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Very basic, obvious examples of male privilege please?

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tigersox · 18/06/2018 19:21

Examples every man will experience. Undeniable and obvious

I'm trying to make male privilege simple to a friend who feels us feminists have gone too far.

Thanks Grin

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halfwitpicker · 18/06/2018 19:51

Working mother

WTAF?

When was the last time you heard someone say 'working father'

NEVER

FreezerBird · 18/06/2018 19:49

Not having to act as a representative for their sex all the time...

A man is elected to a leadership position. He isn't very good. Response "he wasn't very good".

A woman is elected to a leader position. She isn't very good. Response "we will never elect a woman again".

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 18/06/2018 19:48

Realise I assumed your friend was male... just reverse the questions if not!

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 18/06/2018 19:46

Does your friend have kids? Does he work? Ask him how many times someone has asked him how he feels about having so much time away from his kids? Or why he had kids if he chooses to work? Or referred to him as babysitting his own children? Or congratulated him for the childcare that he does?

TakeawayTakeMeAway · 18/06/2018 19:46

Walking past building sites, need I say more?

Page Three ‘girls’.

MaidOfStars · 18/06/2018 19:45

I’m reading about how males and females are differently described/advised during performance reviews at work. It’s pretty horrifying.

Females are aggressive, abrasive, not team players.
Males are assertive leaders.

babybrainusedtobesmart · 18/06/2018 19:44

Never being randomly shouted at for supposed sexual promiscuity. Ie a complete stranger shouting 'slut!' as he drives past

Never being scared to walk past a group of the opposite sex a night. At best they might just eye you up and comment on your looks, at worst you fear rape.

catsofa · 18/06/2018 19:43

I second reading "the man who has it all", it's a Facebook page full of nice snappy memes which illustrate this stuff really well.

Kettlepotblackagain · 18/06/2018 19:41

Having an opinion, being a leader and immediately being thought of as bitch/aggressive when the same behaviour is admired if you're a man

Kettlepotblackagain · 18/06/2018 19:40

Thinking about how women should change their behaviour rather than teaching men not to rape

Eledamorena · 18/06/2018 19:37

Not sure if this is what you're after but a few basic/minor/obvious things spring to mind:

Being able to dress 'well' and look professional in a fraction of the time it takes a woman to achieve the same 'standard' of presentation.

Never wondering if your boss or the person interviewing you is wondering about your family situation / number of children / plans to have children and therefore whether you should be hired/promoted. A man with 3 kids is just a worker, kids irrelevant... a woman with 3 kids will take time off, be late etc etc (not true, and when it is this is often down to expectations rather than a father being unable to play his role, but I know for sure it goes through employers' minds).

Never/rarely queuing for the loo (though to be fair, ladies' loos are often in a better state than gent's!)

Far less likely to feel unsafe in any number of situations e.g. walking home in the dark, getting into a taxi alone, being approached / receiving unwanted attention.

Able to be direct and honest at work rather than carefully phrasing what you say in order to avoid being considered feisty / difficult / opinionated / too big for your boots.

Far less likely to be negatively judged for being a working parent (totally the norm for men) OR for choosing to stay at home to raise children (men who do so still have a certain level of novelty and while no doubt they feel that some people raise eyebrows about it, many others praise their dedication or skills or modern approach).

Less likely to be put down due to their gender... of course this does happen on both sides (men are slow, crap at parenting, emotionally stunted, only interested in sport/beer, and other such nonsense) but it feels like women have this worse. So many insults to men insinuate femininity or else outright state things like 'women drivers' or, for kids, 'you throw like a girl'. Even our worst insults are 'female'... dick or bellend is nowhere near as offensive as cunt, and pussy suggests weakness.

I'm v interested to see what others post!!

QuentinSummers · 18/06/2018 19:22

Read "man who has it all"

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