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Jamiem80 · 19/05/2018 01:07

Probably going to get shot down massively here but a simple question clearly there is a lot of hate for men wanting to be women, but nothing about women becoming men. Do you also frown upon this or is it ok and for what reason?

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ToeToToe · 19/05/2018 23:23

Nobody's actually saying what you can and cannot do with your own sexual organs.

We're saying surgery does not mean you actually change sex. You are just emulating the opposite sex. You can take female hormones, artificially, but you cannot go through a female puberty if you are born with XY chromosomes - or vice versa.

AssassinatedBeauty · 19/05/2018 23:21

I'll happily say it explicitly. Trans women are trans women, and regardless of whatever medical or surgical treatments they may have they remain male. As trans men remain female. I fully support anyone in however they wish to present and however masculine or feminine they are.

Nogodsnomasters · 19/05/2018 23:15

And you wonder why you all come across as transphobic? Telling people what they can and cannot do with their sex organs.

"you don't have a real vagina" said in a whiny 5 year olds voice because its okay for you to say that by splitting hairs instead of what you really want to say which is "no matter what you do to yourself we will never accept you as a member of our sex or gender"

UpstartCrow · 19/05/2018 23:10

@Nogodsnomasters Remember the recent 'whats the problem with the word hysteria' debacle? It might be an idea to find out what a 'vagina' and a 'neovagina' are, because they are not the same thing.

AssassinatedBeauty · 19/05/2018 23:05

You can't change your sex organs, presumably into the opposite sex's organs. You can reconfigure them cosmetically to resemble those of the opposite sex. But you haven't changed their sex or the sex of your whole body.

thebewilderness · 19/05/2018 23:05

The vagina is an organ. The neo vagina is a surgically created cavity. Not an organ.

thebewilderness · 19/05/2018 23:03

ToeToToe Grin Waves back.

Nogodsnomasters · 19/05/2018 23:02

You can change your sex organs. Unless ya know feminists have now decided that sex organs and sex are not the same thing....

ToeToToe · 19/05/2018 23:01

Yeah, look who it is.

< waves to thebewilderness > Smile

You cannot change your sex.

Nogodsnomasters · 19/05/2018 22:58

Oh wow look who it is.

thebewilderness · 19/05/2018 21:47

That only actually happens in pop culture comic books and movies. Yanno, fiction.

AssassinatedBeauty · 19/05/2018 21:38

How does a cosmetic operation on genitals change someone's sex, @Nogodsnomasters ?

Nogodsnomasters · 19/05/2018 21:37

@vaggiemite men can't become women? You missed the whole sexual organ operation phenomenon?

thebewilderness · 19/05/2018 19:43

The death threats and rape threats that Feminist women receive on a daily basis from men are expressions of hatred. I think we can all agree on that.
I would appreciate it if you, @Jamiem80, would please give an example of what you consider "clearly there is a lot of hate for men wanting to be women, "
so that we can all be on the same page with regard to the definition of hatred, and expressions of hatred.
Thank you in advance for your attention to this important detail.

LangCleg · 19/05/2018 13:58

DN4GeekinDerby

Well said.

Cwenthryth · 19/05/2018 13:44

Goodness Nagsnova that is horrendous, you’re saying 5 female players suffered significant injuries injuries in a single match playing against a transwoman? How did your team even manage to finish the game with that many players injured!?!

Has there been any follow on to this - concerns raised to the governing body, awareness of the case raised (other than posting here of course!). Was this in the UK?

DN4GeekinDerby · 19/05/2018 13:31

surely if you ignore transmen and just allow them to be men

Just allow? Like we have any choice in the matter or have any power to stop them? If someone is going to transition and take hormones or have surgeries, I don't really get a say in that any more than I have a say in any of their personal or medical choices. I can do no more than be a listening ear and gently discuss my concerns when a friend takes T against medical recommendation, when a friend is taking multiple times the recommended about of E because she likes how it makes her feel and hopes it will help her change faster. I'm not ignoring any of it, but I can't really stop them either. I certainly can't stop what they call themselves any more than they can stop what I call myself.

We don't have superpowers. We can speak out on the highly questionable idea of legal self-ID, on the importance of single sex spaces and that unisex spaces should be beside and not in place of single sex spaces, we can do what we can for better services, we can try to get out there the risks of these medications and surgeries, but none of us can magically stop anyone calling themselves whatever or transitioning.

I think calling concerns around personal safety and these medications, particularly on young people, 'frowning upon them' really dismissive. I'm worried about organ atrophy and the raised risks of heart attacks and depression and how much it messes people who are holding onto this as their only hope of feeling happy when it doesn't deliver on it while our mental health services are far too underfunded to begin to help. I'm worried about vulnerable people, on all sides, not being able or feeling able to get the care and support they need and feeling cut off from activities and society. I try to avoid 'the sky is falling' mentality but we already have people hurting. It's not frowning upon them to be worried and I think it's pretty rude to tell those concerned that we're 'just letting it happen'.

Ereshkigal · 19/05/2018 13:15

Wow, Nagsnova.

OnTheList · 19/05/2018 13:03

Probably going to get shot down massively here but a simple question clearly there is a lot of hate for men wanting to be women, but nothing about women becoming men. Do you also frown upon this or is it ok and for what reason?

There is not hate. But transwomen are focused on more in the feminism section of MN because...feminists care about the rights of female people. And self-ID will effectively end all that feminists have fought for and all progress that has been made. Which is probably why the trans movement is so attractive to MRAs.

It is not the job of feminists to fight for the rights of men to sex segregated spaces and such. That would be the job of men, if they have an issue. Feminism is not about a group of women fighting for everyone else, though many seem to think it is. Its main (or only maybe..) focus is on advancing the rights of women, to bring us to actual equality with men. Except right now, its fighting to preserve the rights already won, as some seem to want to roll back protections for women, and will yell 'bigot' at any woman who objects to losing her rights. Progressive, eh?

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Nagsnovalballs · 19/05/2018 12:23

Sarah I’ve posted this before, but I play rugby and my team had to play against a trans woman and it was fucking brutal. 5 catastrophic injuries (blown knees, shattered collar bones etc) all caused by contact with someone built entirely differently from us. The TW was playing for a military women’s rugby team against our team who play 2 leagues below premiership. Muscle mass, weight and bulk, pace, shoulder strength, everything. It was like hitting/being hit by a train. I play women’s sport and rugby is a tough enough sport without playing against men. I did not sign up for that.

busyboysmum · 19/05/2018 11:58

All the points have been argued so eloquently by the amazing women on this board.

I would only add that I am a Commissioner for Oaths. People come in and swear Statutory Declarations in front of me every day. I have no idea whether they are telling the truth or not nor am I supposed to
My only role is to confirm that they are who they say they are. So personally I think they are meaningless.

SarahCarer · 19/05/2018 11:45

Fear of the risks from all people born male (including those who identify as female and those who don't) is what you see on this site. And anger towards those who fight against women's right to stand up for themselves against people born male. That could be a male rights activist, a trans rights activist, a liberal "feminist," or gender ideologists (blue brain pink brain advocates). There is a lot of concern for girls who identify as male but those girls also often grow up to be gender ideologists and they harm women's rights. Hope that helps

AllyMcBeagle · 19/05/2018 11:33

Only people who make a statutory declaration stating that they intend to live as a women for the rest of their lives.

As Bearsinmotion says above "living as a woman" is a meaningless undefined phrase, so any requirement to do so is likely to be unenforceable.

Women can wear men's clothes. Some women can grow beards. Honestly, it's a nonsense.

In England and Wales it is not the case today that a man who legally becomes a woman has a legal right to enter a women's toilet and it won't be the case if legal self-id goes through.

They do have rights to use women's loos under the Equality Act. Whilst there are in theory exceptions for single-sex services, any service provider will struggle to justify their use in relation to cubicled bathrooms given the way the legislation is drafted and the EHRC's guidance.

Can I draw everyone's attention to Ibi-Pippi again?
www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/35dm73/meet_ibipippi_the_lesbian_trapped_in_the_body_of/
As a lawyer who has specialised in the Equality Act I can say I am very concerned that this kind of thing will happen over here if self ID is brought in. The legislation isn't strong enough to keep out artists, pranksters and most unfortunately men who are seeking to abuse women.

Also female sports are an issue
There is not an issue due to the proposed move to legal self-id.

I didn't say it was - it's another problem of men identifying as women (hence the use of the word 'also'). This thread isn't all about self ID.

So in summary none of the concerns you raise would come about as a move to legal self-id.

They do and if you think that they don't then you are ill-informed.

merrymouse · 19/05/2018 11:27

And the solicitor will advise on the consequences of a false declaration - jail for up to 2 years.

This point has been brought up several times, but you haven't yet explained how you show that somebody is making a false declaration.

In England and Wales it is not the case today that a man who legally becomes a woman has a legal right to enter a women's toilet and it won't be the case if legal self-id goes through.

Please could you link to the information that has led you to this conclusion.

Bearsinmotion · 19/05/2018 11:05

they intend to live as a women for the rest of their lives.

Remind me what this means again? It doesn’t require surgery, does it mean wearing skirts and make up? Using a woman’s name? Using women’s spaces? Or not having penetrative sex?

How would anyone prove or disprove they are “living as a woman”?