The old school transsexuals tended to identify with women rather than as women. They expressed humility rather than entitlement and it was for this tiny, genuinely vulnerable group that women made certain allowances.
The recent explosion in men who identify as women is made up of people with very different characteristics and objectives to the original group.
This new, far larger, more aggressive group seem to be essentially males who are sexually attracted to women and who have fetishes (a phenomenon specific to males). For obvious reasons they much prefer people to think of them as having been "born in the wrong body" rather than admitting that they are obsessed with sissy, forced feminisation and shemale porn and that acting this out in private is no longer enough. The stories of trans widows illustrate this phenomenon all too vividly.
Some suffer from gender dysphoria, others do not. But gender dysphoria is not necessarily benign. It's a condition that can adversely affect others. It sometimes expresses itself in antisocial invasive ways - rummaging in sanitary bins for used sanpro, getting sexually excited by listening to women using the loo, etc. The most common way it affects women is in a MtF seeking validation of their identities by accessing single sex spaces and gaining pleasure by violating women's boundaries.
For this group a third space will never be acceptable. Their validation is all important. These are the sort of people who seek to do the smear tests of women who have specifically asked for a female HCP. Their narcissism makes them almost impossible to deal with.
This is part of the motivation behind the Cotton Ceiling. If you're a man who identifies as a woman, what could better "prove" your true identity than sex with a lesbian. That these TRAs don't seem to have any idea that lesbians have spent their whole lives being told that the right dick will "cure" them just illustrates their total lack of empathy for women. This arrogance and stereotypically masculine sense of sexual entitlement to women's bodies is characteristic of the TRA agenda, and very telling.
TRAs have learned a lot from other groups. For example they have adopted the "born this way" narrative that was so successful for gay men and lesbians. This means that TRAs - and AGP/transvestites - have a lot to gain from child transition, largely because it provides cover for the very male sexual motivations behind many, maybe most, adult transitions.
Presenting the transgender community as a sort of super gay, super vulnerable group has convinced many people who have never looked at any of its claims at all critically. This is why Caitlyn Jenner was "brave and stunning" while Rachel Dolezal, a transracial woman, was slammed.
They have also successfully adopted the tactics of Muslim community leaders in quelling discussion of cultural misogyny by leveling accusations of Islamophobia. The seemingly constant trickle of grooming trials is reported, but little is said about the issues behind them. The TRAs copy this with #nodebate and endless, baseless accusations of transphobia.
The old transsexuals and the women who tolerated them have all been damaged by the current TRA agenda. Speaking for myself, I'm no longer prepared to let things go by on the nod. This group has proved itself hostile to women's interests.