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Are you scared?

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Jeanhatchet · 03/05/2018 07:06

I. Am. Terrified.

The pace and scale of the attack on women and specifically feminists is like nothing I have seen in my lifetime.

Women are being arrested for speaking about being female. Women are insulted with derogatory terms for using words referring to their own bodies and the functions of those bodies. Suspended from their own political parties. Hounded from their jobs. Thrown out of their online spaces and denounced as bigots. Prevented from meeting to speak together. Prevented from hiring spaces to speak to each other. Being forced to say things that aren't provably true and that they really don't believe. Called terms that make them unsure of themselves. Gaslighted into accepting those terms. Made to feel guilty for wanting space where they feel safe and that has always been theirs and protected legally. Feeling uncomfortable for wanting to assert their legal rights. Feeling uncomfortable for saying no to male bodied people. Feeling uncomfortable for being lesbian and wanting only female partners. Feeling unsure if they can speak because they are terrified of upsetting a body of people who seem to have more power in every area of their lives even though those people are a tiny tiny minority.

As I just said elsewhere.... some women can take the temperature of the social/political/cultural water and feel their feet getting hot. I hope other women can feel this happening before women as a sex class is boiled alive. It is already uncomfortably hot for women speaking out. We are risking an awful lot.

I continue speaking out. I will be speaking at events wherever I'm invited about what is happening. Am I scared? Damn right I'm scared. Speaking about my body and beliefs about that body has become a revolutionary act.

Rather than ask if I'm scared that women are under such an organised, aggressive and escalating programme of attack I ask this of women who aren't scared .....why aren't you?

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Pratchet · 09/05/2018 12:16

Squirrel completely agree, and they'd steal whatever we ran to

Ereshkigal · 09/05/2018 12:03

As an aside, I worked out what CIS stands for, when a female uses it:
Compliant Individual Signalling. That is exactly what they are doing, whether knowingly or not. Be forewarned, I will be using that, every time a woman refers to herself or other women in this way. I like to make stuff obvious.

Ooh that's good!

LaSqrrl · 09/05/2018 11:50

Pratchet I cannot see any real difference in the insistence that women call themselves XX, and the older 'cis' BS. It's all about getting women to give up their name, be assigned another one.

As an aside, I worked out what CIS stands for, when a female uses it:
Compliant Individual Signalling. That is exactly what they are doing, whether knowingly or not. Be forewarned, I will be using that, every time a woman refers to herself or other women in this way. I like to make stuff obvious.

xxmarksthespot · 09/05/2018 09:47

tinkletinklelittlebat Not scared. Very angry , very determined and saddened at the reality it's exposed of how much of society truly believes at gut level that women are subhuman, and how skin deep women's rights are. Essentially women may have rights so long as they in no way inconvenience a man.

It is this that gets to me. How easily and gleefully people jump on board with a set of such terrible beliefs that are destructive to women and our rights.

Pratchet · 09/05/2018 07:34

In order to steal 'woman' for themselves, they have to kick out the existing occupants.

Sorry if I missed this, but there are already transactivists telling women they are not allowed to use 'woman' to describe themselves, and instead must use 'XX'.

AngryAttackKittens · 09/05/2018 07:12

I'm pretty sure that comfort is the opposite of what Supermatch would like us to feel.

SarahCarer · 09/05/2018 07:05

Supermatchgame you realise you have just said to me "it isn't all bad news. Others who use the same label as you but fundamentally disagree don't experience the same clash of identities" Should gender critical feminists find any comfort in that?

AngryAttackKittens · 09/05/2018 01:01

(Except at that one demo where one of them was committing arson, they're not that stupid.)

AngryAttackKittens · 09/05/2018 01:00

Nah, they're so confident that they can get away with threatening women they don't bother with masks.

LaSqrrl · 09/05/2018 00:55

And sadly so many females are welcoming cockoos in.

If a masked man, carrying a baseball bat, saying he had broken down and could he use your phone, would you let him in?

Wait, I think I may have accidentally described the Degenderettes...?

PositivelyPERF · 09/05/2018 00:50

It's bait and switch. In order to steal 'woman' for themselves, they have to kick out the existing occupants.

Yes. And sadly so many females are welcoming cockoos in.

AngryAttackKittens · 09/05/2018 00:47

I particularly liked the attempt to chasten us by pointing out that Ditum is sitting firmly on the fence (which she herself has already talked about, and noted that the fact that she gets attacked anyway is telling).

LaSqrrl · 09/05/2018 00:43

It's bait and switch. In order to steal 'woman' for themselves, they have to kick out the existing occupants.
So strange that the existing occupants are objecting...

PositivelyPERF · 09/05/2018 00:40

Fuck off with your cis label! I won’t have a bastardised use of a scientific term used to identify women. The term is WOMEN/WOMAN. We don’t need a label so trans people can take our identity for themselves.

AngryAttackKittens · 09/05/2018 00:39

The backlash comes in many forms.

LaSqrrl · 09/05/2018 00:33

and that includes trans-positive (cis) female feminists

Time for the translator:
and that includes trans-positive (swear word removed) females who think they are feminists.

Pratchet · 09/05/2018 00:21

We don't exclude transitioned women. They are XX and included by biology in womanhood. Transitioned men are excluded, but not by us, by biology. Feminists can't include them in womanhood. Politicians can't. Doctors can't. No one can.

SupermatchGame · 09/05/2018 00:14

You're saying that to have concerns about women's rights is an 'anachronistic strand of trans-exclusionary radical feminism '.

No I'm saying to exclude transitioned women from female spaces and to continually shout 'you're a man', seems to be done by an 'anachronistic strand of trans-exclusionary radical feminism'. Most people don't seem to share that view. Except on here.

In tonights debate Sarah Dittum didn't appear to be doing that btw, she seemed to be saying that trans women and women need to be protected in female only spaces, from men pretending to be transgender to gain access.

AngryAttackKittens · 09/05/2018 00:04

Their worldview is based on an illusion though, and ours is based on reality. I agree that it's an irreconcilable difference, I just don't agree that both sides have an equally valid viewpoint.

SupermatchGame · 09/05/2018 00:03

They are mutually exclusive. Identities collide.

That's a very pessimistic view. There are many women who accept trans women as women and that includes trans-positive (cis) female feminists.

SarahCarer · 09/05/2018 00:03

It is already disappearing. I'd better go to bed and stop sharing the misery.

SarahCarer · 09/05/2018 00:02

They erase our identity or we erase theirs. As I've said before. The trans identity (pink brain blue brain) is in my opinion more in keeping with traditional and mainstream ways of thinking. Feminism is very young by comparison and not at all well established.

SarahCarer · 08/05/2018 23:58

That wouldn't work for them though would it AAK. It isn't their story, their worldview. We cancel each other out

SarahCarer · 08/05/2018 23:56

Not that this is their intention. Their story emerged from a patriarchal culture in the first place as did ours.

SarahCarer · 08/05/2018 23:54

Our story will be submerged as theirs supports the patriarchy

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