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#ManFriday group closing

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YesItsADebate · 28/06/2018 13:30

It gives me great sadness to write this post but we have been attacked this week, on our Facebook organising group by someone who claims to be a feminist and an ally to our cause. They chose to leak some screenshots to a Twitter troll (outing our members) and make a ridiculous allegation against us and Dr Nic in a thread on here and has slipped through our clean-up of our online group.

They are now threatening police action against high profile members of our group unless we prostrate ourselves to her bullying. @Sweary has a great response to that: the ever eloquent G F* Y! (starred to prevent deletion! ahem).

As we don't know who they are and don't know how to stop them the only option we have is to burn the group. This loses us so many allies, who have supported our actions wholeheartedly since that first day meeting wiht my local swimming pool and it breaks my heart. As we met on MN FWR I hope that most of you are still here and see this. We really didn't want to lose you - and you were as important as those of us out there getting on with the activism.

That this has happened in the run up to the consultation being launched, a time when we really should have our attentions and activities focussed elsewhere is ridiculous. This person has chosen to pursue a personal vendetta at a time when we should be pulling together and building on the success #ManFriday has had so far.

#ManFriday will keep fighting for the rights, safety, privacy and dignity of women and girls. We aren't going away but for the security of our members, we have to use alternative platforms to the Facebook group for organising our activism. Our website, Twitter feed etc. will still be up and running (come & get a t-shirt Wink)

Please keep up with the #randomactsofmanliness and keep taking up space on Fridays. Or any day come to that.

Amy, Sweary and the #ManFriday admin team x (unMumsnetty but )

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WeirdScenesInsideTheGoldmine · 28/06/2018 14:32

I was with friends this morning who have all peak transed and we’ve never really spoken about it openly until today.

Each of us want to make a difference and we’re talking about how wonderful man Friday is.

You are reaching people who are willing to act too, please keep going even if under another name.

What upsets me is that if One person can cause this much disruption then the ship has sailed on our rights already

OlennasWimple · 28/06/2018 14:31
Flowers

What a shit bag they are Angry

Have you tweeted this out to James Kirkup, Janice Turner, Andrew Gilligan type journos?

picklemepopcorn · 28/06/2018 14:31

Well done on the hugely influential work you've done so far!

LangCleg · 28/06/2018 14:31

We have not been bullied into silence.

I fucking love you, Sweary.

LangCleg · 28/06/2018 14:31

We have not been bullied into silence.

I fucking love you, Sweary.

TheMostBeautifulDogInTheWorld · 28/06/2018 14:28

We have not been bullied into silence

There you see. You can't keep a good man[Friday] down. Hurrah!

So sorry you're having to deal with piles of poo meanwhile, but whoever it is picked the wrong people to try to bully.

Floorplan · 28/06/2018 14:28

Very sorry this has happened but very pleased you are carrying on.

LyraLieIn · 28/06/2018 14:26

I'm really sorry to hear this - you have done such good work to raise awareness and change the tone of the wider debate. Will keep looking out for you

anotherpersona · 28/06/2018 14:18

Please keep up the actions. They are often my route into starting a conversation to raise awareness amongst friends who shun 'politics'.

SwearyG · 28/06/2018 14:18

We have not been bullied into silence. We have been bullied into speaking out about the bullying and vowing to carry on in spite of threats being made to us (the culmination of months of escalating strange behaviour from an individual targeting some of us).

We want the world to know about this behaviour, and we want the women we had to eject from our group without warning know that we're not playing mean-girls, we were trying to deal with a serious situation. Skulking away is capitulating to bullies, and as I said at Truro we will always stand up to bullies.

So, stalker-fake-ally, all you have done here is make us more determined. Well done. And it has hardened any sympathy I had for you into a great, hard ball of g-f-y*.

We haven't crowdfunded (yet) because we haven't needed to for anything specific. I'm sure if the time comes we will ask for help. In the meantime if anyone wants to donate to the cause can I suggest Fair Play for Women as the work they do is amazing.

thebewilderness · 28/06/2018 14:18

You are brilliant and I adorable you every one.
I am Sportacus!

LangCleg · 28/06/2018 14:17

Oh darling, I'm so sorry.

If there's anything we can do, please shout out!

TodaysUserName · 28/06/2018 14:17

I’m so sorry to hear this. That is disgusting behaviour.

I have never been brave enough to join Facebook groups because of this.

I realise now that if I’m scared now is the time to stand up and do something.

Flowers Thank you for everything you have done and continue to do.

Pythagonal · 28/06/2018 14:15

I'm so sorry that this has happened, but I'm glad to see that you will be carrying on with the website and Twatter.

Mummyoflittledragon · 28/06/2018 14:15

I am so sorry. Sad You’ve been amazing and will continue to be so. Thank you for everything you have done. I wish I could join the campaigning. But am too ill. Were it not for people like you we would be well on the way to complete domination already.

Dragoncake
I agree. It also reads that it is closing completely.

BingTheButterflySlayer · 28/06/2018 14:15

Inspired to buy a tshirt in support!

Well it shouldn't be a tshirt really but a glorious flowery swimming hat.

Freespeecher · 28/06/2018 14:14

Striking you down may not (like Obi Wan) make you more powerful than they can possibly imagine, but it will not go unnoticed.

My commiserations but, in the long run, I suspect this will turn out to be an own goal for the opposition.

sexnotgender · 28/06/2018 14:13

What utter shits. Sorry you’re dealing with this.

Lottapianos · 28/06/2018 14:12

I'm so sorry to hear this. You are a brave and brilliant bunch and thank you so much for all that you do x

Seafoodeatit · 28/06/2018 14:12

I'm so saddened to read this and I'm so angry that all it takes is one person for things like this to happen, this is why I've joined and left facebook groups, it's too stressful worrying about people getting hold of your details and plastering you all over the internet. I'm glad that #manfriday will continue, onwards and upwards.

WeirdScenesInsideTheGoldmine · 28/06/2018 14:11

So this one person has bullied women into silence then?

Can’t there be a new group set up?

Was any crowdfunding ever done on behalf of Man Friday?

Theinconstantgardener · 28/06/2018 14:10

Im so sorry you were subjected to this. And they call us hatefull. Just remember all the good you have doneFlowers

bigKiteFlying · 28/06/2018 14:10

I'm so sorry - I found your campigns fantastic - it's horrible this should happen to you all - though as others said sadly not as surprising as I'd like.

Sarahjconnor · 28/06/2018 14:07

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Dragoncake · 28/06/2018 14:07

Can I suggest that someone edit the thread title to say 'ManFriday Facebook group closing'? It reads like Man Friday is folding altogether and you still need the support!

It sounds very stressful. I wish you all the best.