How do you cope with very unfeminist views in your proximity?

I'd second Jane Eyre, because Jane is a wonderful character - kind but also strong and principled - she won't let Mr Rochester make her into an angel, or marry St John just for convenience and because he would like a wife.

Also, I think if anything that your personal example and family dynamic would be more of an influence than anything else. If she comes from a Christian patriarchy background, she won't be used to anyone caring what she thinks about things (because it doesn't matter, because she's a woman), so you (and DP if there is one) taking an interest in her thoughts - not necessarily on controversial topics - might make a lot of difference. See what music she likes? She also might have been told that feminism makes women hate their children - you can show her that's not true! I think in this situation love will work better than conflict...

Justrunwithit
it is really hard clinging to this pedestal I tell you
i have faith in you

How about watching Rachel Parris’s A Girl’s Guide to TV together?

I thought of those because they seem a more gentle introduction to someone from a religious background.

I found a download for The Red Tent, (and this site has other women's books as well including Backlash);
oceanofpdf.com/pdf-epub-the-red-tent-download/

The idea of a whole pile of books is a good one, that way you're not pushing anything on her that she may not be interested in or ready for. Just give her a whole pile and let her work her way through it at her own pace based on what appeals.

Yes, I agree with AAK and others who have suggested this.

If you have some, try some historical biographies that she might find interesting - in those, the subtle explanations of how women in history managed to gain influence and respect might get her thinking without being too didactic? Someone like Alison Weir?

"How about a novel such as The Women's Room by Marilyn French?
The Red Tent.
Or Mary Beard - Women and Power."
I was going to suggest these three!

On a more general point- I find that now I am in the Crone zone, I have far fewer inhibitions about speaking out for women. I have nothing to lose-I no longer have to be diplomatic for work related reasons, my children are too old to be embarrassed, I know who my friends are and I don't need any more- so I think it is partly my responsibility to take the flak.

What annandale said about teaching her that her opinion is important and debating is really true. I know she’s asked you, but there is still that dynamic of employee/er so you need to be careful that this isn’t hectoring in any way.

I do think that both Jane Eyre and Pride and Prejudice are worth a read or a watch (the BBC version of the latter remains a joy.) Both authors are making points about how limited women’s choices are and how society is unfair to women - so yes, Elizabeth bennet marries in the end, but the meat of it is in Austen’s scathing takedown of society before that point. The way Charlotte Lucas’ choices are constrained I’ve always thought particularly tragic. But even lady Catherine has a learning point - you could talk about how tropes like the awful matriarch is because women had so little power in society that they could only oppress their own families. There’s a lot in P and P to both enjoy and learn from I think. Ditto Jane eyre - it’s the setting as much as the end point that’s the learning point.

How about some Ursula Le Guin? Tombs of Atuan is short and disturbing. Left hand of darkness is brilliant. Anything by Octavia Butler.

The idea of a whole pile of books is a good one, that way you're not pushing anything on her that she may not be interested in or ready for. Just give her a whole pile and let her work her way through it at her own pace based on what appeals.

I think Jane Eyre and Rebecca are terrible choices- heroine remains in awe of and forgives criminal bullies. If you want a du Maurier My Cousin Rachel is a better choice.

You might try good young adult fiction. Frances Hardinge The Lie Tree has terrific female characters and the heroine realises by the end just exactly what her mother had to put up with from the heroine's adored (but actually vile) father. The fantasy element of the lie tree works as fantasy and allegory. There is a beautiful version illustrated by Chris Riddell.

Neil Gaiman's Neverwhere has a feisty heroine in the Lady Dor and indeed the charismatic female Hunter who betrays her.

Cold Comfort Farm is very funny and Flora Poste is delightful.

What about Red Clocks!

I have that on my shelf, it's only now that the Yes vote was passed 2 to 1 that I can bring myself to read it.

She'd hate the power! I'm feminist and I wanted to like it but when the gang of marauding women rape a man I got turned off. I wanted to read a book where the balance of power is in favour of women instead. I didn't want to read a book where women abuse men instaed of the other way around. It was a good book but ........... maybe it would turn her off feminism and it's important not to do that.

I wouldn't be able to resist asking her questions like 'do you think people who are anti-abortion do enough to make society an easy place to bring an unplanned baby in to' and do you think it is women or men who bear the shame / blame of pregnancy? what could religious people do, do you think, to make an unplanned pregnancy easier? do they do that do you think? do you think the financial sacrifices of parenthood are shared equally by mothers and fathers?

I wouldnt' be able to resist asking her these questions. Maybe not all at once though.

Actually waddle has the best idea. Just let her help herself to all sorts. That's what I did as a child/young teenager.

Those verses out of Timothy used to make me very indignant as a child! They are probably my earliest memories of sexism (been reading that thread).

Personally I would offer her a pile of books for her room or tell her to help herself to x bookshelf & make sure that pile/shelf is a good mix.
I think watching your life/choices you make is likely to have a far greater impact than you trying to push her towards particular books. Be the change you want to see etc

How about "Fatal Decision: Edith Cavell WWI nurse". V religious and stonkingly brave woman.

No need to apologize, OP. You're patronage is what was requested, and so you can hardly help but but sound like what you are providing.

I suggest you give her the Hunger Games novels to start.

1 Timothy 2:11-12
then the Mary Beard book (or online lecture, it may be a TED talk) about women and muthos
proves that point from Ecclesiastes that "there is nothing new under the sun".
Actually the book of Ecclesiastes itself is worth a read. It's the best bit of the whole lot IMO.

Agree with The Color Purple as a recommendation, which could be eye opening in all kinds of ways while still being clearly rooted in a viewpoint that won't come across as being opposed to Christianity. Jane Eyre is a good one too.

I don't think of The Power as a feminist book.

How about a novel such as The Women's Room by Marilyn French?
The Red Tent.
Or Mary Beard - Women and Power.

Reckon so, OP. I am friends with the women from the baby group I attended when my daughter was tiny. It was in a church hall and I think all the other mums are regular churchgoers. I'm the only heathen (brought up Presbyterian though and went to Sunday school every week till I was about 14). At least two of them changed their FB profiles to include the "Love Both" overlay a few weeks back...I'm definitely more a "Together For Yes" type of gal. (I have a sneaking suspicion that one or two of the others may be as well, church and all). We don't talk about it. They liked my Processions 2018 photos. Perhaps a suffragettes vs suffragists discussion is in order. I think I would have been a suffragist.

I think Jane Eyre is a genius call. Maybe the Tenant of Wildfell Hall, South Riding, the Bluest Eye, the Color Purple?

I would have thought the most subversive thing you could do (in a good way) is to ask her opinion on these books and encourage her to argue her case, whether you agree with it or not. Teach her that debating is something you are really open to and that her opinion is worth hearing.