

One thing for sure, they can't shut down your petition.

petition.parliament.uk/petitions/214118

flourella · 28/06/2018 13:55

Sorry to hear this!

I'm not on Facebook, so I have no idea of the size of your presence there or how important it was for organising things and getting the word out. But thank goodness this person hasn't bullied or threatened you into stopping altogether. The campaign has been brilliant so far and is surely making a big difference. Stay safe.

ScarletBegonias · 28/06/2018 13:54

Very sorry to hear this news.

As it happens, today I'm wearing with pride my #ManFriday I Am Sportacus tee shirt!

beenandgoneandbackagain · 28/06/2018 13:54

That is one of the saddest and creepiest things I've heard in a while. I'm so sorry that women who are fighting for their rights are having to put up with this kind of abhorrent behaviour.

Please keep your eye on the prize. Eventually women will win through, and whether that takes a year, or a century, we will get there.

Procrastinator1 · 28/06/2018 13:52

So sorry. Thank you for continuing with the campaign.

TerfsUp · 28/06/2018 13:52

How awful.

BeyondFemaleElitist · 28/06/2018 13:52

Yes, compete

Datun · 28/06/2018 13:49

YesItsADebate

Jesus, i'm so sorry. Absolutely gutting for you.

It's bad enough that we have to fight TRAs but when it's someone who purports to be supportive, it's so damaging.

You will regroup, I'm sure. You're not the only group to close down and start again battered, but determined.

Gin
littlbrowndog · 28/06/2018 13:49

Gawd wats wrong wi5 the posting.
Laggy beyond belief

Cascade220 · 28/06/2018 13:47

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ballsballsballs · 28/06/2018 13:47

That's rubbish. Sad and Flowers

CompeteHalfAMile · 28/06/2018 13:47

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littlbrowndog · 28/06/2018 13:47

Total and utter creeps
Running scared the creeps.
Creeping round.
Not even (person) enough to come out in the open
Cowardly creeps

CompeteHalfAMile · 28/06/2018 13:46

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AornisHades · 28/06/2018 13:46

That's scary :(
I would say it's shocking but it isn't a shock anymore that the activists behave so badly.
Flowers

SleepIsForTheWeek · 28/06/2018 13:46
Angry
LadyLauraOver · 28/06/2018 13:46

Whoever it is should be ashamed of themselves. You won't stop the work but you have created unnecessary distress to women working for other women. You have to live with this.

CompeteHalfAMile · 28/06/2018 13:44

This happened to the labour against transphobia group, screenshots were shared with Jennifer James.

Have you been to the police over the blackmailing?

BeyondFemaleElitist · 28/06/2018 13:43

Fuck.

Angry

Can I muscle in a smidge here and suggest that it might be a good idea for anyone who joined the fb group that southfields set up, to leave the group? They are, from my overall impression, not a TRA so that isn't a worry however they have been banned from mn multiple times and things they set up tend to be a bit of a car crash.