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ThreeTinedFork · 19/05/2018 14:06

Just curious as to how many heterosexual women on here have found that their beliefs/position has been an impediment to relationships?

I'm single after my marriage ended several years ago.

I find that the majority of men I meet (I'm early 40s) have viewpoints regarding/expectations of women that are just so incompatible with mine that I would be unable to consider a relationship with them.

Even those men who seem more 'enlightened' hold beliefs that are more in line with 'libfem' beliefs and I'm still expected to 'conform'.

Over the years, I've met/dated/had fledgling relationships/long term relationships with men from a variety of social/economic/educational backgrounds and every single one has failed either because I'm not 'womaning' properly in one way or another.

I can't be the only one who has experienced this?

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CardsforKittens · 19/05/2018 14:33

Yes! I'm not heterosexual but most of my relationships with men have had similar difficulties. Mind you, my last same-sex relationship was with a woman who was more libfem than rad.But I still found it easier than being with men with similar views. My current partner is a man but I've been completely uncompromising from the beginning and my partner reads feminism. So we manage.

Companion42 · 19/05/2018 14:32

I'm online dating after the break up of a long term relationship. I've just turned 30 so really thought the chaps of my generation would 'get' it. But I'm finding it hard too

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ThreeTinedFork · 19/05/2018 14:31

My beliefs aren't a problem - the quality of the available resource is - in that it doesn't come anywhere near my standards

Haha, yes that's a better way of expressing it!! Grin

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womanformallyknownaswoman · 19/05/2018 14:27

beliefs/position has been an impediment to relationships?

My beliefs aren't a problem - the quality of the available resource is - in that it doesn't come anywhere near my standards Grin Grin

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ThreeTinedFork · 19/05/2018 14:14

Argh, 'either' was there because I was going to give another explanation but then realised it was just another example of me not 'womaning' properly.

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