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Gardening and women's rights?

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SuperLoudPoppingAction · 17/06/2018 15:54

There are three things keeping me relatively sane at the moment. One being discussion with like-minded women who are passionate about women's rights, another being (surprisingly, as I am dysphraxic and a bit crap at it) swimming.
The most reliable, though, is being out in my garden. I love being in nature generally. If I had more energy I'd like to go on walks more, but I've been fairly knackered lately.

The cyclical nature of planting, growing, harvesting etc feels very significant to me.
Also, the fact that I can make mistakes and that everything will still basically be ok is so lovely. It's an antidote to anxiety that I feel with loads of other stuff.

I've had such lovely conversations with women about gardening. One woman gave me some of her tiny gooseberries from her allotment and I made chutney with them. Another woman told me that parsley only thrives in a household run by a woman.

Alice Walker talks a lot about gardening. alicewalkersgarden.com/2010/10/in-search-of-our-mothers-garden/
Susan Brownmiller [[http://www.nycitywoman.com/the-feminist-gardener/]]
I love this as well. www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2015/03/margery_fish_s_we_made_a_garden_is_a_feminist_manifesto_disguised_as_a_gardening.html
"a harmonious, informal, frothing sort of a garden, its borders filled with “green” flowers, its shady corners crammed with hellebores, primroses, epimediums, and, most important of all, her beloved snowdrops."

I keep thinking about how important it is to experience a Space of One's Own. Even if it's a terrarium with a couple of air plants in it (like in my last house, where the garden was not private enough for me to enjoy it).

It's not going to revolutionise gender politics in itself, but is nurturing a connection to nature something that anyone else connects with feminist politics?

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gendercritter · 17/06/2018 17:13

I'm the same. I can only do little bits but I find it enormously therapeutic. I far prefer plants to humans.

Norther · 17/06/2018 17:12

I have started gardening over the last couple of years. About 50/50 success/failure rate but I don't mind that. The other thing that really helps me is (don't laugh) feeding the birds. I survived a strangling by ex and when he recently got back in touch with threats I lost the plot for a while but feeding the house sparrows in my garden has become massively therapeutic. I know it sounds weird. Also using it to deflect demands for a pet from the little one! In the beginning I spent hours just watching them from the window and it brought my heart rate down when I was struggling with anxiety. Now it is more that I enjoy watching them while doing the dishes. I thoroughly recommend its therapeutic value.

Theinconstantgardener · 17/06/2018 16:46

Me too!! Mens cargos or shorts with lots of pockets and belts to hang things off are my gardening garb of choice. True about gloves though. I just wear two pairs but a bit bulky for some jobs

BeyondSceptical · 17/06/2018 16:42

Errol, I just wear men's riggers for all gardening stuff. Trick I learnt from my non-binary mother Grin

bluerunningshoes · 17/06/2018 16:39

gardening/growing food is part of my zombie plan.
at the moment I don't grow quantities enough to feed the family, but the idea that I could is comforting.
and yes, I find being out in the garden good for my mental (and physical) health.

ErrolTheDragon · 17/06/2018 16:37

Mind you, there's sexism in gardening - I can't find a pair of small properly thorn proof gloves. Any recommendations?

BeyondSceptical · 17/06/2018 16:35

I'm a bit crap at houseplants, everything I have grown has died a quick death.

But I'm having a bit of a knack with food plants atm. Got actual cherries from our cherry tree this year!

LangCleg · 17/06/2018 16:33

I also like gardening. I'm all about the food production! Time passes differently in the garden - not necessarily more quickly or more slowly; just differently. Couldn't put it into words.

For some reason, I am terrified of house spiders but garden spiders don't bother me at all.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 17/06/2018 16:30

Some of my female friends who have really struggled after domestic abuse, or mental health issues have blossomed (sorry!) after going on a horticulture course.

I was lucky enough to have a garden growing up so I sort-of 'know' how to sow radish seeds etc but if you haven't grown up with it or even if, like me, you're rusty, it is really precious to be able to learn about it all with other women, I think, especially if it's a respite from loud voices and blokes in expert-mode.

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TERFragetteCity · 17/06/2018 16:02

I teach Hort in my other roles, these days to teachers. It is quite interesting as in my groups there may be one man, but more often than not the group is all female. The dynamics definitely change when men are on the courses.

BettyDuMonde · 17/06/2018 16:00

I’m a bonafide crazy plant lady. Mostly houseplants now as I already completely filled our little terraced backyard.

TERFragetteCity · 17/06/2018 15:58

Me too.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 17/06/2018 15:57

www.nycitywoman.com/the-feminist-gardener

boo to link fail

not that SB is my favourite feminist ever, but she has certainly made a lovely garden

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