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Bad feminist :(

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DidoAndHerLament · 20/05/2018 09:36

I didn't watch the royal wedding yesterday. Because I think the monarchy represent the worst display of revolting inherited privilege and wealth. And because I think marriage is outdated patriarchal nonsense.

However. I have just watched a 10 minute video of the 'best bits' from yesterday, and I am crying. A mixture of joy and sadness I think. And (can't believe I'm saying this), a tinge of national pride. Shock

Do I need to tear up my feminist memberhsip card?? Confused

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Floisme · 20/05/2018 10:12

I'm in it for the frocks. I don't like wedding dresses but I love looking at what the guests wear.

I always go on Style and Beauty before I come here. Soz.

ReluctantCamper · 20/05/2018 10:11

hmm, what was non feminist about the wedding?

Prince charles giving her away I suppose.

But I don't expect she made any promises to 'obey', I'd guess the vows were OK.

no problem with her wearing a big white frock, people should be able to wear whatever they like. Harry looked nice too.

in fact more power to her, as given that I understand this is her second marriage, the traditional symbolism of the white dress is completely out of the window.

did she wear a veil? doesn't that have some weird symbolism of virginity?

MrsHathaway · 20/05/2018 10:11

It felt a more feministy wedding than many - I felt that walking most of the way on her own was a strong and independent thing to do, and although there were many men among the officials eg clergy and the chapel choir, many of the other participants were women including nearly all the string ensemble and the gospel choir. I gather the Duchess gave a speech at the reception rather than sitting meekly while men talked about her.

Maybe feminist detention for you (and me) rather than full re-education?

LangCleg · 20/05/2018 10:11

Well, I alternated between footling about on the interwebz and cooking up my mountains of rhubarb so missed the entire thing. Am also footling about on the interwebz and rhubarbing today so hopefully will miss the endless highlight repeats.

Do I get to keep my feminist card for not watching? Or do I have to hand it in for doing wifely rhubarb things? I think I can keep it because I've got one of the DSs doing rhubarb and onion chopping.

(Also: rhubarb should be renamed triffid.)

rememberthetime · 20/05/2018 10:11

Oh and the people who were out were almost all men. Women appeared to have been wiped out by some kind of wedding fever!

rememberthetime · 20/05/2018 10:09

I went out for coffee and a sit out in the sun. It was deserted and lovely. No one about and the roads empty. I did see pictures online. But still can't get excited about it.

AssignedPuuurfectAtBirth · 20/05/2018 10:06

I am definately not a Royalist but I wanted to see the dress. She was lovely. I feel no guilt

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DidoAndHerLament · 20/05/2018 10:04

Ah I see. No, the national pride twinge was just an added bonus on top of the weirdness of enjoying a non-feminist spectacle.

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ReluctantCamper · 20/05/2018 09:57

no, it was why you felt that feeling a twinge of national pride was incompatible with being a feminist (if that's what you meant).

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DidoAndHerLament · 20/05/2018 09:54

Ah yes, the re-education camp. Hand your bra in at the door and spend 6 hours a day reading Dworkin Grin.

Not sure what your question is UpstartCrow, did you mean why did I watch the video? Curiosity, idly clicking links to shameful websites like the Sun, wondering what all the fuss was about I suppose.

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ReluctantCamper · 20/05/2018 09:45

i paid it no attention but did have a peek at the dress on the internet. I thought it was a bit boring.

i have expressed an opinion about another woman's clothing choices so will also report for reeducation instanter.

ReluctantCamper · 20/05/2018 09:43

at the risk of sounding like a pointlessly aggressive AIBU poster, no why?

genuine question Smile

UpstartCrow · 20/05/2018 09:42

Yes, hand it in at once and go present yourself to the re-education camp Grin