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Woman gets written up by HR for having menstrual products in her car

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 09:19

Turns out that the coworker who complained was a transwoman. The complaining part is sadly not a surprise, since we already know that some transwomen think women are being female at them out of spite, but the fact that HR actually took the complaint seriously and wrote the letter writer up for having personal care items in a bag in her car rather than explaining to the complainer that the complaint was unreasonable is not exactly a great sign in terms of how workplaces are handling complaints relating to trans issues.

www.askamanager.org/2018/04/i-got-in-trouble-because-my-coworker-saw-maxi-pads-in-my-car-and-more.html

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LangCleg · 14/05/2018 10:07

Why was I deleted for saying I thought it was a made up story?

I think you may have remonstrated with the poster using the slur word and MNHQ have removed all references?

UserV · 14/05/2018 10:06

Thanks for posting OP, and yeah it is interesting.

Seems odd that a woman would have sanitary products strewn all over her car (inside) though.

But it wouldn't surprise me if a trans woman had complained about something, as some of them (as you said) seem very annoyed at female-born women being better at being women than them.

They are not all like that. But some are yeah...

SilverHairedCat · 14/05/2018 10:06

Ooh no, I didn't think it was you Angry. As I say, I don't doubt you, it's the letter/email that's been "sent in" that seems too ludicrous. I'm sure the blogger accepts things in good faith too.

It would be useful for the sake of debate if the blogger were to provide more detail - type of workplace, context of complainant seeing the "offending items", what HR's justification was etc.

If it's true, there has to be an awful lot more to the story IMO.

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 10:02

No idea, Silver, I certainly didn't and wouldn't report people for disagreeing with me. It's Juells I'm a bit Hmm with for the hostility given that I assume she sees me around as often as I see her around and therefore ought to know that I'm not in the habit of doing whatever it is that she thinks I'm doing here.

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crunchymint · 14/05/2018 10:01

I can believe this because I have met some useless HR in my time - in very small firms. In my last job the part time HR person was awful. But if she took this further, it would not stand up.

Goodasgoldilox · 14/05/2018 10:00

Unless it is from a country where such things are kept from public view?

Sorry - not having a go at the poster - just the subject.

SilverHairedCat · 14/05/2018 09:59

Why was I deleted for saying I thought it was a made up story? I wasn't saying the OP was lying, I was saying that the article posted to which purports to be a letter sent to the sounded made up.

Goodasgoldilox · 14/05/2018 09:59

Seems unlikely to be true since the same items are in full view in supermarkets!

freezerfoodyum · 14/05/2018 09:57

Oh FFS. Fine, I'll make sure not to repost any random things that I think other people might be interested in reading from now on.

Wasn't having a go at you OP, I just don't think it's true is all. I don't mind that you posted it!

Ereshkigal · 14/05/2018 09:56

This is no more or less likely to be true than half of AIBU.

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 09:55

Oh FFS. Fine, I'll make sure not to repost any random things that I think other people might be interested in reading from now on.

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LangCleg · 14/05/2018 09:54

Why would it be made up to discredit trans people if the original posting didn't mention that the complainant was trans?

freezerfoodyum · 14/05/2018 09:54

TBH I am as terfy as they come but I think this story is a load of crap.

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/05/2018 09:54

I shop and don’t buy bags so packs of pads are on display on the front seat. Obviously I’m not trying to display them. Just no need to hide them either. Ridiculous! Shock

Juells · 14/05/2018 09:51

@Teacuphiccup

The people on their saying it’s a terf conspiracy

I object to the term terf, but I do think it's a ridiculous alarmist made-up story. Never happened.

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 09:49

Also the inevitable angry MRA screeching about not all men being weird about menstruation, which I assume is why the blog owner attempted to clarify with the "everyone involved was a woman" comment.

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Teacuphiccup · 14/05/2018 09:46

*there

Teacuphiccup · 14/05/2018 09:46

The people on their saying it’s a terf conspiracy Confused

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 09:40

And yeah, let's not use slurs, please.

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 09:39

Blog owner comment below.

Ask a Manager
April 12, 2018 at 12:19 am

I had a short email exchange with the letter writer, and the person who complained, the HR person, and her boss who wrote her up are all women. (For the sake of being thorough, she also mentioned the coworker who complained is a transgender woman, but I don’t think that changes anything.)

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Teacuphiccup · 14/05/2018 09:38

Where does it say the person who complained was trans?

Ereshkigal · 14/05/2018 09:38

I've read another good one from that site. Will dig it out.

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AngryAttackKittens · 14/05/2018 09:37

(Shrugs) That blog owner is usually pretty good at picking out which letters are legit, but no way to prove either way. Just thought it was an interesting scenario in terms of the current pressure to be super sensitive to all things trans putting HR departments in a position where they probably will make the wrong call sometimes.

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TERFragetteCity · 14/05/2018 09:36

Good grief.

SilverHairedCat · 14/05/2018 09:36

Can you screenshot it please? I can't find it amongst the 500+ mentions of trans on the page!

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