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Very basic, obvious examples of male privilege please?

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tigersox · 18/06/2018 19:21

Examples every man will experience. Undeniable and obvious

I'm trying to make male privilege simple to a friend who feels us feminists have gone too far.

Thanks Grin

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MrsTerryPratchett · 18/06/2018 21:29

I have been thinking about hotel rooms recently. I travel a LOT for work. No sanitary products but a sewing kit and shower cap? Toiletries smell 'male' rather than unisex or female. Meaning I have to bring my own or smell like a male pine tree. Everything is man height. Hair dryers are tiny and suck long hair into them. Towels are tiny and fine for covering bottom half but not for women to cover their arses and boobs. Showers are those infuriating ones that blast needles of water, which hurts, but are low flow so you can't rinse longer hair.

And just try to get a drink in a hotel bar without some random chancer...

boatyardblues · 18/06/2018 21:28

Just lost 10 mins to that xkcd site. Grin

Halfeatentoast · 18/06/2018 21:25

Errol
Being the 'default sex'. But they're so used to it they tend not to notice.

I pointed this out to DH last year. He couldn't see it. So I picked my son's book "Dear Zoo" and pointed out all the animals were male. Why?! It was a lightbulb moment for him. I scrubbed out "he" on the last page and put "she".

tabulahrasa
Seatbelts are designed for men, breasts interfere with them sitting right.

Yes! And if you're pregnant but don't want the seatbelt to go over your bump, tough.

Also isn't medical care based on averages for men? Like heart attack signs?

JoyTheUnicorn · 18/06/2018 21:25

Stop asking "what about men?"

Tinlegs · 18/06/2018 21:25

This is pretty basic.

DS and DD are late teens, a year apart in age. Both have part time jobs in the same tourist spot in the same sort of establishments. Both wait on tables, clear plates etc,

DS is constantly being asked "Are you off to University" or "What are your plans after the summer?"

DD is never asked. Presumably, as a girl, people assume she is a career waitress or can't get a better job.

Both are bright, articulate and FWIW both off to very good Universities.

bluescreen · 18/06/2018 21:12

As someone said upthread, not being responsible for your entire sex.
Behold the famous xkcd math cartoon:

xkcd.com/385/

pombear · 18/06/2018 21:02

This may out me, but my daughter was approached by a male recently, when we were both walking along the street.

He told her 'she was walking wrong''.

Despite me being a fierce female, I said nothing.

We were both completely polaxed by the sheer confidence and audacity of a male thinking this was an appropriate and acceptable thing to say to another person, full stop. (But because she was female, he doubtless felt brave enough to do it to her. Can't imagine him telling a male the same thing).

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Kettlepotblackagain · 18/06/2018 20:50

By the way OP, what do you mean by 'too far'?

TransplantsArePlants · 18/06/2018 20:49

Right, I am no expert here, but weren't women basically written out of the Bible?

PineappleLava · 18/06/2018 20:48

I have really become aware recently of how often I move out of the way for men. Just walking down the street, or on public transport, or in shops

I’ve noticed this too, and didn’t automatically move recently when walking down and up train station steps.
I’ve been knocked clean off my feet on both occasions, yes by men. Utter bastards.

ChickenMe · 18/06/2018 20:48

Don't get cat called when jogging
Don't have to think "is it safe to walk here"
Don't check behind them all the time
Unlikely to ever be sexually assaulted

corlan · 18/06/2018 20:47

If you are a male single parent, you are automatically a saint.
If you are a man that does even close to your share of housework and child care, you are a saint.
If you are a man that doesn't support your children financially, you are never openly judged.

YourVagesty · 18/06/2018 20:47

Men are promoted on their promise. Women are promoted on their past performance.

NaiceBiscuits · 18/06/2018 20:42

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claraschu · 18/06/2018 20:40

The norm for women when dressed formally is to wear makeup, shave extensively, wear high heels, wear tight and/or revealing clothes, straighten or curl hair. Men's formal clothes are comfortable, easy, and functional by comparison.

FrancesHaHa · 18/06/2018 20:38

Men not having to plan routes/ consider safest ways to get home all the time.

Men being praised for the slightest interest in their children

Women being blamed for being sexually assaulted.

Women always being expected to take up less space eg on the tube whilst men spread out.

fmsfms · 18/06/2018 20:37

"If you are a bisexual man, it's assumed you prefer men.

If you are a bisexual female, it is also assumed you prefer men. "

Shark.Jumped

troodiedoo · 18/06/2018 20:37

Oh also range of sizing in clothing. An obese man can buy designer clothing off the peg. Good luck finding anything bigger that a size 12/14 in the outlet shops if you're a female.

bertielab · 18/06/2018 20:35

Think of a famous scientist ? Think of 10 ? How many women do you name?
Same with Classic Writers.
Try again with famous painters.............

Sarahconnor1 · 18/06/2018 20:35

Nick freeman. The issue of upskirting could be resolved if only women went out in public wearing a hazmat suit rather than men taking responsibility for their reprehensible behaviour mobile.twitter.com/TheMrLoophole/status/1007573280096751616?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Etweet

Note men blaming women for men's shit behaviour isn't a new thing Nick Freeman is no visionary.

Kettlepotblackagain · 18/06/2018 20:33

If men do any parenting at all, they’re amazing, women are criticised for every single parenting decision they make.

Oh yes, this!

'Does he change nappies? Oooh isn't he good!' Can you imagine a woman being asked this.

My other fave is if he looks after his own kids, he's 'babysitting'

Man who has it all is great on this too.

golondrina · 18/06/2018 20:33

Yes and pockets. The older I get the more it fucks me off.

golondrina · 18/06/2018 20:32

For me the big one is being able to walk past a group of men/down a dark street/etc without fearing attack. OK, sometimes men are attacked/robbed, but they don't go around factoring it in to how they live their lives.
For instance, DH will go out for a run through countryside after dark, I won't as a woman.

troodiedoo · 18/06/2018 20:32

If you are a bisexual man, it's assumed you prefer men.

If you are a bisexual female, it is also assumed you prefer men.

Male products are cheaper but better quality. Clothes and razors spring to mind.

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